Seeking Allah's Mercy
Qul HuwaAllahu Ahud!
Asalamo`Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh,
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The Insecurities Felt Around Some Marriages
- Thread starter Seeking Allah's Mercy
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Assalaam alaikum,
This is a good video and it answers your questions:http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=90106
This is a good video and it answers your questions:http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=90106
Umm Abdullah
Junior Member
Wa aleykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh. We have a saying in my language, which is: ”Marriage is like falling into a black hole. You don’t know what’s on the other side until you ”jump in” so to say. I think it’s only natural to be nervous/fearful, but as you mentioned, one can only do so much. If your sister prayed istakhaarah, and your family believes he is a good man, then the rest is up to Allah. What I mean by this is that we need to have tawakul and trust in Allah’s plan for us, since He is the best of planners. I know this is easier said than done, but one can only be hopeful that it will all turn out to be khayr.
Hajjerr
He is Dhul-Jalali Wal-Ikram
Salam aleykum dear sister
...do not worry if you or your sister will have the chance to marry in strange family, even if a problem is born, out of my experience i can say is much harder to tackle a issue within relatives, there are more impediments and connections that come from past between members that sometimes one can not speak out against them when the need comes. With someone new..is less complicated.
Inshallah Allah will show the way, i am sorry if i expressed something wrong, wish you both pious husbands.
...do not worry if you or your sister will have the chance to marry in strange family, even if a problem is born, out of my experience i can say is much harder to tackle a issue within relatives, there are more impediments and connections that come from past between members that sometimes one can not speak out against them when the need comes. With someone new..is less complicated.
Inshallah Allah will show the way, i am sorry if i expressed something wrong, wish you both pious husbands.
Assalaam alaikum,
Sister,
You write the truth. We get so scared of the people across the street it is easy to understand the over- protectiveness of many parents. However, they are on the extreme end. And in saying that they are holding on to many prejudices that Islam had given directives to avoid.
This goes back to spirituality. The spiritual age of a person has nothing to with the chronological age. Yet, as mere mortals ( I'm stuck on that term ) we want the best. The best is always as close to who I am. I want something that thinks like me, walks like me, and talks like me. That is fear. The peoples of the subcontinent take it to the nth degree.
I was bemused by the whole Panjabi/Urdu thing. In my little world of multiculturalism we would laugh. We have the UN at the dinner table. In my simplistic thinking when you pray does it really matter. Is Panjabi milk better tasting than Urdu milk. Take half a jug of Panjabi milk and half of Urdu, throw in some sugar, ice-cubes and pistachios and everyone will be happy. Throw in a few drops of the Keveda water. Drink be happy and learn how to multiply.
Sister,
You write the truth. We get so scared of the people across the street it is easy to understand the over- protectiveness of many parents. However, they are on the extreme end. And in saying that they are holding on to many prejudices that Islam had given directives to avoid.
This goes back to spirituality. The spiritual age of a person has nothing to with the chronological age. Yet, as mere mortals ( I'm stuck on that term ) we want the best. The best is always as close to who I am. I want something that thinks like me, walks like me, and talks like me. That is fear. The peoples of the subcontinent take it to the nth degree.
I was bemused by the whole Panjabi/Urdu thing. In my little world of multiculturalism we would laugh. We have the UN at the dinner table. In my simplistic thinking when you pray does it really matter. Is Panjabi milk better tasting than Urdu milk. Take half a jug of Panjabi milk and half of Urdu, throw in some sugar, ice-cubes and pistachios and everyone will be happy. Throw in a few drops of the Keveda water. Drink be happy and learn how to multiply.