to the brother who wrote :why everything for women? why not for men?

eminbey

信得過…是我的名字
to the brother who wrote :why everything for women? why not for men?

Brother this was a very inteligent question ,but as you know brother ,in our religion there is no place to misconceptions,you should know that the last prophet of God muhammed peace and blessings be upon him told us that in religion matters, and in things that we shall worship God with, women and men are equal equal equal;but in some Allah's orders and commandments there is a differrence,like you mentioned Hijab,I guess the brothers in the forum suffer as we do all from what the prophet peace be upon him called fitna or examination or Temptation,and the woman in fact is a temptation for the man,what we do notice nowdays is even when a woman converts to islam(praise be to Allah -the almighty true God-) or when a born muslim woman returns back to her religion ,they do not practice it like Allah almighty wants to,we see in the streets some horrible fashions and ways of wearing hijab,some red ,some rose, some yellow and all these colours are attracting in a man's eye,knowing that just being a woman in front of a man attracts him,...
the second issue is:
while we edit some topics about women is that we know the true knowledge that women are the most important pillar in societies,this is my personal belief;a woman means wife,sister,daughter,.. and they are the ones who could educate and raise the future president of that nation,the future scaller,the future scientist,
startng from this point of view we do care about our sisters in faith
and it'll be a pleasure for all of us to read an advice for men wrote fom sisters,...and what is the purpose of marriage if its not completing each other,
selam
 

ahmed_indian

to Allah we belong
:wasalam:,

seems i know that brother :D

you are right akhi but i believe that showing hairs is not so much fitnah compared to women uncovering face.
 

BrotherInIslam7

La Illaha Illa Allah
Staff member
So colorful hijabs are not okay???

:salam2:

From IslamQA

It is not one of these conditions that it should be black. A woman may wear whatever she wants, so long as she does not wear a colour that is only for men , and she does not wear a garment that is an adornment in itself, i.e., decorated and adorned in such a way that it attracts the gaze of men, because of the general meaning of the verse (interpretation of the meaning):

“…and not to show off their adornment…”

[al-Noor 24:31]

This general meaning includes the outer garment, if it is decorated. Abu Dawood (565) narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do not prevent the female slaves of Allaah from attending the mosques of Allaah, but let them go out unadorned.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 515.

It says in ‘Awn al-Ma’bood:

“ ‘Unadorned’ means not wearing perfume… they are commanded to go out like this and are forbidden to wear perfume lest they provoke men’s desires with their perfume. That also includes other things which are forbidden because they provoke desire, such as beautiful clothing and visible and expensive adornment.”

What a woman must do if she appears before non-mahram men is to avoid clothes that are decorated and adorned, which attract the gaze of men.

It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/100):

It is not permissible for a woman to go out in a decorated garment that attracts people’s gaze, because this is something that tempts men.

It also says (17/108):

The dress of the Muslim woman need not only be black. It is permissible for her to wear any colour of clothing so long as it covers her ‘awrah, does not resemble men’s clothing, and is not so tight as to show the shape of her limbs or so thin as to show what is beneath it, and does not provoke temptation.

And it says (17/109):

Wearing black for women is not a must. They may wear other colours that are worn only by women, do not attract attention and do not provoke desire.

Many women choose to wear black, not because it is obligatory, but because it is farthest removed from being an adornment. There are reports which indicate that the women of the Sahaabah used to wear black. Abu Dawood (4101) narrated that Umm Salamah said: “When the words ‘and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)’ [al-Noor 24:31 – interpretation of the meaning] were revealed, the women of the Ansaar went out looking as if there were crows on their heads because of their garments.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.

The Standing Committee (17/110) said: This is to be understood as meaning that those clothes were black in colour.

And Allaah knows best.

Link :- http://islamqa.com/en/ref/39570
 

Valerie

Junior Member
:salam2:

Not all blame should be placed on women. If a man sees a woman who is pretty, instead of continuing to stare at her and blaming her for tempting him, he needs to control himself and look away. If he continues to stare at her, and she's dressed appropriately, the fault lies with him. Even if she isn't dressed appropriately (like in non-muslim countries), he should look elsewhere and take responsibility for his own actions.

So to the question, why not men? Men need as much (and apparently more) guidance as women.

And this should have been a part of the other thread instead of making a new one, because it is on the same topic.

:wasalam:
 

eminbey

信得過…是我的名字
:salam2:

Not all blame should be placed on women. If a man sees a woman who is pretty, instead of continuing to stare at her and blaming her for tempting him, he needs to control himself and look away. If he continues to stare at her, and she's dressed appropriately, the fault lies with him. Even if she isn't dressed appropriately (like in non-muslim countries), he should look elsewhere and take responsibility for his own actions.

So to the question, why not men? Men need as much (and apparently more) guidance as women.

And this should have been a part of the other thread instead of making a new one, because it is on the same topic.

:wasalam:
maybe you're right and I'm wrong
thank you
 

eminbey

信得過…是我的名字
:salam2:

MashaAllah brother, I really appreciate your kindness and humility, it is very refreshing to see.

Also thanks to brother ahmed_indian for posting the initial question.

:jazaak:

:wasalam:
May Allah guide us all
 
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