What is a sister to do

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

I live in an area with a huge concentration of Muslims. However, our masjid is in major need of help. There are politics that I do not wish to know. There are constant complaints about the lack of community.

I have many ideas that are functional to revive the community. I have experience in organizing. I have administrative experience. I have experience in community activization. And I have hands on knowledge in training volunteers. I have worked with youth groups. You get my drift.

However, I am a single woman. I have no voice. The imam has asked me to put my questions and suggestions in writing. I know how that goes. The brothers are simply chauvinistic. They are clueless about anything outside the businesses they run. They run into the masjid and are out. We have so many young Believers who roll their eyes as they are ignored. The last imam who reached the youth left or was asked to leave.

We have no life.

What is a sister to do?

 

[helpinghumanity]

Assalaam walaikum,
.
What is a sister to do?

Wa-alaikumus salam wa rahmatullah

Ma Shaa Allaah sister - dismiss the bureaucracy and just gain the benefit and move on taking one step at a time sister..

 

[kalamazoo]

you have tried very hard
and because of the hereafter;
I am of an opinion that(go behind the stage) and watch the outcome of your teachings.

we have day so night to rest.


struggle is the meaning of life
defeat and victory is in the hands of God.

agakhan.

:salam2:

 

[Aziboy]

W/Salam,

Politics is everywhere today and its pretty sad

However, we are proud that we have people like you who are striving to get the things in place.

My suggestion would be don't give them the suggestion but rather ask them for the corrective measures of the things going on there, give them a bit priority [for the sake of ALLAH (swt)] in things they don't wana get involved.

Also I think there is a need of some activities that could bring all the brothers together under one roof, something which the brothers would like to come up with?

Please see if that helps.

Jazak Allahu Khair

 

[kalamazoo]

thank you brother

it help me a lot not mentioned others; we are not very far
from receiving the command.

 

[Ayyub]

Assalaam walaikum,

I live in an area with a huge concentration of Muslims. However, our masjid is in major need of help. There are politics that I do not wish to know. There are constant complaints about the lack of community.

I have many ideas that are functional to revive the community. I have experience in organizing. I have administrative experience. I have experience in community activization. And I have hands on knowledge in training volunteers. I have worked with youth groups. You get my drift.

However, I am a single woman. I have no voice. The imam has asked me to put my questions and suggestions in writing. I know how that goes. The brothers are simply chauvinistic. They are clueless about anything outside the businesses they run. They run into the masjid and are out. We have so many young Believers who roll their eyes as they are ignored. The last imam who reached the youth left or was asked to leave.

We have no life.

What is a sister to do?

Sister make du'aa for their hidaya. May Allah giude them to the straigth path.

Well your situation could be worse. Where I live you get banned from entering the mosque if you say that they are wrong or don't share the same views as them.

The last one who got banned had a debate with the Board of Directors about if ahlul kitab are kuffar or not.
According to Quran they are but the board of directors had other views.

 

[Ershad]

Sister make du'aa for their hidaya. May Allah giude them to the straigth path.

Well your situation could be worse. Where I live you get banned from entering the mosque if you say that they are wrong or don't share the same views as them.

The last one who got banned had a debate with the Board of Directors about if ahlul kitab are kuffar or not.
According to Quran they are but the board of directors had other views.

Allahul-Musta'an.

That is really sad.

 

[Hard Rock Moslem]

Sister Aapa,

If this world has 100 believing women like you, I think our community will be stronger. I share your grievance sister, I can understand because I've my own bitter experience dealing with masjid.

About two years ago, I asked an imam and the chairman of the masjid for permission to use a classroom at upper level of the masjid which is no one using it for any purpose. I had about 15 reverts who wants to learn Qur'an at that time. To my shock of life, the chairman rejected my request which is alright to me. But I can't digest the reason he gave me which he said "I think the masjid is not suitable for reverts training".

I would have accepted if he gave me any other donkey reason in rejecting my request, but not this one. Alhamdulillah, finally one generous businessman allowed me to use his shop-office which we converted into a mini training centre. And this brother already passed away a couple of months ago. May Allah bless his soul.

 

[Itqan Ullah]

Alhamdulillah, finally one generous businessman allowed me to use his shop-office which we converted into a mini training centre. And this brother already passed away a couple of months ago. May Allah bless his soul.

Innalillahi wa inna ilaihi rajioun,
May Allah (swt) grant him paradise.

 

[Aziboy]

O ALLAH! Let our brother be granted Peace and everyone that are going to follow him till the Day of Judgement ... Ameen ya Rabb Al-alamin !

 

[strive-may-i]

:salam2:

Aapa, often it happens. And it happens because, these roles are seen as seat of power and they stop seeing responsibilities that comes with the role. And this attitude is an ailment, its widespread in all communities, organizations, nations.

Maybe castles of inaction and politics is not your kind of place! There may be other ways of contributing, keep focus on these other ways. Hopefully you will find ways of least resistance, Almighty willing.

 

[strive-may-i]

Sister Aapa,

If this world has 100 believing women like you, I think our community will be stronger. I share your grievance sister, I can understand because I've my own bitter experience dealing with masjid.

About two years ago, I asked an imam and the chairman of the masjid for permission to use a classroom at upper level of the masjid which is no one using it for any purpose. I had about 15 reverts who wants to learn Qur'an at that time. To my shock of life, the chairman rejected my request which is alright to me. But I can't digest the reason he gave me which he said "I think the masjid is not suitable for reverts training".

I would have accepted if he gave me any other donkey reason in rejecting my request, but not this one. Alhamdulillah, finally one generous businessman allowed me to use his shop-office which we converted into a mini training centre. And this brother already passed away a couple of months ago. May Allah bless his soul.

inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajioon

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

Yes, indeed. The path of ease.

I have never understood the politics of any organization. It always seemed like such a waste of time. I love those committees. Nothing ever comes out of them expect the date for the next meeting.

It is disheartening because there are so many simple things to do to bring life back. Our masjid should be hoping every night. We should know the members of the community.

And thank you for helping me understand that my focus has to shift elsewhere. Yes, it is up to the young men who must take over and make changes. Maybe, I'll just inspire the young men, somehow, InshaAllah.

I must thank you brothers. You took my post seriously. It humbles me much to know that you give me so much respect. May Allah reward you immensely.

 

[Aisya al-Humaira]

Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,

Seems like all the replies came from brothers so it's sisters time now.

For an elderly respected sister like you, who have lots of things to share, you can start by making your own halaqah either at home or any place where you can get the sisters together and discuss about life. One important topic that I think Muslims parents (either non-practicing or religious) should be educated about is how to bring up their children Islaamically. 100% the Islaamic way. How to create an Islaamic atmosphere within their house.

A dear friend of mine who knows about the struggle I'm going through with my family said that; even good parents whom some of them happened to have children better and educated than them in the deen, it's not that they (the parents) do not know what the deen says about A or B, that's not always the case but it's because they don't have the will to do so. Even in doing goodness or charity, not everyone can become a good person if it isn't with the will from Allaah alone.

The main point is that, I feel that all the young/old mothers would love to hear you share your thoughts not just about bringing up the kids as they'll be the one who'll shape our future generation when we're not here anymore, but you may discuss about life in general. And because you've said it yourself that families are very important as they are the backbone of the community thus why I feel that it's very important to be educated on this matter.

That's one.

Two, ever thought of writing a book? On a topic that you think is the most crucial topic that needs to be address to everyone. To every Muslims. Men women young old. Your colorful experiences in life; the things that you'd advice youth not to do, things they need to do would be sufficient to write a hundred pages book, yes?

Somehow, Appa, you have the potential to be the person whom the sisters will turn to for advice etc because you have lots to give to them. Like an icon for the Muslimah, inshaa Allaah. It was not meant as a compliment because I know that all goodness comes from Allaah, but it was something I've concluded from my observations.

Wa'alaykummusalaam wa rahmatullah.

 

[Asja]

Assalamu'alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,

Somehow, Appa, you have the potential to be the person whom the sisters will turn to for advice etc because you have lots to give to them. Like an icon for the Muslimah, inshaa Allaah.

Wa'alaykummusalaam wa rahmatullah.

Assalamu allaicum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu

I would just like to correct you dear sister for the mistake you made unintentionally, with the use of word " icon".

In English dictionary word " icon" has following meanings:

a)An image; a representation.
b)representation or picture of a sacred or sanctified Christian personage, traditionally used and venerated in the Eastern Church.
c) An important and enduring symbol:
d)One who is the object of great attention and devotion; an idol:
e)Computer Science A picture on a screen that represents a specific file, directory, window, option, or program.

We should try to refrain ourselves from use of double meaning words InshAllah, and it is correct to say " role model" or some other word with the same meaning.

And Allah knows the best.

 

[Aisya al-Humaira]

Wa'alaykummusalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,

Jazaaki Allaahu khaayraa Sister Asja for the correction.

Irony it is, that I did thought about using the word "role model" but didn't because felt like it didn't suit with the sentence.

What I know is the prohibition of using the word idol since it means like worshipping, but icon, I never knew, so thank you for pointing that out.

 

[Asja]

Wa'alaykummusalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,

Jazaaki Allaahu khaayraa Sister Asja for the correction.

Irony it is, that I did thought about using the word "role model" but didn't because felt like it didn't suit with the sentence.

What I know is the prohibition of using the word idol since it means like worshipping, but icon, I never knew, so thank you for pointing that out.

Assalamu allaicum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu

Wa ijjaki dear sister.It is our duty to correct and advice each others for the sake of Allah.

May Allah bless you.Amen ya Rabb

 

[Aapa]

Asslaam walaikum,

I am a simple and humble woman who is like a mother hen...I want to protect my little chickens.

 

[faaraa]

Wa alaikum assalaam WR WB

Wallah, to be honest, I was thinking just like you few days back (in fact for many years) regarding my own lil village.....

I just thought that it's something all about my village, but now that I understood it's a cancer spread all over the Muslim community... Subhanllah, how sad...

the suggestions of the ladies were given a higher rank during Prophet (PBUH)'s period...
Education, Politics, war, Matrimonial issues, and many main elements of the society were decorated by the ideas and suggestions of the lady sahabiyyaah.
But now a days our administrative system all over the world has gone down and has lost its power and strength...
As ladies we can make Du'a for a dawn and wait. Aunt Aapa I feel proud of you and Allah Azzawajal never created anything without a reason.. same way all your abilities and strength would be implemented one day Insha Allah for the nation......... have faith and Allah is with you
You will have the playground and the day of match is not so far Insha Allah Infact your thought provoking threads are making my days always !! and may be still you are not aware of it May Allah Azzawajal bless u