Min-Fadhli-Rabii
Junior Member
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I have feelings that I am under pressure from my wife (she is 5 years old muslim and I was born in a muslim family). This cause friction in our marriage. The problems are:
I shouldn't watch news where there is a female is not covered. I don't watch news often, when I watch news it will be on the internet as I don't like also watching TV as there is a lot of fitnas. So we have more than 5 years without TV. My problem is, how can you watch news in the west without coming across a woman who is not covering her hair?
She like almost never try to appear attractive to her husband. Meaning to be romantic is not her nature. Rather I hear a lot of spirituality things and no life enjoyment.
She doesn't want me to be very social with non-muslim neighbours because they are non-muslim.
She take very serious on small things on Islam on her husband. I feel like a pressure, and I don't want to do because of feel being forced. She does with good intention.
I have talked to her several times and she listens, but it seems is part of her behaviour which is difficult to change. I have explained to her that every person needs to be given dawah. But your approaches, I think is not right (maybe is right to a certain type of people). The thing is, she is bad giving her husband dawah (I think) and she keeps doing the same thing. One of the many example happen recently, iI have ordered repairs for the house where the external of the house is broken, I told her that I have explained the repair organisation that they don't need to access from inside, they can repair without coming into the house, but I told my wife that the repairs organisation are disorganised, the repair person maybe not aware or told by his employer because they are very organise. It offended her and started saying I shouldn't criticising them, I should look at my self while I did only to alert her that they may come to knock the door and want to get in. Her mother(non-muslim) knows her daughter that she is very strick to herself and to others.
I feel her kind of approaches are ruining the bond of marriage and this ruin long-term relationship. I think her companion should be hard-core muslim husband.
Your advices will be much appreciation even if criticising me.
Jazaka'Allah kheir
I have feelings that I am under pressure from my wife (she is 5 years old muslim and I was born in a muslim family). This cause friction in our marriage. The problems are:
I shouldn't watch news where there is a female is not covered. I don't watch news often, when I watch news it will be on the internet as I don't like also watching TV as there is a lot of fitnas. So we have more than 5 years without TV. My problem is, how can you watch news in the west without coming across a woman who is not covering her hair?
She like almost never try to appear attractive to her husband. Meaning to be romantic is not her nature. Rather I hear a lot of spirituality things and no life enjoyment.
She doesn't want me to be very social with non-muslim neighbours because they are non-muslim.
She take very serious on small things on Islam on her husband. I feel like a pressure, and I don't want to do because of feel being forced. She does with good intention.
I have talked to her several times and she listens, but it seems is part of her behaviour which is difficult to change. I have explained to her that every person needs to be given dawah. But your approaches, I think is not right (maybe is right to a certain type of people). The thing is, she is bad giving her husband dawah (I think) and she keeps doing the same thing. One of the many example happen recently, iI have ordered repairs for the house where the external of the house is broken, I told her that I have explained the repair organisation that they don't need to access from inside, they can repair without coming into the house, but I told my wife that the repairs organisation are disorganised, the repair person maybe not aware or told by his employer because they are very organise. It offended her and started saying I shouldn't criticising them, I should look at my self while I did only to alert her that they may come to knock the door and want to get in. Her mother(non-muslim) knows her daughter that she is very strick to herself and to others.
I feel her kind of approaches are ruining the bond of marriage and this ruin long-term relationship. I think her companion should be hard-core muslim husband.
Your advices will be much appreciation even if criticising me.
Jazaka'Allah kheir
