W'Asalaamu Alaikum
I have just read the links above and I am wondering if Internet mixing should now be included as not being acceptable.
I know of many who who lost their Partners through "Chat Room" contact, (Myself included).
It is not enough to think "It's okay, they are in another place/country". The increased use of web phone video conversation can lead to increased online intimacy to the point where one person may actually travel to the other country to meet and be together.
I often read of such cases in the Media where a Man/Woman has abandoned their Family, partner and children to come to Australia and meet.
However, I can understand the question posed by Najbc. Living in a non Muslim country, a Muslim lives in two worlds. The world of Islam and the secular world. The later being one of suspician and, at times, fear, of anything Islamic. I sometimes feel that being isolationist may well add to that perception.
So what can she do?
Does she be rude, according to non Muslim perception, and ignore this person?
Maybe one of the Muslim Brothers could act as a Brother and speak on her behalf, rather than Judge her actions, and explain to this person what her position should be.
On the other hand could it be at all possible that, because of her Modesty and the help she willingly gives, this boy may well learn to understand islam and be led to the right path. Or at least become a defender of islam.
She is after all under the protection of her Muslim brothers, who have a duty to ensure that no-one is led astray.
Even better, one of her Brothers could sit with this boy as well and help her help this boy?
Anyway it is just a thought.
W'Asalaam
Ibrahim