Assalamu alaikum, brothers and sisters in Islam! I have something to ask you?
What will you do if your close friend turned her back from Islam?
I have this college friend. We are really close with each other. We share common interests. We also pray together. Then something happened. Their family had problems. Then she had a boyfriend. She kept it from me. I think she is just embarassed as a Muslim girl. She began avoiding me so I had no chance of talking to her about it. One day, I got a chance at last. I asked her to talk to me. She just cried and and told me about her problems. It went down to a point where she blamed Islam for allowing men to have multiple wives. She is so affected that her father is marrying another woman. I tried to make her understand but her mind is so clouded. That talk did not work. She is getting far. She stopped doing the salaat. She goes out with men, started to party and all that. I felt sad and kind of responsible for her as a friend. But what can I do. Then worst thing happened. She met this Born Again Christian pastor. And the next thing I know, she is reading Bibles and calling herself a born again christian. If I was shocked, you can just imagine her family's reaction. I was so disappointed not just with her but with me. I felt more guilty. But I cannot really talk to her. Even our other Muslim friends tried but you can just hate her when she explains why she did it. :astag:
So I hope you can share your ideas about what happened. Should I feel responsible and guilty? Should I continue being friends with her? I actually do, but I kind of don't trust her anymore. Did you have same experiences?
What will you do if your close friend turned her back from Islam?
I have this college friend. We are really close with each other. We share common interests. We also pray together. Then something happened. Their family had problems. Then she had a boyfriend. She kept it from me. I think she is just embarassed as a Muslim girl. She began avoiding me so I had no chance of talking to her about it. One day, I got a chance at last. I asked her to talk to me. She just cried and and told me about her problems. It went down to a point where she blamed Islam for allowing men to have multiple wives. She is so affected that her father is marrying another woman. I tried to make her understand but her mind is so clouded. That talk did not work. She is getting far. She stopped doing the salaat. She goes out with men, started to party and all that. I felt sad and kind of responsible for her as a friend. But what can I do. Then worst thing happened. She met this Born Again Christian pastor. And the next thing I know, she is reading Bibles and calling herself a born again christian. If I was shocked, you can just imagine her family's reaction. I was so disappointed not just with her but with me. I felt more guilty. But I cannot really talk to her. Even our other Muslim friends tried but you can just hate her when she explains why she did it. :astag:
So I hope you can share your ideas about what happened. Should I feel responsible and guilty? Should I continue being friends with her? I actually do, but I kind of don't trust her anymore. Did you have same experiences?