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Servant of Allah
:salam2: my dear respected brothers and sisters in Islam, i really need your advice and help here today. there is a person whom i know that is stuck in a difficult situation. and i want your opinions and advice. ok here it is:
There is a friend of mine who was abused when she was young, but was at the age of puberty. a teacher of her's a madarassa teacher was the one who had abused her. she told her older sister and her father, but the father completely wouldn't believe it and accept it and told the girl to stop lying. the older sister thinks that it was unintentional and that the teacher since he was supposed to be "pious" had not done this to her sister. but the sister who was abused, she forgave the teacher- not to his face, but by heart. she has forgotten the whole thing, and left it behind her. she let go of it, although she has painful memories that left a mark. however the situation has increased, that teacher who had abused the sister is now interested in the this girl's older sister. the older sister has told the girl and asked if it was ok that she talk to the teacher for the interest of marriage. well the younger sister has lied, and said that it would be ok. and since she didn't want to her her older sister and didn't want to separate or keep away the two lovers (teacher and older sister) she has said that it was unintentional and that the teacher did what he did by mistake. she said this to make her sister happy. the older sister is interested in the teacher but doesn't want to be with him if the younger sister is not ok with it. and she also to this day believes that it was unintentional. and she's afraid that if she refuses this man whom they think is pious now that they will fall into fitnah. my question: should the younger sister tell the truth, or should she lie to make her older sister happy and so that the two lovers can be together? and you must know that the younger sister doesn't want this guy in her life ever again, and that she is deeply hurt! your advice would be great. asalamu alaykum.
There is a friend of mine who was abused when she was young, but was at the age of puberty. a teacher of her's a madarassa teacher was the one who had abused her. she told her older sister and her father, but the father completely wouldn't believe it and accept it and told the girl to stop lying. the older sister thinks that it was unintentional and that the teacher since he was supposed to be "pious" had not done this to her sister. but the sister who was abused, she forgave the teacher- not to his face, but by heart. she has forgotten the whole thing, and left it behind her. she let go of it, although she has painful memories that left a mark. however the situation has increased, that teacher who had abused the sister is now interested in the this girl's older sister. the older sister has told the girl and asked if it was ok that she talk to the teacher for the interest of marriage. well the younger sister has lied, and said that it would be ok. and since she didn't want to her her older sister and didn't want to separate or keep away the two lovers (teacher and older sister) she has said that it was unintentional and that the teacher did what he did by mistake. she said this to make her sister happy. the older sister is interested in the teacher but doesn't want to be with him if the younger sister is not ok with it. and she also to this day believes that it was unintentional. and she's afraid that if she refuses this man whom they think is pious now that they will fall into fitnah. my question: should the younger sister tell the truth, or should she lie to make her older sister happy and so that the two lovers can be together? and you must know that the younger sister doesn't want this guy in her life ever again, and that she is deeply hurt! your advice would be great. asalamu alaykum.