Peace
my mom says that i cant be a muslim bcos muslims blow up themselves because they believe the Allah will be pleased with them, and they will go to heaven and have many possessions and many concubines
There are many ways to enter paradise. If you do good deeds and obey true God you may enter paradise with God's mercy. You may take possessions and concubines in its literal sense, but what actually you are going to get in paradise, is unimaginable. No human brain can comprehend it. I have also heard many people laughing and saying these people are dying to get 70 hoors (so it appears from their talk that their life was running normal and some one told them about this good news and they just decided to die to get access to hoors). These biased people however, are never soften their hearts and look into reality....even never try to think about the suffering and cruelty they are facing.
As per Mufti Ebrahim Desai: "Generally, suicide bombings is not permissible anywhere, not in the war field or in public places However, the ruling for a specific situation may differ. And Allah Ta'ala Knows Best"
The Qur'an is clear in its prohibition of aggression, which clearly includes the killing of non-combatants: "Victims of aggression are given license [to fight] because they have been done injustice; and God is well able to help them. [They are] those evicted from their homes without reason except that they say, 'Our Lord is God'." (22:39-40).
Also read: "And fight for the sake of God those who fight you; but do not be brutal or commit aggression, for God does not love brutal aggression" (2:190).
If the enemy inclines toward peace, however, Muslims must follow suit: "But if they stop, God is most forgiving, most merciful" (2:192).
Also read: "Now if they incline toward peace, then incline to it, and place your trust in God, for God is the all-hearing, the all-knowing" (8:61).
Moreover, God insists that the Muslims should incline towards peace if their enemies do the same, even though the possibility might exist that the enemy is deceiving them: "And if they mean to deceive you, surely you can count on God, the one who strengthened you with Divine aid and with the believers" (8:62).
Then why do still there are suicide bombings?
It is an act of absolute despair and a very serious stage of the seemingly perpetual conflict.
The Western version of “Islamic terrorism” is itself a perversion of Islam. The imperialist Establishment was responsible for creating the Taliban-fundamentalist, or pseudo-religious fascism, which distorts the image of Islam as a religion propagating peaceful co-existence and tolerance for other faiths. Extremism, or ‘fundamentalism’ is fundamentally oxymoronic in Islam. Further, suicide or suicide-bombers targeting civilians is another violation of the Islamic doctrine, that prohibits suicide. The unleashed squads of ‘Islamic terrorists’ are manufactured by the ‘enemies of Islam’ to trigger a global anti-Islamic backlash and set the stage for war against Muslim states.
Sorry, but the truth is that Christian-Zionist factions are promoting global warfare, particularly targeting the Arab world, where they strive to rebuild the Temple of Solomon in Jerusalem. But behind this pseudo-religiosity and its apocalyptic designs are materialistic imperialist schemes of global domination and the destruction of civilization through a feudal and Satanic perversion of faith. By spreading confusion within and outside the ranks of Islam, through the escalation of worldwide catastrophes and bombings, the string-pullers hope to achieve their ends.
This "eye for an eye" justification contravenes our tradition. Islam is indeed a religion of peace, but it is also not a pacifist religion. Islam does sanction the taking up of arms, as a last resort, in self-defense. Nevertheless, we are not to transgress, even in self-defense.
However, the fact that there is lot of evil done to muslims and can’t be ignored. The Muslim world is fraught with tumult, oppression, occupation, and injustice and due to this, possibility can not be denied that some people may restore to the extream ways (even though it is fully undesirable and unacceptable), thinking it as solution to stop the injustice. Before occupation of Palestine there were no killings, let alone the suicide bombing. Similar is the case of Iraq.