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Love Fishing
Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim
Aauthu billahi minish shaytan nirajeem
Assalamu alaikom wa rahmat Allahi wa burrahktohu,
I am going to sound I guess controversial. Please, remember that there is an addab for dealing with the opposite gender, it is not one of avoidance but one of limiting the interaction to speaking or communicating in a way without gentleness, limiting interaction to what is necessary and if for the purposes of seeking knowledge (who better than a married brother to say if my husband is quiet with me at times, is that normal? etceteras... )
Muhammad(saw) and Aisha(ra) in fact did mix with the opposite gender but maintained the necessary intentions in their heart, in their conduct and are both guides to us alhamdulillah.
Allah tells us to stay on the middle path, this means not introducing innovations or extremes in our religion. Yes, it is wise and good advice to not have soft and personal interactions, however, if a message is being left on an open area for a brother or sister, it is wrong to assume it is sinful or think the worst of them. If we see what is clearly harmful then of course we remind inshaAllah. But we must be careful not to judge people when we do not know their intentions and we should not assume that a sin has been committed when the words we read would be acceptable to us if from the same gender as ourselves, if anything, this should be a proof that the exchange is innocent.
Of course we must guard ourselves, but in doing so, we must guard ourselves from going to extremes.
I hope I have not caused offence to anyone.
Fi amanillah
i forgot to add some stuffs..first of all do not ever compare ourselves with the sahabahs and the wives of the prophet pbuh...(u know what i mean)
and Aishah RA didn't use internet those days and freely chat
with male and use smilies..
talking with a male in public and doing it hidden on chatting or forum is too different...so plz becareful when ur saying the sahabah did so and so and the wives di so and so..if u wanna immitate them..then why dont all the women wear niqab?The wives of the prophet pbuh wore niqab..then why don't all of you do jihad
to urself and and go for the war and save ur muslim brothers and sisters who are suffering in gaza..u cant right..so do not say what the sahabahs and wives did because they are so extraordinary people that Allah is very pleased with and they truly worship Allah in away that these days muslims say-EXTREMIST..