Hello,
Before I introduce the topic, I must say, TTI so far has impressed me. It certainly lives up to the promise of delivering good information regarding Islam; I'm quite pleased that I'm able to understand Islam further, without the confusion of legitimacy brought on from biased opinions (even though I did run into some biased and inaccurate information regarding science here, but I'll ignore that for now
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So on to the topic:
I have a younger sister who is an year younger than me. She converted to Islam about two years ago, and she is happily married to another convert from the states who converted about 8-10 years ago. I should probably point out that she didn't convert for her husband; she states it was because of God. Which is acceptable, I don't have any problem with that. To each his/her own, I suppose.
However, I do have a slight problem with her husband. Before my sister was married, we were somewhat close. She was the first one in my family to know that I am an atheist, and she accepted me entirely; even after she converted.
After she married though, she slowly became quite distant. When I confronted her about it, she sort of beat around the bush about her marriage life being tough. I know that marriage life is tough, I've been married once, and am now a single father. So, I am very well experienced in that field.
The reason why I have a slight problem with her husband, is because when I spoke with her, she mentioned to me that her husband doesn't quite respect the fact that I don't believe in God. He believes that this puts her faith in danger. He claims that each time I visit my sister, or she visits me when her husband isn't around, she always returns to her husband with questions about religion which he can not answer, or has a very tough time answering. I admit that my sister and I quite often do have a discussion about religion, but I don't believe it's harmful.
I reassured my sister that I had absolutely no problem with her being a Muslim. I believe that a person should be allowed to believe in whatever they like, say whatever they like, and do whatever they like; as long as it's not hurting anyone else. But, he is pretty insecure about letting his wife speak to any other man......even though that other man happens to be her older brother. I know.....doesn't make sense to me either. Her husband has put a limit to her visitation, and she is following his word without question, because she insists that it is the duty of a Muslim wife to listen to her husband fully and respectfully.
So, after a long anecdote, I want to know, why is it that a husband has such authority over a woman in Islam? I understand that it's the role of a man to be the alpha male in a family, but even when I was married, I wasn't this strict. I lead my family very well and I was very reasonable.
Before I introduce the topic, I must say, TTI so far has impressed me. It certainly lives up to the promise of delivering good information regarding Islam; I'm quite pleased that I'm able to understand Islam further, without the confusion of legitimacy brought on from biased opinions (even though I did run into some biased and inaccurate information regarding science here, but I'll ignore that for now
So on to the topic:
I have a younger sister who is an year younger than me. She converted to Islam about two years ago, and she is happily married to another convert from the states who converted about 8-10 years ago. I should probably point out that she didn't convert for her husband; she states it was because of God. Which is acceptable, I don't have any problem with that. To each his/her own, I suppose.
However, I do have a slight problem with her husband. Before my sister was married, we were somewhat close. She was the first one in my family to know that I am an atheist, and she accepted me entirely; even after she converted.
After she married though, she slowly became quite distant. When I confronted her about it, she sort of beat around the bush about her marriage life being tough. I know that marriage life is tough, I've been married once, and am now a single father. So, I am very well experienced in that field.
The reason why I have a slight problem with her husband, is because when I spoke with her, she mentioned to me that her husband doesn't quite respect the fact that I don't believe in God. He believes that this puts her faith in danger. He claims that each time I visit my sister, or she visits me when her husband isn't around, she always returns to her husband with questions about religion which he can not answer, or has a very tough time answering. I admit that my sister and I quite often do have a discussion about religion, but I don't believe it's harmful.
I reassured my sister that I had absolutely no problem with her being a Muslim. I believe that a person should be allowed to believe in whatever they like, say whatever they like, and do whatever they like; as long as it's not hurting anyone else. But, he is pretty insecure about letting his wife speak to any other man......even though that other man happens to be her older brother. I know.....doesn't make sense to me either. Her husband has put a limit to her visitation, and she is following his word without question, because she insists that it is the duty of a Muslim wife to listen to her husband fully and respectfully.
So, after a long anecdote, I want to know, why is it that a husband has such authority over a woman in Islam? I understand that it's the role of a man to be the alpha male in a family, but even when I was married, I wasn't this strict. I lead my family very well and I was very reasonable.