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Being single is fun:jumpclap:, but being married your life will complete half Deen. So I enjoy become single but marry later on (Ameen). May all singles and couples get bless from Allah in their life. Ameen.
Note: Marry not only living together and spent rest of your time with your couple, its a huge duties to build your children characters become moslem and marry need team player soul for the husband and wife not only one side power to role the marry.
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Salam Brother
Just a little advice on the comment you made that I bolded.
All marriages will not work out for whatever reasons and I know when it is our parents it hit close to home. But, if you have the attitude it will fail it probably will. Not only in marriage but life itself. Inshallah you can make Du'aa and ask Allah to give you a different outlook on the situation so you do not have to try to avoid marriage for fear of failure. In marriage there our so many blessings I would hate for you to miss out. Inshallah your feelings will be different when you understand its importance of marriage and it half of our deen.
I always have fun with this topic because of all the married people who are like, "just get married," and all the folks who are like, "I'll get married when I die."
Personally, I don't know how easy it is for the rest of you, but I'm having a heck of a time trying to get married.
:salam2:Haha so you are basically saying if we connect the dots, that sisters in the west would get brothers in their late 60 s or 70 by the tiome they finish all their degrees and so on and so forth, akhi even this has advantages and disadvantages it should be cool for gold digging sisters (kidding ).:salam2:
Lol... yes sister, there are advantages in been a single and there are disadvantages of been a single... likewise, there are advantages and disadvantages in been married... however, benefit of been married out weight been single!!!
from what i see:
advantages of been single (disadvantage of been married):
no commitment or responsibility (well, we would get our self busy with other commitments and responsibilities anyway!!!)advantage of been married (disadvantage of been single):
tranquility (as mentioned in Quran i posted in first post), stability, having a partner, half deen complete, following our beloved prophet sunnah, and other benefits that brothers are married (who i know in person) couldn't describe them!!!
as sister amirah said in highlighted part...
LOL, most of the brothers who i keep nagging them about marriage are reverted brothers from the mosque/masjid... :lol: until they start thinking about it and plan for it...LOL
brother TruthSeeker17, "lucky you", you not in front of me, else, you would hear topic of marriage in different ways from me until it is embedded in your brain... lol... just kidding
you not the only one brother Jaffarabduraheem ... all brothers i know been looking for a long time before they found "their match"... most of them went to an "islamic country" to get married since they "couldn't find any" in the west!...
in the west, most sisters, prefer to have a degree and then get married!... probably by the time she finished her degree and start thinking about marriage, she's in her mid or late 20s!... usually, brothers in the west are ready to get married in their mid or late 20s!... from a poll here in TTI, most sisters prefer to marry someone older than they are...brother, in general, would like to marry someone whose younger!... "so a brother would need to wait until he is in his 30s to marry a sister in her mid 20s??? what for???"... lol... YOU SEE THE MISS MATCH...LOL... so most of the brothers go to a "muslim country" and get married from there while some "older" sister have harder time to get married since they spent their younger age pursuing something else!!!.... That's why i try to post those threads about marriage to encourage our brothers and sisters to have marriage as a priority!!!... Education (or anything else) takes time out of a person's life time where it can be done while completing one's half deen (marriage)!!!
above paragraph is what i see from my small box!!!
May Allah help us all to find a righteous partner
:salam2:Haha so you are basically saying if we connect the dots, that sisters in the west would get brothers in their late 60 s or 70 by the tiome they finish all their degrees and so on and so forth, akhi even this has advantages and disadvantages it should be cool for gold digging sisters (kidding ).
I don t see where the problem lies .. why do we have to oppose marriage and education ?especially in the west people can do both and help each other in my view they are not that incompatible,unless too much greed is involved and with all the fitnah that is around i think it is the best alternative ,you don t have to immediately start ordering babies that in fact can wait...
wassalaam
jameel
Asalam o Alykum
ahh well single ,,,,,,brother ,really need to get married ,and soon ,,,INSHA ALLAH
having all sorts of troubles ,hehe
stupid traditions and culture standing in way ,
no worries ,will fight my way through ,,,,
well dont know what else ,
i really hate the stupidity that is in the society ,
Among them is that these sort of topics should actually be retained to to the gender specific clubs. Brothers can encourage brothers and vice versa, but to make a thread with all of them together can present problems.