MzAmerykah
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A Muslim friend of mine, with whom I desired to marry, proposed to a girl 3 days after I expressed this to him. He proposed approximately 4-6 weeks after dating her and told me that he chose her because he's known her twice as long as he's known me and because she is not afraid to be affectionate with him and makes him feel wanted and blah blah blah.
I asked him what her religion was and he told me that her grandparents were Muslims and other members of her family are Hindus, but never addressed her religion. He told me he doesn't care what her religion is as long as she agrees to allowing him to raise their future children as Muslims. Then a week or so later he sends me a message assuring me that he has taken the time to find out that now she plans on reverting. I really do not believe this is in fact the case. I feel that he is telling me that to get me off his case about the whole thing.
I read on Islam Q&A: "Evil actions should be changed by any accountable person who sees them and is able to do something about it. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever among you sees an evil action, then let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart – and that is the weakest of faith.” Narrated by Muslim (70) from Abu Sa’eed."
I reminded him that marrying a Hindu woman is wrong according to Islam (unless she converts beforehand) and asked him if it is really worth risking the fire for this woman and he said it is! He also said its about what he needs and wants and that's it. He further said that I was attacking him and his iman.
Did I do anything wrong by telling him this? Also, should I pray Istikharah? This is not really my problem, but I am upset over this and I feel horrible that he feels I have attacked him. Lastly, he wants to remain friends, but I feel that is inappropriate. I don't want to be rude, but should I just ignore him from now on?
Any advice or suggestions on where to go for advice would be appreciated.
A Muslim friend of mine, with whom I desired to marry, proposed to a girl 3 days after I expressed this to him. He proposed approximately 4-6 weeks after dating her and told me that he chose her because he's known her twice as long as he's known me and because she is not afraid to be affectionate with him and makes him feel wanted and blah blah blah.
I asked him what her religion was and he told me that her grandparents were Muslims and other members of her family are Hindus, but never addressed her religion. He told me he doesn't care what her religion is as long as she agrees to allowing him to raise their future children as Muslims. Then a week or so later he sends me a message assuring me that he has taken the time to find out that now she plans on reverting. I really do not believe this is in fact the case. I feel that he is telling me that to get me off his case about the whole thing.
I read on Islam Q&A: "Evil actions should be changed by any accountable person who sees them and is able to do something about it. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever among you sees an evil action, then let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart – and that is the weakest of faith.” Narrated by Muslim (70) from Abu Sa’eed."
I reminded him that marrying a Hindu woman is wrong according to Islam (unless she converts beforehand) and asked him if it is really worth risking the fire for this woman and he said it is! He also said its about what he needs and wants and that's it. He further said that I was attacking him and his iman.
Did I do anything wrong by telling him this? Also, should I pray Istikharah? This is not really my problem, but I am upset over this and I feel horrible that he feels I have attacked him. Lastly, he wants to remain friends, but I feel that is inappropriate. I don't want to be rude, but should I just ignore him from now on?
Any advice or suggestions on where to go for advice would be appreciated.