Assalamu alaikum,
Im 24 years old, never been in a relationship. Most of my friends have and still are unislamically. I've never talked about marriage to them, marriage regarding myself because I never really think about it to be honest. Anyway yesterday I met up with a close friend who I've not seen since she got married because she moved away. We still keep in touch and stuff. Anyway she was telling me that I should start looking for someone etc. This is the first time I've properly thought about marriage and talked about it.
My problem is that I don't know if I even ever want to get married. I don't even want to have kids. I'm just too selfish and I don't want to have any responsibilities. I just want to live my life the way I want to live. But at the same time I may regret it and it'll be too late. I've been thinking about it since yesterday and say if I decide to find someone, I wouldn't know how to do it. I don't know any potential's and my parents don't know anyone either. I'm only allowed to marry an afghan since I am one but we don't know any. Personally I would marry from any culture but it's not up to me. I definatly do not want to go on those matrimonial websites! Oh and also I'm really picky!!
So it's clear that I am very very confused because
a) I don't know if I even want to get married, at the moment I'm more not wanting to.
b) I can't even imagine having kids (they really annoy me)
c) Say if I do decide I want to marry, I wouldn't know how to go about it.
So anyone here who feels the same or used to feel the same? It would help me so much hearing about your experiences. I don't know who else to ask!
Jazakallahu khayran for listening to me and look forward to reading your replies!
Im 24 years old, never been in a relationship. Most of my friends have and still are unislamically. I've never talked about marriage to them, marriage regarding myself because I never really think about it to be honest. Anyway yesterday I met up with a close friend who I've not seen since she got married because she moved away. We still keep in touch and stuff. Anyway she was telling me that I should start looking for someone etc. This is the first time I've properly thought about marriage and talked about it.
My problem is that I don't know if I even ever want to get married. I don't even want to have kids. I'm just too selfish and I don't want to have any responsibilities. I just want to live my life the way I want to live. But at the same time I may regret it and it'll be too late. I've been thinking about it since yesterday and say if I decide to find someone, I wouldn't know how to do it. I don't know any potential's and my parents don't know anyone either. I'm only allowed to marry an afghan since I am one but we don't know any. Personally I would marry from any culture but it's not up to me. I definatly do not want to go on those matrimonial websites! Oh and also I'm really picky!!
So it's clear that I am very very confused because
a) I don't know if I even want to get married, at the moment I'm more not wanting to.
b) I can't even imagine having kids (they really annoy me)
c) Say if I do decide I want to marry, I wouldn't know how to go about it.
So anyone here who feels the same or used to feel the same? It would help me so much hearing about your experiences. I don't know who else to ask!
Jazakallahu khayran for listening to me and look forward to reading your replies!