kayleigh
Junior Member
So maybe the love you marry for isn't the same as "true love" that comes in time with marriage. I just absolutely disagree with people who say that if you marry for love (or what you think is love) then it's absolutely doomed and it's not going to be successful. Like I said, look back a few generations in the West. Most peoples grandparents or great-grandparents never got a divorce, but their marriages weren't arranged and they married for what they thought to be love.
Divorce rates aren't high because people aren't getting arranged marriages. If that were the reason, you should have had higher divorce rates in the past, though probably not AS high as they are now because it wasn't as socially acceptable to get a divorce. Divorce rates are high for a combination of social factors.
You just simply cannot make the statement that those who marry for "love" will not be happy or will have a marriage that ends in divorce. That is just not true. I'm not saying anyone said that specifically in this thread, but that's the whole point I was trying to get to in all my previous posts in this thread and it's something I've heard from other Muslims before and it's just ridiculous since I think most people in the West could cite at least a few examples of couples they know who have been together 30, 40, 50+ years and who are totally happy and married for "love".
Marriage is about more than love and a successful marriage takes a lot more than love, but some people seem to think that "love" ruins it and that's simply NOT true.
Divorce rates aren't high because people aren't getting arranged marriages. If that were the reason, you should have had higher divorce rates in the past, though probably not AS high as they are now because it wasn't as socially acceptable to get a divorce. Divorce rates are high for a combination of social factors.
You just simply cannot make the statement that those who marry for "love" will not be happy or will have a marriage that ends in divorce. That is just not true. I'm not saying anyone said that specifically in this thread, but that's the whole point I was trying to get to in all my previous posts in this thread and it's something I've heard from other Muslims before and it's just ridiculous since I think most people in the West could cite at least a few examples of couples they know who have been together 30, 40, 50+ years and who are totally happy and married for "love".
Marriage is about more than love and a successful marriage takes a lot more than love, but some people seem to think that "love" ruins it and that's simply NOT true.