thank you so much for your openions ..
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first of all .. thanks for sharing your openions with me and with all of us ..
i'm really happy that all of you interact with me ..
let me tell you why i want to marry a non-arab muslim and it's not non-muslim ..
i'm not seeking for citizinship or anything .. i LOVE my country .. and i've always had ..
i want to marry a non-arab, muslim guy specially american muslim cause first i do love american guys and it's not because how they look it's because how they do treat their women .. not all of them of course but most of them ..
look, i am 24 years old and i do work at ARAMCO hospital in Khobar, alot of ppl came and asked me for marrige but they have one condition ..
GUESS WHAT!!! they want to leave my job .. and when i asked them why .. they said " we don't want our woman to be seen in public " ..
well .. i didn't spend half of my age studying to let some guy come in the end and tell me to quit .. for no LOGIC reason .. only to please his ego .. i'm sorry.
and for those who says that i'm gonna face some problems .. I KNOW ..
but i'm welling to face them all .. if the guy that i'm gonna marry is beside me 100%.
for those who says talk about your parents .. I DID and alhamdullAllah .. my mom thinks that marrying a non arab, MUSLIM guy is some thing beautiful and she is totally ok with it ..
my father on the other hand .. says it's ok for you to marry a non arab muslim guy .. but he doesn't want me to live far away ..
i'm not planning to leave my country .. yes i will live with my husband where ever he is .. but that doesn't mean that i'm abandoned my counry or my family ..
to be honest .. i want to have my first baby " insha'Allah " in my country .. and i want him to spend his early life in my country .. so then he can hear the prayers on time, see how the women dressed and to know my family very well .. this is something i'll discuss with my future husband ..
about how am i gonna meet him .. my brother GB.. i'm not ever ever ever .. gonna let my parents to go out there searching for a guy to marry me not even if he is a saudi .. i'll find him insha'Allah .. i'll keeep praying for Allah to meet someone who'll love me and respects me as i and every woman deserves ...
in the Hospital i work which ARAMCO hospital there are alot of non arab and non saudi guys ALOT .. there is one muslim French doctor who wanted to marry a muslim saudi woman .. and he did .. he actually marreid my best friend .. they are really happy together masha'Allah ..
for those who are saying that marrying a guy who is not from your country gonna bring me alot or trouble and will make me not happy ..
as i said before i'm welling to face my problems and about no being happy .. forgive me to say this thought is WRONG .. you may not be happy in your life but others are Happy .. i know some saudi ladies who are married to non arab guys and they are extremely happy ..
cause they took some time to know each other and respect each other and this is what i am going to do .. i'm not gonna change me he'll have to accept me for who i am just how i am gonna accept him for who he is .. and there is my father who is gonna do alot of reasearch about him and about his background ..
for those who said something about cultures .. let me tell you that our culture and cultural demands are ISLAM .. yes we cover our hair cause Islam told us to .. we fast in Ramadan cause Islam told us to .. we are friendly and nice to our naghbours cause Islam told us to .. we are generous caus Islam told us to .. and the list goes on .. so CULTURE for a Muslim really means ISLAM ..
and as my brother " heartbeat " said .. the muslim doesn't look at as american or saudi or candian he'll be looked at as a MUSLIM .. No matter where he is from .. and i happened to love AMERICAN guys for no abslute obviouse reason ..
at the end .. i wanted to say that i'm really happy that most of you AGREES ..
If anyone want to ask me any thing please feel free to do so even by sending private msgs ..
with best of luck ..
me Nouf