1. no
2. no
its so painful if ur husband will marry or have another wive (wives)... Me myself experience this things,even though my husband not yet getting or marrying for his second wife..but he told me he will marry again ... it makes me cry always,until now...
sister realy u have a lucky if ur Husband saying that he will be marry,u have to know it, there is a lot of men those r hiding what they r doing Fanauudi Billah for that,any way the man has not some things to hide for his wife(wives):salam2:
So, poligamy was practiced during their time and should be practiced now. May Allah .s.vs improve us and make us firm in our deen. and Allah knows best
Assalam,who told you that women back then were stupid?or dou you think that these ones are smarter than the formers? why Are you trying to make them believe so dear brother? i guess you really wanna marry(joke)inschallah but bro come on don`t throw down the arms so quickly it is still doable nowadays ,inschallah,hold the banner bro!the muslims then were more successful then we are it is true!selaamu aleykum
as a 17 year old male speaking it would be every guys fantasy to have a multiple wives but i don think its realistic and workable in todays world.
women in the modern age aren't stupid as they are back then and have found the brains to stand up from being taken advantage ofd. Elhemdulilaah for that...
also my parents just had one of each other and couldn't stop from ripping the other's throats out and got divorced...
it isnt justice for me to speak on this question :would you condider taken a multiple wives? because im too young and havent even got even one wife to speak
final point: its a nice fantasy to have multiple wives but marriage is hard work and after seeing my parents marriage fail i cant see even managing one wife
we selaam
I agree with you on this, sister. If TALAAQ is permissible and halaal it doesn't mean that its encouraged or muslims should like it.Salam
In my opinion, just because poligamy is allowable doesn't mean a person HAS to like it or has to participate in it; the only thing one cannot do is say it is not allowed.
Humbly,
Lana
Assalam, subhanallah, ya hafiz ya sattar ,good luck.salaam,
This thread is pretty entertaining...
I'd like to say that if you're a woman who doesn't want to share your husband, and you think you'd be jealous - there's nothing wrong with that. You're just a normal, well balanced woman.
Allah made it permissible...but we're also supposed to follow the Prophet's (saw) example too. and that was to, for the most part, marry women who were widowed or abandoned or too old. It was because there was no social support system for women in that day, and if they didn't have men to take care of them, the were as good as dead. Which is why I think most men are doing it for the wrong reasons, and why social support systems set up to take care of women who are unable to support themselves is a fantastic idea (but that's a whole 'nother issue...).
Unless you're doing it to take care of a woman with no means of support, then I don't think it's right, and I wouldn't consider that marriage to be a good example of a polygamous relationship, or following Muhammad's (saw) example.
I don't think it should be a goal for any brother to want more than one wife, either, especially for those single brothers who have yet to find ONE wife. Don't be greedy - thank Allah for what you have. absolutely no one NEEDS more than one wife. It is not a necessity for the man - it is a necessity for the woman in certain cases. This law/rule was, in my opinion, put forth for a woman's protection, not for a man's indulgence.
That said, could people please chill out about someone saying women in the past were stupid? It is a well known fact that women in the past were, for the most part, not educated, and didn't receive the same education as their male counterparts. If a family had money to educate their children, boys got the first priority. Islam did change this for the most part and was truly revolutionary when it came to women's rights at the time, but for a long time (and still today) Islam thrives in cultures and communities where people are unwilling to or are financially unable to educate their daughters, and if money is tight, priority still goes to the males. and he is right - women today are more outspoken than women of the past, which I think is the main point he was trying to get across. Now, women aren't forced into it, because they're stronger and more outspoken. I'm sure he didn't mean to say that all women are stupid.
1. NOOOO, I rather be single for the rest of my life than be a second wife.
2. NOOOOOOOOOOO!, Thats just disrespectful man i would never do such thing. What kind of man does that to his wife, if i was the first wife i would divorce the dude for even mentioning it.
Salam sis and bro...
The problem is that how can he have another wife if me his 1st wife he cannot give the things that a husband give to his wife... what i mean is his salary is not enough to have a two wives...he's responsibility to me is not enough but im contented with it,im helping him in all our expenses because i love him...
So, depending how much sisters are satisfied you know? But sometimes sissters want to much dunya now days. Wallahu alem
Assalamu alaykum
Assalam, subhanallah, ya hafiz ya sattar ,good luck.
What do you mean by women are more outspoken nowadays does education mean literacy in your mind ?
Stronger!!!in doing what?getting naked in magazines,jumping up and down in bars and clubs, modelling in what!!!the first martyr of Islam was a women....some of your statements are covering a much brighter spectrum than they should. am afraid....
ps.And when you will have a husband inschallah tell him to chill out,respect yourself,please!!
wassalam
Jameel