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Heros of Islam
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“Prophet Muhammad (SAW) stated "He is not of us who does not have compassion for his fellow beings". It is interesting to note that when it comes to Hadith like this or Quranic quotes dealing with human behaviour, we never stop to think that our children and family members are also our fellow human beings and that these golden rules must also be applied to them”
Very well said by Shahina Siddiqui in her article The positive and negative C'S of Islamic parenting
It is true when we say “our Children are our future”, and naturally every person looks for ways of improving their future, however this statement has remained just a statement and nothing else in society today. It is true that children are the future but we have to also understand that if they are really the “future” then the adults, parents, carers, teachers etc are the ones who are shaping the future.
There was a time when the beloved Messenger of Allah (SAW) had gotten displeased with Al-Aqra ibn Habis when he was informed by him that he had never kissed any of his ten children. Upon hearing that the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) told him, "you have no mercy and tenderness at all. Those who do not show mercy to others will not have God's mercy shown on them."
You can see here that Muhammad (SAW) got angry at him, can you imagine the reaction HE (SAW) would have on the state of the relationship between the parent and a child today. Not only do we not kiss the foreheads of our children, but we have taken a step further on turning away from the disgusting habits of our children.
When a teenager is found smoking the reaction of the father or mother is, “just make sure you’re buying it with your own money”, when he is caught free mixing openly in public, they are happy that the son has girlfriends, and we could see slowly that parents are also starting to accept that their daughters have someone in hope that they will get her married to this person. When the teenager walks out 9 o’clock at night to hang around with the local gang, they tell him not to go, yet once they warn them they don’t do anything else but just sit there saying “I’ve done my bit, I’ve told him/her not to go”. How can we be so neglectful? Has Allah SWT not reminded us of the duties we have (for each family member)? “Has the time not come for the hearts of the believers to be affected by the reminder of Allah?”
East London is just a small example and one in many of the neglected areas by our elders, but there are ways of improving. We MUST stop expecting our children to be everything that we couldn’t be, and lead by examples. We need to make them realise that beneath the feet of the mothers lies Al-Jannah. We need to show them, the tasks of a man in Islam, the duties one must fulfil as the breadwinner of the household, but most of all as the naked slave of Allah, and this is exactly what we are Slaves who naked and the only way we can cover ourselves is by clothing ourselves with imaan.
http://www.themodernreligion.com/family/family_c.htm
http://islamicmovement.wordpress.com/
“Prophet Muhammad (SAW) stated "He is not of us who does not have compassion for his fellow beings". It is interesting to note that when it comes to Hadith like this or Quranic quotes dealing with human behaviour, we never stop to think that our children and family members are also our fellow human beings and that these golden rules must also be applied to them”
Very well said by Shahina Siddiqui in her article The positive and negative C'S of Islamic parenting
It is true when we say “our Children are our future”, and naturally every person looks for ways of improving their future, however this statement has remained just a statement and nothing else in society today. It is true that children are the future but we have to also understand that if they are really the “future” then the adults, parents, carers, teachers etc are the ones who are shaping the future.
There was a time when the beloved Messenger of Allah (SAW) had gotten displeased with Al-Aqra ibn Habis when he was informed by him that he had never kissed any of his ten children. Upon hearing that the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) told him, "you have no mercy and tenderness at all. Those who do not show mercy to others will not have God's mercy shown on them."
You can see here that Muhammad (SAW) got angry at him, can you imagine the reaction HE (SAW) would have on the state of the relationship between the parent and a child today. Not only do we not kiss the foreheads of our children, but we have taken a step further on turning away from the disgusting habits of our children.
When a teenager is found smoking the reaction of the father or mother is, “just make sure you’re buying it with your own money”, when he is caught free mixing openly in public, they are happy that the son has girlfriends, and we could see slowly that parents are also starting to accept that their daughters have someone in hope that they will get her married to this person. When the teenager walks out 9 o’clock at night to hang around with the local gang, they tell him not to go, yet once they warn them they don’t do anything else but just sit there saying “I’ve done my bit, I’ve told him/her not to go”. How can we be so neglectful? Has Allah SWT not reminded us of the duties we have (for each family member)? “Has the time not come for the hearts of the believers to be affected by the reminder of Allah?”
East London is just a small example and one in many of the neglected areas by our elders, but there are ways of improving. We MUST stop expecting our children to be everything that we couldn’t be, and lead by examples. We need to make them realise that beneath the feet of the mothers lies Al-Jannah. We need to show them, the tasks of a man in Islam, the duties one must fulfil as the breadwinner of the household, but most of all as the naked slave of Allah, and this is exactly what we are Slaves who naked and the only way we can cover ourselves is by clothing ourselves with imaan.
http://www.themodernreligion.com/family/family_c.htm
http://islamicmovement.wordpress.com/
JazakaAllaah, very true. Parents need to practice what they preach or at least be good examples themselves if they want decent children. May Allaah guide our parents.