Orginally posted by weakslave
I am not sure that everything said here is in accordance with the Quraan and the sunnaah.
First of all Assalamu Allaicum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu
Dear brother I think you should read again all replys from the begining InshAllah, to see that brothers and sisters were not talking by their own wishes but with proves based on Quran and Sunnah. Please read the fawhas that have been posted as our duty is to seek knowledge to avoid to be misguided.
Please read to the end before judging what I am about to say.
Dear brother this is exactly what you should also do. Read all replyes very carefully becouse only on that way we can see where did we made mistakes or what is that we did not understod well. This is all for the sake of good and understanding the situations like this where husband is preventing his wife to visit her relatives without reason, knowing it if forbiden from Allah for him to do that Asstagfirullah.
- Men are not perfect, you will not find a man who is like the Prophet
Prophet Mohammed s.a.w.s. is the best of all mankinds. He is examle to all man and women. His marriage life is example to all of us. The way how he respected people, and how he thought man to act toward every woman, respecting them. Prophet Mohammed s.a.w.s never said that "husband" has the right to act against Allahs comands Asstagfirullah.
- Preventing a woman from her own desires to visit her family is not a sin.
I apologise than what it is??? Brother and sisters stated above that it is a "sin". They even broght prove for that. Dear brother we should not talk without knowledge, becouse in these cases silence is better. Husband has no right to prevent his wife to visit her familly, becouse in this case he is takeing her rights away, the rights given to her from Allah and people. But the most important from Allah. And Allhmadullilah that every woman today is standing for her rights and keeping them carefully, becouse if she does not do that she will lose the position that Allah gave her makeing her equal in all rights togeter with man.
How can it be when it is something she desires. So this prevention is not a sin of itself
Wa la hawle we la quwete illa billahi
How can you know what other people feel. How can you know that she wants that what are you declaring to be "her wish"??? And what if that is not her wish??? Than husband is comiting a sin. People need to learn how to respect each other and have dialogue, as that is the only way how they can learn from each others and choose the best for each others.
- Like some sisters mentioned here already, the man is the leader figure in a marriage relationship. He must be obeyed at all times even if the reasoning is not apparent or it appears to be unjust. As long as he is not asking of the wife to do something that Allaah has commanded against, then there is no reason to disobey him
Yes exactly, you have said it by yourselfe. If husband sais "you can not visit your relatives, and I do not need a reason to prevent you, becouse I am the "leader figure", and we already know that Allah is forbiding this action, in this case wife has the right to complis her "rights". What means she can visit her familly.
Her husban needs to understand that she is responsable to her parents. Who raised her, who feed her, who gave her "life"??? That now she does not complish her obligations to her parents becouse "her husband" has gave himselfe the rights which do not belong him.
With all of that said, one can find many valid reasons for a husband preventing his wife from visiting her family. There are also invalid reasons, but again men are not perfect and don't always make perfect judgement.
When we make mistakes, our obligations is to correct them. Imagine how the world would be when we all would say "Well I am sorry I am not perfect, I make mistakes and I do not need to correct them".
The end goal should always be one: to please Allaah SWT. To please Allaah SWT. To please Allaah SWT. Not to see our family because we miss them, not to go against the wishes of our guardians - because this is a clear sin -, and not to always do what we simply desire.
Yes exactly dear brother. What means that we first obey to Allah and not to husband. SubhanAllah He is.
Example of a situation: Wife seeks permission from husband, husband refuses, wife does not get upset, she is thankful to Allaah for everything that has happened to her and she asks Allaah swt to guide her husband to grant her the ability to visit her family. Without a doubt, if she is able to do this, she is a great person in the sight of Allaah swt.
I think that we should avoid creating some examples that shoud be prove for our subjective opinion when the truth is completaly different. In this case wife should pray to Allah to guide her husband but in the same time to stand proudly for her rights like Proud Muslimah.
An indentical situation. A woman living with her parents (father), she wishes to go visit her sister or her friends or whoever. We assume they are all righteous and pious people of course. Her father denies her the request. Is that a sin? Of course not. His decision is not for his daughter to leave the house at this time for this purpose. To go against that decision is a clear sin.
Muslim father, pious man would never never forbid one daughter to visit other daughter and esspecialy in the case when we are talking about Muslims.
Allah sais in Holy Quran:
[Nisa 4:1] O mankind! Fear your Lord Who created you from a single soul and from it created its spouse and from them both has spread the multitude of men and women; fear Allah in Whose name you claim (your rights from one another) and be mindful of your blood relations; indeed Allah is always seeing you.
Prophet Mohammed s.a.w.s. said:"Shall not enter into jannah who broke contact with his relatives" (Muttefekun alyhi).
May Allaah guide all the men
Ameen. May Allah guide us all
And Allah knows the best
May Allah forgive me if I have said something wrong. It was not my intention to do so.
EDIT: And what if husband forbids his wife to pray saalah, would you still say that he has right on that brother??? Because his wife loves Allah and she wants to pray,and because he is not alowing her he is hurting her feelings, so it means he is sinning. It is the same with visiting her family, because wife loves her family and she wants to visit them, so he is sinning for preventing her to visit her family.
And also to reapat once again, there is no pious Muslim man who would prevent his wife to visit her family, neither thier is pious Muslimah who would prevent her husband to visit his family.
Healthy Muslim family is the key for healthy Islamic society, that should be built on equality.
Wa Allaicumu Sallam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu