Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah my dear brothers and sisters,
I just want to say that I think we are getting out of hand here. I am personally not married, but I think that this dicussion has gone far enough.
As my mother would say, "This is a sensitive topic, especially for women"
I concur, it is a senstive topic. It is also true that it is Allah who makes the limits for the people, and He knows what is best. If He has judged that this is fair, right and correct, then we as people have nothing more to say.
We are not believers till we accept Allah and His decrees in our heart with full grace and submission, "Sam'ina wa 'At'ana" - "We hear and we obey" .... that is how we should be. Even if we believe that having more than one marriage is not for us we cannot get hot-headed and say things in the heat of the moment.
As a personal fact, I believe in some cases it is needed, but in most there are plenty of other men to marry the women then there is no need, of if the man cannot do justice. As in for the support of divorced women, widows, orphans etc, many times they are lacking their help, and the only way in which Islaam opens a good door is by marriage, if they're family is not able to help any longer.
A muslimah is protected, covered, and supported by her family and communtiy all the time, and thus the bondage of marriage is many times needed. Again this part is my view.
However, Allah's commands are with His infinite knowledge and wisdom, so lets leave it at that. You dont feel comfortable, write it in you nikah, if you've not done that, approach the topic with the one you live with, etc etc. And always remember the other ayah in the Qur'aan as well in which it says, "Allah does not burden a soul with more than it can bear" So it's He who knows if we could take it or if we could not, and what people can and are meant to bear and what the reward for each is in doing thus. After the commands of Allah, there's nothing to discuss, I'm sorry.
Wa Allahu 'Alem
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wasalam