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[Muslim_Gurl]

Asslamu alaikkum

I don't know how to start I have so manyy problems in life, I don't even know which one I should start off with My parents have litterly drove me crazyy!! :shymuslima1: I know I know I complain TOO TOO TOO much about them but they just won't let me do ANYTHING!! I have to be in front of their eyes 24/7!!! SubhnaAllah They've taken everything away from me They won't even let me go to school now...why? because I enjoy it And thats what they don't want I'm crying as I write this .....

And now they won't even let me on TTI The only family I really have SubhnaAllah And when I try talking to them they just turn away Won't even let me speak Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh :shymuslima1::shymuslima1: SubhnaAllah what can I do now??? Just stay home and cry for the rest of my life?!?! I really don't wanna leave TTI because its the only family I have That actually cares and LISTENS what I have to say All my parents do is try finding some way to make my life worse than it already is And curse me 24/7 ....

SUBHNALLAH!!! :shymuslima1::shymuslima1: Please brothers and sisters :shymuslima1: I really need your pious duas Please Please I hope thats not too much to ask for eh? I'm so so so sorry!! I know I complain too much But I have no one else to complain to except my TTI bros and sisters, and Allah of course I'm really really sorry eh? Now I bet everyone here is annoyed of me here too I'm sorryyy........ Uhhhhhh I just can't wait for the day Allah takes me back.........

 

[slaveofAllah88]

aslam o aliakum sis

NO one is annoyed u can share what you like
seriously i know ur problem and all i got is dua May ALlah (swt) guide ur parents -ameen

I really dont know wat to do u r so young and u cant even go anywhere

 

[Hard Rock Moslem]

I'm really not sure why your parents doing all this. It is strange that your parents stopping you from going to school. We will certainly make du'a for you sister, but I would like to suggest pls have four-eye discussion with your parents and resolved this once and for all.

 

[Muslim_Gurl]

I'm really not sure why your parents doing all this. It is strange that your parents stopping you from going to school. We will certainly make du'a for you sister, but I would like to suggest pls have four-eye discussion with your parents and resolved this once and for all.

Akhi, they won't even let me say a WORD

 

[Muslim_Gurl]

aslam o aliakum sis

NO one is annoyed u can share what you like
seriously i know ur problem and all i got is dua May ALlah (swt) guide ur parents -ameen

I really dont know wat to do u r so young and u cant even go anywhere

Walaikumu salam

I HOPE no one is annoyed Thanks Ameen to all your duas

 

[Hard Rock Moslem]

Akhi, they won't even let me say a WORD

I feel sad for you, but why?

 

[Muslim_Gurl]

I feel sad for you, but why?

No don't feel sad, I don't want you being sad cuz of me.

I really dont know whyy Everytime I try saying something, they just tell me to leave

 

[almanar]

assalamualaikum sister.

Dont worry. ALLAH with u. When you are sad ALLAH is with u. Use this chance to remember HIM a lot and supplicate and ask HIM anything. Maybe ALLAH is preparing something sooooo special for u tomorrow.
You are not alone. There are so many people have the same or bigger problems than that.
Just hold on sister and make du'aa. may Allah help you out and be pleased with u.

 

[palestine]

Do you have any other relatives near your area that you can live with? if so i would advice that you go and live with them. otherwise call your relatives and let them know what your parents are putting you through. they should intervene and talk to your parents or help resolve this situation. take care ukhti. and please, no matter what happens, don't kill yourself due to the hardship you're bearing. inshaAllah you'll be successful in the end.
take care ukhti.
wasalamu 3alaykum.
and i love you very much. pm me and send me your email if you don't mind.
-Ni'mah

 

[ProudToBeaMuslim]

Salamalikum sister,

I dont know in what context or state of mind you are writing this, but I do know something for sure. That you are supposed to obey your parents in EVERY matter except disobedience to Allah. I know I can't judge exactly in what situation you are in, but from my own experience of such fights with my parents let me give you some advice.

I always used to wonder why in the world did my mother shout. I would be sitting there doing nothing, and all of a sudden there will be a hurricane of words fired at me. I was confused. Why?
Only recently did I realize the actual reason they SHOUT: to be heard. I never really paid proper attention to what she was telling. I only knew that she was shouting. I never did what she asked me to. I never heard.
Be honest with yourself. Parents, especially muslim parents, can't be cruel to their children all of a sudden. What was the actual reason they are punishing you like this?

You say they never let you speak. Then show them what you have to say through your actions. Control your anger. Bear every hurtful word they say. Be eager and on alert for any help you can do them around the house. They'll definitely notice the changes! and Insha Allah, allow you to speak. It'll take time, but if you are extremely nice to them whenever they are extremely hurtful, they are humans too, they cannot be cruel to a child who gives them this much respect.
Shutting everyone out and staying in your room is not a solution. Nor is sitting on the computer, even if it's TTI. You might become hypocritical. It's sort of like missing a salah because you have to post a reply to a Salah doubt!
"And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be Dutiful to your parents. And if one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, Say not to them a word of disrespect ("Uff"), nor shout at them, But address them in terms of honour. And lower to them the wings of submission and humility through Mercy, And say: My Lord, have Mercy on them, as they did bring me up when I was young" Al Isra, 23-24.

Tell me how it goes. May Allah make it easy for you to do the right thing. ameen.
take care and
Salaamalaikum.

 

[IHearIslam]

Salamau Alaikum beloved sister!

HUG sister! I LOVE U SO SO SO SO SO SO So MUCH!!!!

You know I was thinking about your grenies last night, how cute
and you saying we're annoyed? what you mean sister, dont you know we're ONE BIG family who are here for another. Supporting eachother through thick and thin? always share your problems with us dear lilttle ms.Sunshine
even though we wont be able to provide a shoulder for you to cry on or a hug to give to comfort you, we'll be making duas for you! and duas are more powerfull than anything else in the whole world! so keep your patience,and remember Allah ONLY tests those He LOVES. *Hardships are hidden blessings from Allah, smile through them and you'll find your comfort with Allah the all wise, the most kind!*
:tti_sister: ya Allah make things easier for my beloved sister, give her the strength to carry on, be her helper in all situations, forgive her, and through these hardships elivate her rank in jannah so she can be closer to you in the hereafter, ya rabana ease her pain and let her parents understand her, oh Allah always keep her happy and give her that which she asks of you.ameen,ameen,ameen
take care my sweeet sunshine
rememeber, this world is not always so smooth to walk upon, it's rocky and somtimes we just fall down deep, with Allah we'll get the strength to get up and get going inshaAllah
YOU SO MUCH FOR ALLAH'S SAKE MY SUNSHINE!
mwaaaaaaaaaaahsss and huggiiieess your way

 

[Shamim56]

Assalamualakum Sister,

Make struggle sister, for Jannah is your ultimate goal.

I forget but someone told me a quote that said
"When a person looked at hellfire, it was filled with pleasures, he then looked at Jannah, and it was filled with hardship, Although it is the comeplete opposite if you make it inside any of them"

Do as many things for your parents as you can, for example when you see them drop a little bit of water, go and get a towel and wipe it. It will show them a great amount of respect if you do this for a while. Make it noticeable over time, and if it still goes on, Maybe you need to see a Shiekh or somehow get to the root of the problem of why they are treating you like this. I also go through hardship with my parents but i found out when i do as im told right away and help them they are very nice to me.

May Allah help you with your struggle. Ameen

 

[hassana elkoussi]

Salam alaikum dear sweet sis,


I'm honestly so sorry for you and don't know what to say more than what's already been said. You definitely know the reason why they're doing this and i assume it has to be something for your good. In this case, you have to obey them, try to avoid the cause of the problem and to calm them down.
Then try to to be as reasonable as much as you can as to discuss things calmly and without any yelling so they may accept listening to you. If u feel that this is not gonna work with them seek somebody's help - a relative or a friend they like and trust.

You know how much i love you, but i don't quite understand what's going on, so can't give any better advice. If u feel like talking to me or sending a PM, feel free, you're such a dear sister to me.

May Allah guide you and your parents to what pleases Him. :tti_sister:Ameen

 

[a_stranger]

Asslamu alaikkum

I don't know how to start I have so manyy problems in life, I don't even know which one I should start off with My parents have litterly drove me crazyy!! :shymuslima1: I know I know I complain TOO TOO TOO much about them but they just won't let me do ANYTHING!! I have to be in front of their eyes 24/7!!! SubhnaAllah They've taken everything away from me They won't even let me go to school now...why? because I enjoy it And thats what they don't want I'm crying as I write this .....

And now they won't even let me on TTI The only family I really have SubhnaAllah And when I try talking to them they just turn away Won't even let me speak Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh :shymuslima1::shymuslima1: SubhnaAllah what can I do now??? Just stay home and cry for the rest of my life?!?! I really don't wanna leave TTI because its the only family I have That actually cares and LISTENS what I have to say All my parents do is try finding some way to make my life worse than it already is And curse me 24/7 ....

SUBHNALLAH!!! :shymuslima1::shymuslima1: Please brothers and sisters :shymuslima1: I really need your pious duas Please Please I hope thats not too much to ask for eh? I'm so so so sorry!! I know I complain too much But I have no one else to complain to except my TTI bros and sisters, and Allah of course I'm really really sorry eh? Now I bet everyone here is annoyed of me here too I'm sorryyy........ Uhhhhhh I just can't wait for the day Allah takes me back.........

Dear young sister

Try to understand your parents, they love you more than anything else...... you are part of them (I am a mother , and i know feelings of parents) ,Allah swt created you in the womb of your mother , she gave birth to you with the worst kind of pain any one can imagine, still the happiest moments for her were when you smiled .....she fed you , took care of you , watched your fist steps , and words with joy...........and you where growing up ,step by step you were moving away from them ........they lost the joy of taking care of you ......you were exploring all that is around you but never tried to understand those two old people who were waiting for something in return for all that they have given.......I know you are a good girl .....but i know how parents feel....that is why Allah swt told us in Quran to worship him and do good to parents .....this is very important issue ....more important than school and tti .....i know you enjoy them more but try to do good for the sake of Allah swt ........talk to your parents , sit with them , share with them your feelings, help your mother.......smile in their faces ......i am sure things will be better ........Try to please Allah swt then your parents ......You will succeed.

 

[BrotherInIslam7]

You say they never let you speak. Then show them what you have to say through your actions. Control your anger. Bear every hurtful word they say. Be eager and on alert for any help you can do them around the house. They'll definitely notice the changes! and Insha Allah, allow you to speak. It'll take time, but if you are extremely nice to them whenever they are extremely hurtful, they are humans too, they cannot be cruel to a child who gives them this much respect.
Shutting everyone out and staying in your room is not a solution. Nor is sitting one the computer, even if it's TTI. You might become hypocritical. It's sort of like missing a salah because you have to post a reply to a Salah doubt!
"And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be Dutiful to your parents. And if one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, Say not to them a word of disrespect ("Uff"), nor shout at them, But address them in terms of honour. And lower to them the wings of submission and humility through Mercy, And say: My Lord, have Mercy on them, as they did bring me up when I was young" Al Isra, 23-24.

Tell me how it goes. May Allah make iot easy for you to do the right thing. ameen.
take care and
Salaamalaikum.

:salam2:

First of all, I am very pleased with what the sister has written. I couldn't have put it better. Please read what she wrote very carefully ^^ .

............... As for my advice..

Just persevere dear sister. Be kind to your parents and serve them, no matter how they treat you. Eventually when you are nice to them and serve them, you will see a change in them Insha'Allah tallah. And even if it doesn't change, we still have the obligation to treat our parents nicely and serve them.

Any do not despair, nor pity yourself. Life is a test and we can't run away from it. The intelligent way is to think about it and face it bravely. No one has ever been successful in running away from life and life's problems, so why try going that path ?

If you keep on thinking about :- 'how horrible/tough my life is' , 'why is this happening to me only ?', ' Why am I being treated so awfully?' .. then you will end up only getting depressed and feeling more awful, dear sister.

Instead face the test bravely and serve your parents, struggle against yourself and try not to react to their shouting (and whatever you face from them). This in itself is a great struggle and have no doubt that if you do the right things, that you will be surely rewarded for it Insha'Allah.

Before I end, I want to tell you that time always passes, good times or bad ones. If you view this as a 'bad time' for you, remember that it won't be like this forever. Time passes and situations change. Nothing stays the same forever. So be positive and wake up with a smile.

Wake up with the feeling of 'Allah swt has granted me life for another day so that I can worship him and seek his pleasure (and do more good deeds) and he is also going to test me'. Have this at the back of your mind and Insha'Allah you will be fine.

I will remember to include you in my duas Insha'Allah.

O.. and don't you forget to ask for the greatest help.. the help of Allah swt. .. You should yourself make duas to Allah swt to make it easy for you Insha'Allah especially in sujood. Insha'Allah you will find so much peace in doing it.

Take care dear sister .. and don't forget to smile

Wasalaamalaikum waa rahmatullahi..

 

[allah is with me]

ya allah! i cant believe it....
so sad sister...why?..why are they doing this?........
parents cursing thier daighter?...subhanallah!..
this is too,too,too bad..cant believe it...plz dont cry sister...
ill pray to allah that you get a beautiful life as it was before...but plz sister love your parents even if they curse you.....

 

[ahmed_indian]

Asslamu alaikkum

I'm really really sorry eh? Now I bet everyone here is annoyed of me here too I'm sorryyy........ Uhhhhhh I just can't wait for the day Allah takes me back.........

why we will be annoyed? we are fortunate that you find us helpful to share ur burden.

if Allah will take u back, we'll loose one good muslimah on the face of the earth.

as ur parents are not listening to u, i dont know wht to advice u.
keep making Duas, Duas, Duas that Allah keep u on right track and open ur parents hearts.

inshallah, soon u'll give us some very good news.

 

[Muslim_Gurl]

JazakaAllah for your kind words everyone

But there's one thing I forgot to mention....

My parents don't want me being religious And thats the reason why they are treating me this way

 

[BinKhadija]

JazakaAllah for your kind words everyone

But there's one thing I forgot to mention....

My parents don't want me being religious And thats the reason why they are treating me this way

Asslam'u Alykum Wa'rehmatullah,

If that's the case, as you know following their command isn't allowed; the only acception. So, yeah, do your all religious daily rituals as you want to do, AND along with that as few have already said that try to be a better daughter. Being a practising Muslim and following his Sunnah attracts people towards us all. Their these negative opinions would be faded in their minds once you really make them think after starting practsing Islam you have become a better person!

They might then realise the importance of following Islam practically themselves, Insha'Allah.

 

[Muslim_Gurl]

Asslam'u Alykum Wa'rehmatullah,

If that's the case, as you know following their command isn't allowed; the only acception. So, yeah, do your all religious daily rituals as you want to do, AND along with that as few have already said that try to be a better daughter. Being a practising Muslim and following his Sunnah attracts people towards us all. Their these negative opinions would be faded in their minds once you really make them think after starting practsing Islam you have become a better person!

They might then realise the importance of following Islam practically themselves, Insha'Allah.

Walaikumu salam Warahmatullah

My parents are actually religious themselves, but they tell me to stop because they say I'm too young