Interesting Day

[Frank_H_Smith]

As Salamu 'Alaykum,

Alhamdulillah!

I had a very interesting day. This morning I took my wife to her doctor appointment which is about forty miles from our home. On the way home, in a remote area there was an old man hitch-hiking (Requesting a ride by putting out his thumb.). It was in an area where he had a better chance of freezing than getting a ride;so, despite my wife's objections, I pulled over and offered him a ride. He was going to the town we lived in and was very appreciative of the ride. The man was going through a hard time in his life and was obviously holding on by a thread. When we dropped him off, he thanked us and my wife admitted that it was the right thing to do. (The only bad thing was that the old man turned out to be six years younger than me! lol)

Then, this evening I went to a local store and the people were all trying to get to the check out line first. I took my place in line behind a middle aged guy. He had obviously forgot something and left the line. I should have moved up, but I wanted to see what he did when he came back and since there wasn't anyone behind me, I saw no harm. Sure enough, he returned and stepped back into the place he had left without any acknowledgment that he had left the check out line and did additional shopping. At certain times in my past this would have provoked a response from me, but I just laughed to myself and allowed him to disregard common courtesy.

After I checked out, a man approached me and asked me if I was driving. I told him yes and he asked if I would be so kind as to drive him to a store six miles away to get a microwave oven. I had nowhere else to be; so, I said sure (Thinking that perhaps there was a bulletin board that I didn't know about that posted individuals willing to give free rides.

I was interested to see how this turned out. The man got his microwave oven and handed me twenty-five dollars. I asked what that was for and he said it was for giving him the ride. I told him it wasn't necessary, but he was adamant that I take the money.

Naturally, when I showed my wife the twenty-five dollars, she immediately snatched it from me and told me that it was a blessing from Allah for the good deed I had done earlier in the day. I agreed that I believed all the circumstances seemed to indicate that she was correct and asked her why she got to keep the money. She told me because I loved her and wanted her to have it. We joke like that often. It is kind of a game we play where I show her money and she grabs it and I act surprised and shocked.

Anyway, there is a verse in The New Testament that reads as follows:
Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

I hope to gradually find sayings, Insha Allah, in Al Quran, and from the Hadith and Sunnahs because it is a pleasant way of thinking and speaking to think and speak in "Scriptures."

I never do good deeds for rewards for I know that Allah will provide all my needs. I only share this story to show that even the simply things can be seen to glorify Allah if we take time to see.

 

[believers_path]

Jazakallah brother,for sharing
you talked abt money grabing of your wife its so funny,it made me laugh and so common,and i tell you usually i do this often with my brother and dad:lol:

 

[Latifabonu]

:salam2:
thanks brother 4 sharing this story May Allah bless u and ur wife Ameen !!!:tti_sister:

 

[hana*]

that was a nice post to read: I liked how you said that perhaps there was a bulletin offering free rides lol thats hillarious

I agree with what you said about not taking money from good actions that we do, for Allahs sake e.g teaching Quran, Islam etc as our reward is with Allah. However, as your wife said, that was for the previous favour..

I was just wondering, how did your wife take your shahadah? inshAllah she is okay? im assuming so based on what you said in the post. may Allah guide her to Islam too.

 

[Frank_H_Smith]

I was just wondering, how did your wife take your shahadah? inshAllah she is okay? im assuming so based on what you said in the post. may Allah guide her to Islam too.

As Salamu 'Alaykum, Sister Hana,

Shokran for asking. Unlike myself, my beautiful wife (I refer to her inner beauty even though she is blessed with outer beauty as well.), has a "child like" belief in Allah (The God). She believes that there is only one God and that He created all that is and that He loves her. She believes in the Bible, but she prefers to read the Psalms and Proverbs. I don't think that she ever believed that Jesus was "God the Son." My understanding of how she believes is that Jesus was the promised Messiah.

Unlike most people, she concerns herself with living a good life and being a good person.

There are a few issues created by the New Testament. For example, Paul wrote that a woman's hair is for a covering and should not be cut. Unfortunately, she believes that as long as she lets her hair grow she doesn't need any head covering because her long hair is her head covering. Over the years we have known a few Christian women who have worn head coverings. These woman were not the best examples of wives submitting to their husbands, being good mothers, or accepting spiritual directions. I could force the issue of a head covering and she would probably give in to my authority after a minor rebellion, but I would rather she comes to the understanding of the head covering on her own. The same is true of her still referring to herself as a Christian. I am sure that she will investigate on her own and come to the correct conclusion. Pleasing Allah (who she calls God) is central in her life. There is a proverb which describes her rather well:

Pro 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Pro 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Pro 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Pro 31:13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Pro 31:14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
Pro 31:15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
Pro 31:16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Pro 31:17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
Pro 31:18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
Pro 31:19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Pro 31:20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
Pro 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Pro 31:22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Pro 31:23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Pro 31:24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Pro 31:25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Pro 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Pro 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Pro 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Pro 31:29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Pro 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Pro 31:31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

 

[hana*]

As Salamu 'Alaykum, Sister Hana,

Shokran for asking. Unlike myself, my beautiful wife (I refer to her inner beauty even though she is blessed with outer beauty as well.), has a "child like" belief in Allah (The God). She believes that there is only one God and that He created all that is and that He loves her. She believes in the Bible, but she prefers to read the Psalms and Proverbs. I don't think that she ever believed that Jesus was "God the Son." My understanding of how she believes is that Jesus was the promised Messiah.

Unlike most people, she concerns herself with living a good life and being a good person.

There are a few issues created by the New Testament. For example, Paul wrote that a woman's hair is for a covering and should not be cut. Unfortunately, she believes that as long as she lets her hair grow she doesn't need any head covering because her long hair is her head covering. Over the years we have known a few Christian women who have worn head coverings. These woman were not the best examples of wives submitting to their husbands, being good mothers, or accepting spiritual directions. I could force the issue of a head covering and she would probably give in to my authority after a minor rebellion, but I would rather she comes to the understanding of the head covering on her own. The same is true of her still referring to herself as a Christian. I am sure that she will investigate on her own and come to the correct conclusion. Pleasing Allah (who she calls God) is central in her life. There is a proverb which describes her rather well:

Pro 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Pro 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Pro 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Pro 31:13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Pro 31:14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
Pro 31:15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
Pro 31:16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Pro 31:17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
Pro 31:18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
Pro 31:19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Pro 31:20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
Pro 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Pro 31:22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Pro 31:23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Pro 31:24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Pro 31:25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Pro 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Pro 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Pro 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Pro 31:29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Pro 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Pro 31:31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

SubhanAllah, Christianity in the US by far differentiates the mannerism in which Christianity is practiced here in the UK. from my understanding, Christians in the US are devout, orthodox, and 'by the book'.

There is a very fine line between what your wife believes and what we,as Muslims believe: that fine line is the belief in Muhammad as the last Messenger of God (peace be upon him) and that is all that separates (we also refer to Jesus as the 'messiah' or 'maseeh' in arabic (but not a saviour). i am pleased that she ascribes no son to God and her mission is solely to please God. i am sure that, in time, she will also see the truth of Islam.

It is interesting to read the above quotations of women, perhaps, in addition, your wife will see the great status that women have in Islam, which far out numbers that of any other idealogy or belief system.

It is interesting that although the head covering is part of the christian faith, why is it that very little follow it? is there quotations that refer to this head covering? (i know that in roman cathlocism women were instructed to cover their hair whilst in church).

after all, this is what is portrayed in the Pictures of Mary (peace be upon her), the most modest and pure of all women.

 

[Zaynab123]

Asalamu alaykum
haha
Masha Allah! that was an interesting story indeed. What a day you had brother! May Allah bless you amiin. Jazak Allahu khayra!

 

[Rustandi]

:salam2:


MashaAllah brother frank, its rare to see a couple who's been married a long time and still express the beauty of love to each other like a young couple lol

here is a hadith regarding good deeds

Ibn Abbas, radiyallahu 'anhu, reported that the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam, related from his Lord (glorified and exalted be He):

"Verily Allah has recorded the good deeds and the evil deeds." Then he clarified that: "Whosoever intends to do a good deed but does not do it, Allah records it with Himself as a complete good deed; but if he intends it and does it, Allah records it with Himself as ten good deeds, up to seven hundred times, or more than that. But if he intends to do an evil deed and does not do it, Allah records it with Himself as a complete good deed; but if he intends it and does it, Allah records it down as one single evil deed."

and regarding a pious woman

'Abdullah b. 'Amr radiyallahu 'anhu reported Allah's Messenger sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam as saying: The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.

the only thing left is for your wife to embrace islam so that both of you will join together in firdaus(highest level of paradise) for eternity inshaAllah.

 

[Maryam Zainab]

:salam2:

May Allah bless you and guide both of you... Aameen.

:muslim_child:

 

[Latifabonu]

Jazakullahu khayr :tti_sister:

 

[Aisya al-Humaira]

MashaAllah brother frank, its rare to see a couple who's been married a long time and still express the beauty of love to each other like a young couple lol

Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullah,

I must say I am very impressed in fact seeing that there still exist such couples. MashaAllaah!

The atmosphere here at my place,hmnn...until now, I have never yet come upon such couples. But the experience of people (in my country) who once further studied overseas (mainly in the west) said that long-married couples there still shows affection towards each other even in public (I meant like just holding the wife's hand, not the intimate type affections). Even the old folks who probably have become grandfather/mother.

But here, they say that during the early marriage - in public, the husband will still walks with the wife. But eventually, it would be that the husband is walking in front while the wife is left behind. Its like the longer they're married, the more they'll lose love towards each other.

I wonder though, why such things happen? Does this has something to do with culture where here people dont show affection towards their spouse so much compared to the others who are known to be frank and out-spoken people? Please take note that Im not trying to imitate others. Just that I think it is such a blessing for long married couples to still love each other very much as if they are newly-weds!

Wassalam.

 

[Latifabonu]

:ma: