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islamis4ever

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Assalamwaalaykum all,

So it started a few months back and it still becoming worse every day, I have this problem with my intentions with wudu and salaah i just can't do it properly. When i enter the bathroom to go and make my wudu, I start off by thinking in my head the words 'O Allah, I am making my fard/sunnah wudu for you now'. While I'm thinking that i keep thinking that I broke wind when in actuall fact I'm pretty sure I did'nt, and anyway I don't know how to get rid off that, and then I have to start all over again with my intention and the intention to state the words in my head takes about 15 mins. Please HELP me! I know they say your intention must come from your heart but what does that mean and how do i do it? do i have to state the words in my head? How do I get rid off the breaking wind feeling please I just want it to back to like how it was in the past but I can't remember, I just want to be able to make my wudu in 5mins

Jazakallah
islamis4ever
 
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The_truth

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islamis4ever said:
Assalamwaalaykum all,

So it started a few months back and it still becoming worse every day, I have this problem with my intentions with wudu and salaah i just can't do it properly. When i enter the bathroom to go and make my wudu, I start off by thinking in my head the words 'O Allah, I am making my fard/sunnah wudu for you now'. While I'm thinking that i keep thinking that I broke wind when in actuall fact I'm pretty sure I did'nt, and anyway I don't know how to get rid off that, and then I have to start all over again with my intention and the intention to state the words in my head takes about 15 mins. Please HELP me! I know they say your intention must come from your heart but what does that mean and how do i do it? do i have to state the words in my head? How do I get rid off the breaking wind feeling please I just want it to back to like how it was in the past but I can't remember, I just want to be able to make my wudu in 5mins

Jazakallah
islamis4ever
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Asalaamu Alaikum,

Waswas can become a very serious issue and it may take away the pleasure in worship and instead replace it with constant worry whether a person did Wudu or Salaah properly. It can become a very serious issue as a person will feel overwhelmed by paranoia with regards to their worship and will always feel a sense of inadequacy.

In worship terms Waswas means always have doubts about ones worship and not be sure of anything relating to worship as there is always a doubt there and this serious disease and illness is caused by shaythan.


What are some of the symptoms of waswas?

-You pray and then be not sure if you did.

- You waste too much water and long time in wudu and ghusl.

- You pray more than the number of rakats and do the sahu sujud every time. Even you pray more than once.

- you are not sure if your clothes are clean and every moment change your clothes.

- You follow the tiny things that are not even seen by eyes to clean them and remove them.

- You worry too much and feel your worship is not complete.

- You ask strange questions that people feel amazed about and show strange behavior for example: someone walks with shoes on the carpet until the spot where she prays just because she is not sure if the land is clean.

- You spend a very long time in the bathroom, just washing.

- You are not sure of any worship you did is complete.

And many other strange things that can tell you are suffering form waswas.


Waswas can become a serious problem especially if a person suffers from it constantly. Shaythan keeps putting doubts in ones mind and keeps telling the person that their prayer or wudu ghusl etc are not valid and that you have missed something out or not done it proprly and so you should do it again.

Your clothes are not clean, wash them again and so on. The person keeps falling for this and by this time shaythan knows that this has become the persons weakness so shaythan is able to attack the person in many different angles.


Eventually shaythan will go onto more serious matters of faith until he tries to convince a person that "Are you sure Allah exists"? Or shaythan tries to cast doubts in the mind of a person by convincing them that they had shirk thoughts and so they must do the shahada again because they have now become a kaafir and are out of the fold of Islam.

Here are some real stories of people having waswas problem:

A woman said: For 16 years, I everyday have shower and take shahada because I suddenly feel I am not sure, I am Muslim.

A guy said: For years I pray and think I did not until I stopped praying at all.

A woman said: I used to pray the prayer and keep repeating it until the next prayer.


The best way's to resolve Extreme cases of waswas are:


1. Waswas can occur with pretty much any practising Muslim particularly if they do not have sufficient knowledge of Islam and matters pertaining to fiqhi rulings.


They care so much about wanting to worship right and please Allah and get so worried whether their deed has been accepted or not by Allah but the fact is they just do not know enough about Islam especially fiqhi matters.

So it is VERY important to learn about Fiqh and various other aspects of Islam. Knowledge is key to eradicating this problem from your life!

Join some fiqh classes face to face or online. Learn about other important aspects of Islam to. keep learning, learning and learning and you watch how these evil thoughts dissapear inshallah.


2. JUST IGNORE shaythans whispers. He will keep telling you your worship is incorrect or you have missed out something in your salaah then you must NOT repeat the Salaah again.


When you have done Wudu and something tells you that you have missed out something or have not done it properly then IGNORE those whispers.


If shaythan tells you to do ghusl again because you never did it properly then IGNORE and NEVER obey these evil and deceptive whispers!


If shaythan tries to tell you that you have attributed partners with Allah and that you have done shirk then IGNORE IT. He wants you to lose your faith and think that you have committed blasphemy when you have not done anything of the sort. if the mind wanders sometimes then that is fine all of our minds wander.


Sayyiduna Abu Haraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that once a group of people came to the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) and asked: “We experience such evil thoughts that it is impossible to bring them on our lips”. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Do you really experience these thoughts? Yes, they replied. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “They are clear signs of faith”. (Sahih Muslim).


So these are signs of faith and ultimately, we are not held to account for these thoughts. However, we will be held to account if we act on these thoughts.


Shaythan will then try to make you think that you did act on these feelings when all you did was involuntarily wandered about them in your mind. Even if they did linger in your mind it does not mean you acted on it. Almost all of us have random thoughts and absurdities going on in our minds all of the time it does not mean we necesserily believe what we thought of.

Do NOT ever give in to these thoughts for shaythan is just trying to be clever but knowledge will give on the upper hand!

Whenever you get these whispers then just think: IT IS SHAYTHAN TRYING TO DECIEVE ME AND PUT ME OFF MY WORSHIP!


3. Once you have completed Wudu then move on and ignore whatever shaythan tells you regardless of how serious it sounds. You have completed it and there is no need to think of it anymore. Once you have completed your Salaah then move on and continue with the next one or get on with whatever you are doing with your day or evening. Do not think about it and ignore any thoughts associated with the worship you have just done.


Whatever you have completed is done and is over and there is NOTHING more you can do about it so do not think back that you could have done this or that or whether you need to repeat it etc. These doubts will not affect the prayer or wudu etc which you have completed so disregard and reject the whispers that tell you otherwise.


These are all tricks of shaythan and you need to realise what his angles are. You need to play him at his own game and that way you will have the upper hand everytime!


Just think of what you need to do to please Allah and do not be extreme in religion.


4. Who decides whether your worship will be complete or not? Shaythan or Allah? So by listening to the whispers of shaythan then you are simply obeying Shaythan over Allah! Therefore we must ignore his evil whispers and realise that ONLY Allah can accept our deeds so we should obey Allah and ignore these waswas.



5. If you get waswas then recite the following:


A'udhu billaahi minashaythanirajeem


and


La Hawla Wala Quwatha Illah billahil aliyyil Adheem



Also recite the four Quls Morning and evening and Ayatul Kursi Morning, before going to sleep and after every prayer.

If shaythan whispers to you in prayer then look lft and spittle and recite A'udhu billaahi minashaythanirajeem


thank Allah, wholeheartedly, for enabling you to overcome your desires and shaytan [saying, Alhamdulillah (‘All praise is due to Allah’)]; this makes Shaytan despair, and strengthens one’s resolve.


The following verse of Surah al-mu’minun may also be beneficial:


“Rabbi inni a’uzu bika min hamazat ashayatin wa a’uzu bika rabbi an yahdurun”


Trans: O my Lord! I seek your protection from the instigations of devils and I also seek your protection from that they (ever) come to me.



6. Why disobey Allah and listen to shaythans whispers? By constantly repeating wudu, salaah and wasting so much time then we are going against Allah and instead listening to shaythans evil whispers. The fact is Allah wants you to reject the waswas but shaythan wants you to accept them, then who will you listen to? The choice is yours...



A desert Arab came to Allah's Apostle
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and asked him about ablution. He demonstrated (washing each part of his body) thrice, and then said: That is (the method) of the ablution. And he who does more than this has done wrong, transgressed the limit and has oppressed (himself). (Tirmidhi #417 , Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, and Abu Dawud) ​



This hadith proves that one does NOT need to keep repeating the wudu over and over for no reason just because shaythan is telling us to repeat it. We would then transgress and oppress ourselves by doing so! Sameway one does not have to repeat the ghusl or prayers again and again for no reason just because shaythan tells us to. We are praying for Allah so shaythan has NO say in it and NEVER has!​





7. It is unlikely that you will not be able to conquer waswas overnight. Shaythan will not give up so easily for he will try and make you feel like you just don't care anymore about your worship or shirk etc but again this is just one of his many tactics that he uses to try and put off Allah's worshippers and so know that you know the different angels then you are now more equiped to fight these evil whispers.


There are many more different angles that the shaythan will use but they will all be similar in nature, so if you follow these tips then eventually you will be able to eradicate this disease out of your life FOREVER! and start to enjoy your worship of Allah again Inshallah.


So countract all of these negative thoughts that you get after worship with positive thoughts and realise that ONLY Allah can accept your deeds and knows what is in your heart not Shaythan for he is just a deciever!


Allah Most High has promised,

“As for those who strive in Us, We surely guide them to Our paths, and lo! Allah is with the good.” [Qur’an, 29.69]

So please do your best to act upon this advice. If you need anymore help then do not hesitate to ask.

And Allah knows best in all matters
 
thariq2005

thariq2005

Praise be to Allah!
Wa `alaykum salaam wa rahmatullaah

May Allaah help you.

With regards to your first question, then remember this principle and this will- inshaa'Allaah- make your life much easier. "Mere doubt does not remove certainty"


With that being said, you should ignore any "thoughts" about you breaking wudoo' unless you are certain.

With regards to your second question about wording the niyyah etc, then below is a post I posted elsewhere- which I think is very relevant to you

1) No you do not have to make niyyah like that. Do you not realize O' my sister that when you go into the toilet to make wudoo' you have already intended in your heart to make wudoo'? Do you not realize that when you open your tap of water, or take a bucket of water, you have already intended to make wudoo'. Do you not realize that when you are laying out your prayer mat you have already intended to pray that particular salaah (which actually answers your 1st question with regards to prayer). Thus your intention is made automatically with any intended activity, it does not need any sort of effort or anything of that sort. Ibn Qayyim rahimahullaah said: "If a person has any doubts about not having a niyyah (to do something) then this could be a seen as a sign of lunancy, because a person's knowledge about himself is considered a matter of normality; so how could a sane person have doubts about his actions?" He then goes on to say: " When a person stands up to perform Salaat ud Dhuhr, behind the imaam, then how could he have any doubt about performing such an act? If anyone should ask him about a different matter, he would certainly reply :'I am busy, I am about to perform Salaat ud Dhuhr'. (meaning his heart is certain that he is going to pray Dhuhr, yet he is busy wasting time thinking on how to word his niyyah in his heart or tongue)"

He carries on saying: "What is more amazing to me than all this is the fact that the other people around him would surely know what his intention was from the situation. If a man was seen sitting in a row of people gathering at the time of Salaah, people would surely know that he was also waiting to perform Salaah. And if they had seen him stand up at the time of `Iqaamah, as the other people around him also stood up for it, they would know that he stood up to pray. If he moved forward to stand in front of them, people would know that he was their imaam for that Salaah. Therefore if other people know his inner niyyah (intention) by his outer state; how could he deny it about himself? His acceptance of Shaytaan's whisperings, that he never makes any niyyah (before any act), is an act of belief in the devil, a denial of true facts, a deviation from the Book of Allaah, and the sunnah of His Prophet and from the path of the Sahaabah"
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islamis4ever

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thariq2005 said:
Wa `alaykum salaam wa rahmatullaah

May Allaah help you.

With regards to your first question, then remember this principle and this will- inshaa'Allaah- make your life much easier. "Mere doubt does not remove certainty"


With that being said, you should ignore any "thoughts" about you breaking wudoo' unless you are certain.

With regards to your second question about wording the niyyah etc, then below is a post I posted elsewhere- which I think is very relevant to you
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Jazakallah for the early replies The_truth and brother thariq and I am sorry for the late reply as I was busy becuase of ramadhan etc. Ramadhaan mubarak btw. I have been a little better with intentions and the breaking wind now that I can ignore it jazakallah, but I still have problems. My wudhu seems to take me so long to make because I feel as though i have left out a part. I only wash each part three times, but I seem to was every detail of my skin that has to be washed in wudhu and the fard wuhdhu takes me about 10mins just to make when it would take a normal person just 2 mins. please help me with this as now in ramadhaan it is tough and I am always delaying my family because of these problems.
I think I do have waswas and I will try the information you gave me @the_truth and inshallah it will work and i will slowly rid myself of the waswas.
But for now please could someone reply in regard with my wudhu and explain how to do it properly without it taking so long for me. A video or pictures etc will be appreciated.
Jakallah
 
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Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,

I have a simple response. Think about what I am writing. Do you really have nothing better to do. You can afford to take that much time to perform wudu.

This is excess. You are clean.

Wudu is symbolical too. It is not the wudu that reaches Allah. It is the prayer. Spend that time in prayer. Take that energy and put it into something positive. And what is more positive than prayer.
 
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The_truth

Well-Known Member
islamis4ever said:
Jazakallah for the early replies The_truth and brother thariq and I am sorry for the late reply as I was busy becuase of ramadhan etc. Ramadhaan mubarak btw. I have been a little better with intentions and the breaking wind now that I can ignore it jazakallah, but I still have problems. My wudhu seems to take me so long to make because I feel as though i have left out a part. I only wash each part three times, but I seem to was every detail of my skin that has to be washed in wudhu and the fard wuhdhu takes me about 10mins just to make when it would take a normal person just 2 mins. please help me with this as now in ramadhaan it is tough and I am always delaying my family because of these problems.
I think I do have waswas and I will try the information you gave me @the_truth and inshallah it will work and i will slowly rid myself of the waswas.
But for now please could someone reply in regard with my wudhu and explain how to do it properly without it taking so long for me. A video or pictures etc will be appreciated.
Jakallah
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Asalaamu Alaikum, Regarding how to do wudu then follow this:

How to perform Wudu:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hH14jeTG1Xc

My brother you need to make note of these very important points,
internalise them constantly and keep them with you ALWAYS:

1. Who decides whether your wudu, ghusl and worship is accepted or not? Answer: Allah! NOT SHAYTHAN!

2. Who decides whether you are a sinner or a kaafir or not? Answer: Allah! NOT SHAYTHAN!

- The WHY do you constantly listen to shaythan If he tells you that your ghusl, wudu or worship is not accepted when he CANNOT decide what is and what is not accepted ONLY Allah can!

- Then WHY do you constantly listen to shaythan who calls you a sinner or a kaafir when he CANNOT decide whether you are a sinner or a kaafir ONLY Allah can!

Therefore from now on you will sin if you believe shaythan when he tells you that your ghusl, wudu or worship is not accepted because he has NO authority over what is and what is not accepted ONLY Allah has!

You will also sin from now on if you believe that shaythan when he tells you that you are a sinner or a kaafir because he has NO authority over whether you are a sinner or a kaafir ONLY Allah has!

So now you know that ONLY Allah can decide whether your wudu, ghusl and worship is accepted and ONLY Allah can decide whether you are a sinner or a kaafir. If you believe shaythan over Allah then surely you believe shaythan over Allah!

Therefore you do NOT repeat a single wudu, ghusl or Salaah! If you do then you are believing shaythan over Allah. No matter how hard it is you stick to DOING WUDU GHUSL AND SALAAH ONCE AND ONLY ONCE because you believe that Allah accepts your worship and NOT shaythan!
So after you have done ONE wudu, ONE Ghusl and ONE Salaah you do NOT even think about it again and you do NOT look back but you look forward and trust in Allah and NOT shaythan!

You do NOT think you have committed any kufr or are a sinner except that you repent always and have hope that Allah will forgive you because you believe ONLY ALLAH decides who is a kaafir and who is a sinner.

You must make note of all of this and internalise it in your head everyday. You will do this for a week and then get back to me with your progress. You will strive and fight and get through this by trusting in Allah and disregarding whatever shaythan says to you.

You must try and keep yourself busy at all times and never sit around idle. There is so much to do. Read and learn about islam, do dhikr of Allah, recite the Qur'an with its meanings and understand the words of Allah. Listen to Qur'an and lectures. Sit with family and good pious company. Make much dua. Do everything to please Allah

So i will wait for your progress after one week inshallah.
I have hope in you that you will succeed but make sure you internalise all of this information constantly and strive and persevere!
On top of this do the following for one week as well:

1. Recite – Aoozubillaahi Minasshytaan Ir Rajeem- 10x every morning and evening, according to a hadith in Hisne Haseen that whosoever seeks Allah’s refuge from Satan 10 a day, an angel will be deployed for him to save him from the evil of satan.

2. Recite first 3 verses of Surah Anaam 3x every morning and evening, this is based on the following hadith, Hazrat Jabir radiyallahu anhu narrates that Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam said, “Whoever prays the first three verses of Surah An’aam until Wa ya‘lamu ma taksibun, Allah Ta’ala appoints for him one thousand angels who record his worship similar of their own. And an angel descends from the seventh heaven, with a crooked rod of iron. Now when the satan wishes to whisper to the reciter or drive into his heart the inclination of some sin the angel hits the satan such a hard blow that seventy barriers form between the satan and the reciter. And on Resurrection Day Allah Ta’ala will say to him, ‘Walk in My shade this day in which besides My shade no other shade exists. And eat the fruits of My paradise and drink from the pool of Kawthar, and take a wash from the spring of Salsabeel, for you are My servant and I am your Lord.” (Tafseer of Imaam Qurtubi)

3. Pomegranate(For strength and cleansing the body from Jinns):

Pomegranate juice is rich in Potassium, folic acid, Vitamins and Antioxidants and its benefits with regards to satan / jinn are mentioned in this following hadith in which Prophet[SA] has mentioned that “Pomegranate cleanses you of Satan and from evil aspirations for 40 days”.

Therefore, it’s highly recommended that during the treatment the victim should drink juice extracted out of one whole pomegranate about 30 to 45 mins before breakfast daily for about 7 to 12 days or at his convenience.

4. When every evil thoughts come to you recite- Aoozubillaahi Minasshytaan Ir Rajeem 3x and then drily spit 3x towards your left.

5. The Prophet, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has said:

"Whoever experiences anything of this Waswas, let him say three times,'
'Amantu billahi wa rashullih' and that will drive the Shaytan away." (Saheeh al-Jami' 6587)

Also carefully read and understand the following:

http://islamicexorcism.files.wordpress.com/2010/10/combating-the-whisperings-of-shaytaan.pdf

Keep doing everything above consistantly and thoroughly and soon inshallah you will notice the beneficial affects. Ma'asalaam
 
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