need advise

Libinette

Umm Zubayr
:salam2: to all of you!

I've got a question which i have kept in my mind for some time now, and still found no real answer (hope you guys will help me inshallah)
Do you have to brush your teeth as part of wudhu, especially in fajr prayer???


... and would also like some advise on how to tell my family, parents that i decided to start wearing niqab. My family is muslim alhamdoulilah, but that's it, if you know what i mean, but, me, i'm really trying my hardest to stand out, to learn, apply and learn even more. My parents, sisters and brother are just... i don't know how to say ; but for my mum even wearing my abaya and hijab is toooo much; but i feel like i have to wear niqab (i've done quite a lot of reading!!!) so i'm wearing it since sunday, but i'm hiding myself, being careful that noone see me when i come or go out :astag:
I don't wear it at college yet, and i feel bad that i have to hide myself!!!
Any suggestions will be appreciated!

:wasalam:
SisterL.
 

Abu Sarah

Allahu Akbar
Staff member
I've got a question which i have kept in my mind for some time now, and still found no real answer (hope you guys will help me inshallah)
Do you have to brush your teeth as part of wudhu, especially in fajr prayer???

Siwaak is recommended at all times of night and day, because of the general sense of the hadeeth quoted above from ‘Aa’ishah, “Siwaak cleanses the mouth and pleases the Lord.” The scholars have also mentioned situations where use of the siwaak is even more strongly encouraged.

These include:

  1. When making wudoo’ and at times of prayer.
    The Prophet :saw: (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Were it not for the fact that I did not want to make things too hard for my ummah, I would have commanded them to use the siwaak at every time of prayer.” According to another report he said: “…at every time of making wudoo’”
  2. When entering one's home to be with one’s family.
    ‘Aa’ishah was asked what the Messenger of Allaah :saw:(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did when he first came home. She said, “When he entered his house, the first thing he would do was to use the siwaak.” (Reported by Muslim, 1/220).
  3. When getting up from sleep.
    Hudhayfah ibn al-Yamaan (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that when the Prophet :saw: (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) got up during the night, he would clean his mouth thoroughly with the siwaak. (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 1/98 and Muslim, 1/220)
  4. When the smell of one’s mouth changes, whether this is because of eating food with a strong odour, or because of not eating or drinking for a long time, etc. Siwaak is cleansing for the mouth, which means that it should definitely be used when the mouth needs cleaning.
  5. When going to the mosque. Using siwaak is part of the adornment which we are commanded to wear for every prayer,
    as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
    “O Children of Aadam! Take your adornment while praying…’” [al-A’raaf 7:31].
    It is also important because the angels are present in the mosque, and one is going to meet with other worshippers there.
  6. When reading Qur’aan and joining gatherings in which Allaah is remembered (dhikr), because the angels are present on such occasions.

Refer to : The sunnah with regard to siwaak


... and would also like some advise on how to tell my family, parents that i decided to start wearing niqab. My family is muslim alhamdoulilah, but that's it, if you know what i mean, but, me, i'm really trying my hardest to stand out, to learn, apply and learn even more. My parents, sisters and brother are just... i don't know how to say ; but for my mum even wearing my abaya and hijab is toooo much; but i feel like i have to wear niqab (i've done quite a lot of reading!!!) so i'm wearing it since sunday, but i'm hiding myself, being careful that noone see me when i come or go out :astag:
I don't wear it at college yet, and i feel bad that i have to hide myself!!!
Any suggestions will be appreciated!


masha`Allah may Allah Reward u ..

ya Ukhti just tell them u do that 4 sake of Allaah..n let them know the Correct Hijab n the Ruling in covering ur face..

let them know

Ruling on women wearing pants and bathing suits

Verses and hadeeth about Correct Hijaab


refer to : this Discussion..


then tell them :

When Allaah, may He be exalted, and His Messenger :saw: (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) enjoin something, it is obligatory for the Muslim to say, “We hear and we obey,” and to hasten to carry out what has been enjoined upon him. This is what is required by faith in Allaah.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”
[al-Ahzaab 33:36]

Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
It is not for a believer, man or woman means: it is not appropriate or befitting for the one who is described as a believer to do anything other than to hasten to please Allaah and His Messenger, and to flee from incurring the wrath of Allaah and His Messenger, and to obey their commands, and to avoid that which they have prohibited. It is not appropriate for a believing man or a believing woman when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter and enjoined it, that they should have any option in their decision. They do not have the choice of whether to do it or not, rather the believing man and the believing woman know that the Messenger is dearer to them then their own selves, so they should not let their own whims and desires form a barrier between them and obeying the command of Allaah and His Messenger.

And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error means, an obvious error, because he has forsaken the Straight Path which leads to the reward of Allaah, and has strayed to another path which leads to a painful torment. So Allaah mentions first the reason for not going against the command of Allaah and His Messenger, which is faith, then He mentions the deterrent for that, which is fear of going astray, which leads to punishment and humiliation. End quote.

Tafseer al-Sa’di, p. 612.


The Messenger :saw: (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us that the one who disobeys him is the one who does not want to enter Paradise! Al-Bukhaari (7280) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah :saw:(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “All of my ummah will enter Paradise except those who refuse.” They said: “O Messenger of Allaah, who would refuse?” He said: “Whoever obeys me will enter Paradise and whoever disobeys me has refused.”



Our advice to those sisters is to hasten to obey the command of Allaah without any hesitation, and not to try to obey part of the command and neglect part of it. It is obligatory for a woman to cover her hair, face and all of her body, and it is not permissible for her to show any part of that in front of non-mahram men. Whoever does that is exposing herself to the threat and is lacking in faith to the extent that she is failing to respond to the command of Allaah.


may Allaah bless n protect u n All ur family..n may Allaah make everything easy on u..

<wasalam>
 

suumaya

Junior Member
Wa alaykum assalaam warahmahullahe abarakatu

sister it is good that you are wearing the niqab, i wish i could do the same thing, i think people here in the town i live would stone me to death..
do you think your family will harm you if they find out that you are wearing niqab??? if not then you should not hide because sooner or later they will find out..

As for the second question you should brush your teeth because we are standing in front of god when we are praying so we should look our best and clean...
 

Libinette

Umm Zubayr
:salam2:

Jazakallah for your quick answers!!

dEAR sumaya, i don't think their reaction will NOT be a good one, as i have said wearing abaya & hijab is seen too much for them, probably because of the change in the way i dress compared to what i used to be (and compared to my sisters, may Allah guide them in the correct path of Islam), but i have found sooo much much peace & tranquility (i know the 2 words mean the same thing lool but i can't even use words to describe my feelings subhanallah), and sunday, when i put it on, i felt soo good, like you know that Allah is watching over you, that people may look at you but you don't care it's God 's pleasure you are trying to seek....

But still they have that bad, idea abt niqab :girl3:
 

aisha16

Junior Member
salaam,
here's your response
not to touch the Qur'an except in the state of ritual purity in wudu, and to recite it when in a state of ritual purity;
to brush one's teeth with a toothstick (siwak), remove food particles from between the them, and to freshen one's mouth before reciting, since it is the way through which the Qur'an passes;
to sit up straight if not in prayer, and not lean back;
to dress for reciting as if intending to visit a prince, for the reciter is engaged in an intimate discourse;
to face the direction of prayer (qiblah) to recite;
to rinse the mouth out with water if one coughs up mucus or phlegm;
to stop reciting when one yawns, for when reciting , one is addressing one's Lord in intimate conversation, while yawning is from the Devil;
when begining to recite, to take refuge from in Allah from the accursed Devil and say the Basmala, whether one has begun at the first surah or some other part one has reached;
once one has begun, not to interrupt one's recital from moment to moment with human words, unless absolutely necessary;
to be alone when reciting it, so that no one interrupts one, forcing one to mix the words of the Qur'an with replying, for this nullifies the effectivness of having taken refuge in Allah from the Devil at the beginning;
to recite it leisurely and without haste, distinctly pronouncing each letter;
to use one's mind and understanding in order to comprehend what is being said to one;
to pause at verses that promise Allah's favour, to long for Allah Most High and ask of His bounty; and at verses that warn of His punishment to ask Him to save one from it;
to pause at the accounts of bygone peoples and individuals to heed and benefit from their example;
to find out the meanings of the Qur'an's unusual lexical usages;
to give each letter its due so as to clearly and fuLly pronounce every word, for each letter counts as ten good deeds;
whenever one finishes reciting, to attest to the veracity of ones's Lord, and that His messenger (Allah bless him and grant him peace) has delivered his message, and to testify to this, saying: "Our Lord, You have spoken the truth, Your messengers have delivered their tidings, and bear witness to this. O Allah, make us of those who bear witness to the truth and who act with justice": after which one supplicates Allah with prayers.
not to select certain verses from each surah to recite, but rather the recite the whole surah;
if one puts down the Qur'an, not to leave it open;
not to place other books upon the Qur'an, which should always be higher than all other books, whether they are books of Sacred Knowledge or something else;
to place the Qur'an on one's lap when reading; or on something in front of one, not on the floor;
not to wipe it from a slate with spittle, but rather wash it off with water; and if one washes it off with water, to avoid putting the water where there are unclean substances (najasa) or where people walk. Such water has its own inviolability, and there were those of the early Muslims before us who used water that washed away Qur'an to effect cures.
not to use sheets upon which it has been written as bookcovers, which is extremely rude, but rather to erase the Qur'an from them with water;
not to let a day go by without looking at least once at the pages of the Qur'an;
to give one's eyes their share of looking at it, for the eyes lead to the soul (nafs), whereas there is a veil between the breast and the soul, and the Qur'an is in the breast.
not to trivially quote the Qur'an at the occurrence of everyday events, as by saying, for example, when someone comes, "You have come hither according to a decree, O Moses" [Qur'an 69:24],
or, "Eat and drink heartily for what you have done aforetimes, in days gone by" [Qur'an 69:24], when food is brought out, and so forth;
not to recite it to songs tunes like those of the corrupt, or with the tremulous tones of Christians or the plaintiveness of monkery, all of which is misguidance;
when writing the Qur'an to do so in a clear, elegant hand;
not to recite it out aloud over another's reciting of it, so as to spoil it for him or make him resent what he hears, making it as if it were some kind of competition;
not to recite it in marketplaces, places of clamour and frivolity, or where fools gather;
not to use the Qur'an as pillow, or lean upon it;
not to toss it when one wants to hand it to another;
not to miniaturize the Qur'an, mix into it what is not of it, or mingle this worldly adornment with it by embellishing or writing it with gold;
not to write it on the ground or on walls, as is done in some new mosques;
not to write an amulet with it and enter the lavatory, unless it is encased in leather, silver, or other, for then it is as if kept in the heart;
if one writes it and then drinks it (for cure or other purpose), one should say the Basmala at every breath and make a noble and worthy intention, for Allah only gives to one according to one's intention;
and if one finishes reciting the entire Qur'an, to begin it anew, that it may not resemble something that has been abandon



inshaallah u will be guided by this response
 

virtualeye

Tamed Brother
AsslaamuAlaikum,

Sister, if your family is already annoyed with you for your wearing abaya then let them be a little more annoyed. Go for niqab. The only condition is that, your family should not expell you from home. If they dont expell you are dont become so angry then you should go for Niqab.

As a supporting point you can tell to the objecting family : If your sister do fashion for the sake of 'how do they choose to look to people' then why cant you do do niqab for the sake of 'how you do you choose to look to people'. And if your sisters can choose to wear whatever for fashion, then you also have th right of choosing your own fashion.

Please , be example for your sisters and let them feel some shame in the hidden part of their heart which they might not tell you but they feel. BTW, you could provide them the literature which you studied for your guidance. Ofcourse, final guidance is destined by Allah SWT.


Wasslaam,
VE



:salam2:

Jazakallah for your quick answers!!

dEAR sumaya, i don't think their reaction will NOT be a good one, as i have said wearing abaya & hijab is seen too much for them, probably because of the change in the way i dress compared to what i used to be (and compared to my sisters, may Allah guide them in the correct path of Islam), but i have found sooo much much peace & tranquility (i know the 2 words mean the same thing lool but i can't even use words to describe my feelings subhanallah), and sunday, when i put it on, i felt soo good, like you know that Allah is watching over you, that people may look at you but you don't care it's God 's pleasure you are trying to seek....

But still they have that bad, idea abt niqab :girl3:
 

alkathiri

As-Shafaa'i(Brother)
AsslaamuAlaikum,

Sister, if your family is already annoyed with you for your wearing abaya then let them be a little more annoyed. Go for niqab. The only condition is that, your family should not expell you from home. If they dont expell you are dont become so angry then you should go for Niqab.

This is funny . I was actually laughing...:SMILY335: yes go for niqab...jump the gun... it is better to hurt them now...
 

ShyHijabi

Junior Member
I would approach your mother first (I assuming you talk more to her about these subjects) and let her know you are going to start wearing nikaab. This gives her a chance to understand what is in your heart and mind. I think approaching your parents with gentleness and humbleness will even soften their hearts and may make them take a closer look at their deen.

I have a roommate who is Muslim but not practicing, as far as I can tell anyways. I have never criticized her or told her how to fix herself, Allah knows I need enough correcting of my own. At first I thought she ridiculed me in her mind....feeling I was an "extremist" because I wear hijab, eat only halaal, and pray 5 times a day. At first she seemed uncomfortable being my roommate. But the other day I saw her pray for the first time since I've known her and she told me that she is now trying to correct some of her ways. My point is thus, sometimes our actions, if done quietly and with humbleness, can do 1000 times more than loud or boastful words.

Mashallah sister, for your efforts and desires to please Allah, even at the price of having judgement and criticism directed at you by your family. It is a difficult path you walk but may Allah bless and protect you, may He make it easy for you. Wasalaam.

Your sister,
Sarah
 

harun

Junior Member
hmmm....
not an easy situation:-(
May ALLAH(swt) strengthen you!
Well, it isn't good to have a "war" in the family, so how do you handle I think it is the best allahualem.
Of course it isn't a nice feeling to "hide" from your or a part of your family that you are wearing this honour the niqab, but i guess it is better then "fighting".
I would say how do you are doing as well - STEP BY STEP.
Moreover you need to see and speak with an other niqab wearing siter, who maybe knows and help more then we by the forum.
Also, don't forget Allah(t) gives your reward, yani hasanah and insha'allah in your case much more then you can believe, because your situation isn't easy.
You know what i mean?
According to a hadith of Rasual(as) in the meaning the number of hasanah is increasing "pendant" the hard conditions are increasing, too.
So make sabr insha'allah Allah(t) is seeing you and also with you nearer then our own arteria according to the koran:)
Let us pray for our sister fi sabilillah!
I will, bi isnillah, mention you in my duas:)
Never fade up!
Sisters like you are our proud!
Maybe we men, especially in germany aren't so brave like you sister in britain, but we are happy to hear from your how much islamic you are in the UK. Allhamdulillah:)
Masalamah
 

Libinette

Umm Zubayr
This is funny . I was actually laughing...:SMILY335: yes go for niqab...jump the gun... it is better to hurt them now...

assalamu caleikum, thanks for all your suggestions alhamdoulilah.
Alkarthiri, i don't think i want to hurt my parents at anytime , but i guess you were being ironic!!:)

I think the best thng to do is to wait either for them to find out by themselves, i don't feel lke confronting them, and let them see my islamic behaviour, how devoted i am, and inshallah when the time'll come i'll tell them

What do you think??

Wa caleikum sAlam
 

virtualeye

Tamed Brother
assalamu caleikum, thanks for all your suggestions alhamdoulilah.
Alkarthiri, i don't think i want to hurt my parents at anytime , but i guess you were being ironic!!:)

I think the best thng to do is to wait either for them to find out by themselves, i don't feel lke confronting them, and let them see my islamic behaviour, how devoted i am, and inshallah when the time'll come i'll tell them

What do you think??

Wa caleikum sAlam

AssalaamuAlaikum,

Sister, my suggestion was not that you should annoy your parents. But my point was that, if they are already annoyed enough, then a little more annoyance will not do anything additional, unless your family catches fire of anger. Obviously you would go for what your Creator wants from you. The people on judgment day will be running for their own deeds and not a mother will care about her child nor a child will care bout his mother except those who were pious and modest in this life.

When comes the order of Allah at one side and your family at the other. Then you can try your best to follow the order of Allah UNLESS your family totally becomes angry to expell you. That you can evaluate their anger better and then can take decision. Simple annoance is not an excuse but a deadly anger can be an excuse.


Wasslaam,
VE
 
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