umm hussain
Junior Member
Dear Seeker of the Second Wife
Verily all praises is for Allah, we praise Him and seek His aid and ask for His forgiveness, and we seek refuge with Allah from the evils of ourselves and our evil actions. Whom Allah chooses to guide, none that can mislead him and whom He chooses mislead, none that can guide him. And I bear witness that none has the right to be worship except Allah Alone, having no partners, and I bear witness that Muhammad (sallallaahu ‘ alayhi ‘wa sallam (peace and blessings upon him) (saw)) is His slave and His Messenger.
Dear seeker of the second wife,
Assalamu Alikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatuh,
I am writing this article in response to several postings and email regarding the issue of second wife, or third or even the fourth wife;
Having traveled in twenty-six cities over the past two months just across the UK, would you believe that the issue of second wife was raised at least several times in each of my visit per city (either as a joke or serious question). So my question is that, the brothers that are asking this question, are they really seeking or considering a second wife... or is it to merely to feed a fantasy or curiosity? Because if the Brothers were serious, then how many do you or I know whom have a second wife? Well, they are a rare breed.
My point is this, of course this is a sunnah of the Prophet (saw), and encouraged in Islam, as the Hadith that, the one who has a wife is better than the one that has none, and the one that has two is better than the one that has one, and so on until the fourth. This is an abandoned sunnah which I think needs to be revived. In the western culture, polygamy is a taboo that is frowned upon yet promiscuity and having illicit and illegal affairs are symbols of prosperity, freedom and liberation. This Sunnah is a solution not for the faint hearted but one for a big heart. This is a solution to the civil derogation and social dysfunctions facing us today.
Few awakening facts;
1. The US Census Bureau published that there are more than 10 million single mothers, and further more 80% of them had children bellow the age of 18.
2. Nearly 700,000 women lose their husbands each year and will be widows for an average of 14 years"
3. 16% of all Women are disabled.
4. Disabled girls are twenty times less likely to be married.
5. More than 12 million orphans come to the age of marriage per year across the globe.
6. The armed conflicts of the past decade have created more than 30 million (1989 numbers) refugees and displaced persons and the vast majority of these, approximately 80%, are women and children.
So I ask the question, how many brothers are willing to take a wife who is a widow, single mother, disabled or an aged orphan. Now this question to oneself should really distinguish for you, between wanting to discover an abandoned Sunnah, and just fueling their curiosity by playing with the fantasy of a Turkish Harem.
Verily all praises is for Allah, we praise Him and seek His aid and ask for His forgiveness, and we seek refuge with Allah from the evils of ourselves and our evil actions. Whom Allah chooses to guide, none that can mislead him and whom He chooses mislead, none that can guide him. And I bear witness that none has the right to be worship except Allah Alone, having no partners, and I bear witness that Muhammad (sallallaahu ‘ alayhi ‘wa sallam (peace and blessings upon him) (saw)) is His slave and His Messenger.
Dear seeker of the second wife,
Assalamu Alikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatuh,
I am writing this article in response to several postings and email regarding the issue of second wife, or third or even the fourth wife;
Having traveled in twenty-six cities over the past two months just across the UK, would you believe that the issue of second wife was raised at least several times in each of my visit per city (either as a joke or serious question). So my question is that, the brothers that are asking this question, are they really seeking or considering a second wife... or is it to merely to feed a fantasy or curiosity? Because if the Brothers were serious, then how many do you or I know whom have a second wife? Well, they are a rare breed.
My point is this, of course this is a sunnah of the Prophet (saw), and encouraged in Islam, as the Hadith that, the one who has a wife is better than the one that has none, and the one that has two is better than the one that has one, and so on until the fourth. This is an abandoned sunnah which I think needs to be revived. In the western culture, polygamy is a taboo that is frowned upon yet promiscuity and having illicit and illegal affairs are symbols of prosperity, freedom and liberation. This Sunnah is a solution not for the faint hearted but one for a big heart. This is a solution to the civil derogation and social dysfunctions facing us today.
Few awakening facts;
1. The US Census Bureau published that there are more than 10 million single mothers, and further more 80% of them had children bellow the age of 18.
2. Nearly 700,000 women lose their husbands each year and will be widows for an average of 14 years"
3. 16% of all Women are disabled.
4. Disabled girls are twenty times less likely to be married.
5. More than 12 million orphans come to the age of marriage per year across the globe.
6. The armed conflicts of the past decade have created more than 30 million (1989 numbers) refugees and displaced persons and the vast majority of these, approximately 80%, are women and children.
So I ask the question, how many brothers are willing to take a wife who is a widow, single mother, disabled or an aged orphan. Now this question to oneself should really distinguish for you, between wanting to discover an abandoned Sunnah, and just fueling their curiosity by playing with the fantasy of a Turkish Harem.