I need a help

[abdellah007]

salam alaykum brothers and sisters,

i live in morocco and i know a german girl 5 years ago,she visited me 3 times. she was chritian , elhamdolulah she converted 2 months ago . we re preparing for marriage. and am so confused of where to live, morocco or germany. if i am going there then i wud loose my prayers in time and ramadan wont be like here...so am worry about my iman. she wants to live with me here in morocco. but to live here is getting to be harder and harder bcos of my social situation.

so how do u advice me sisters and brothers?

 

[Aapa]

Salaam brother,

Let me see if this is what you are saying:
1. You are getting married..congruatulations.
2. She will live with you wherever you live...Alhumdullilah.
3. You like living in a Muslim country...Alhumdulliah.
4. I am lost ....what about social stautus...what exactly are you saying? Please be so kind as to explain what concerns you have so the brothers and sisters and can help you.

 

[Aapa]

Salaam brother,

Let me see if this is what you are saying:
1. You are getting married..congruatulations.
2. She will live with you wherever you live...Alhumdullilah.
3. You like living in a Muslim country...Alhumdulliah.
4. I am lost ....what about social stautus...what exactly are you saying? Please be so kind as to explain what concerns you have so the brothers and sisters and can help you.

 

[Aapa]

Salaam brother,

Let me see if this is what you are saying:
1. You are getting married..congruatulations.
2. She will live with you wherever you live...Alhumdullilah.
3. You like living in a Muslim country...Alhumdulliah.
4. I am lost ....what about social stautus...what exactly are you saying? Please be so kind as to explain what concerns you have so the brothers and sisters and can help you.

 

[Aapa]

Salaam brother,

Let me see if this is what you are saying:
1. You are getting married..congruatulations.
2. She will live with you wherever you live...Alhumdullilah.
3. You like living in a Muslim country...Alhumdulliah.
4. I am lost ....what about social stautus...what exactly are you saying? Please be so kind as to explain what concerns you have so the brothers and sisters and can help you.

 

[abdellah007]

salam

Salaam brother,

Let me see if this is what you are saying:
1. You are getting married..congruatulations.
2. She will live with you wherever you live...Alhumdullilah.
3. You like living in a Muslim country...Alhumdulliah.
4. I am lost ....what about social stautus...what exactly are you saying? Please be so kind as to explain what concerns you have so the brothers and sisters and can help you.

salam sister,
well we re not getting married yet, now she is in germany and am in morocco. yes she wants to live in morocco as well as i want to live in a muslim country.. i meant by social situation is about having a good job that wud satisfy our needs also location to live in. i hope u get the point sister.

 

[farhopes]

salam sister,
well we re not getting married yet, now she is in germany and am in morocco. yes she wants to live in morocco as well as i want to live in a muslim country.. i meant by social situation is about having a good job that wud satisfy our needs also location to live in. i hope u get the point sister.

I got your point, brother simply because it is the same problem that most Egyptian youths suffer from.

OK, let me ask you a question; why are you afraid of moving to her country???

In my opinion, you shouldn't be. This wonderful site "TTI" proved to me that there are so many very good Muslims living in non Muslim countries where they are doing very well and doing their best to serve Islam.

First of all you should be very sure of your girl, her conviction,her sincerity, and her truthfulness in embracing Islam.

If you are completely sure of those things and that needs time to be sure of , then go ahead, putting your trust in Allah, asking Him to choose the best for you.

Don't forget to make Istekhara before taking any step forward.

May Allah gladden your heart and make your task easy for you.:tti_sister:


Amany

 

[abdellah007]

salam

I got your point, brother simply because it is the same problem that most Egyptian youths suffer from.

OK, let me ask you a question; why are you afraid of moving to her country???

In my opinion, you shouldn't be. This wonderful site "TTI" proved to me that there are so many very good Muslims living in non Muslim countries where they are doing very well and doing their best to serve Islam.

First of all you should be very sure of your girl, her conviction,her sincerity, and her truthfulness in embracing Islam.

If you are completely sure of those things and that needs time to be sure of , then go ahead, putting your trust in Allah, asking Him to choose the best for you.

Don't forget to make Istekhara before taking any step forward.

May Allah gladden your heart and make your task easy for you.:tti_sister:


Amany

jazak allah brother,

well, yes am afraid of moving to germany, i ve mentioned why am afraid above.

about my sister (friend) , as i said i knew her for 5 years, she wasnt muslimah , i didnt press on her to convert, she dicided in her own elhamdolilah. and now she s trying to promote her iman, and of course being with her will help her alot.

about our brothers and sisters on this website, i ve seen few that wanted to move to an islamic country, and there must be reasons behind it. in fact being in an islamic country is not like being in kufars countries (with respect of all brother and sisters who live there)

wassalam

 

[alkathiri]

:salam2:

Thats the best wife u can get , willing to go anywhere...
There are good muslims in Germany , akhi...
But if u consider the upbringing of your children, it would be better to live in morocco.

Why not live in Germany after your marriage and when your 1 st child is 4-5 years old, you move back to Morocco

Congrats !!!!

 

[abdellah007]

salam

:salam2:

Thats the best wife u can get , willing to go anywhere...
There are good muslims in Germany , akhi...
But if u consider the upbringing of your children, it would be better to live in morocco.

Why not live in Germany after your marriage and when your 1 st child is 4-5 years old, you move back to Morocco

Congrats !!!!

jazak ellah khayran..

u really remind of children issue.it s a big problem too, ur point is a good one, but it s not easy to move from one country to another, bcos this needs to manage alot of things.

about living in germany, that sister is not living in a big city where i could contact with many muslims.

wassalam

 

[Globalpeace]

Back2Basics!

W-Salam Brother,

1) Is she a good person?
2) Do you like her?
3) Is she willing to practise Islam?
4) Are you willing to practise Islam?
5) Are you sincere to her? And doing this for Allah & not for passport/immigration etc?

If the answers to all five are YES; there is no problem; but you have to consider 1 thing…

She is new revert to Islam and you are taking immense responsibility on your shoulders. She will undoubtedly ascribe YOUR actions to Islam (at least in the beginning) because to her YOU are Islam. Make sure that you are mature enough to realise your added responsibility and be mindful of it.

Living in Morocco or Germany or Timbuktu isn’t really an issue; husband and wife can sort out their issues through Shura (mutual consultation); life and situations change and your (you and her) circumstances are dynamic; follow the Sunnah and do the Shura (mutual consultation) and you can't go wrong.

salam alaykum brothers and sisters,

i live in morocco and i know a german girl 5 years ago,she visited me 3 times. she was chritian , elhamdolulah she converted 2 months ago . we re preparing for marriage. and am so confused of where to live, morocco or germany. if i am going there then i wud loose my prayers in time and ramadan wont be like here...so am worry about my iman. she wants to live with me here in morocco. but to live here is getting to be harder and harder bcos of my social situation.

so how do u advice me sisters and brothers?

 

[abdellah007]

W-Salam Brother,

1) Is she a good person?
2) Do you like her?
3) Is she willing to practise Islam?
4) Are you willing to practise Islam?
5) Are you sincere to her? And doing this for Allah & not for passport/immigration etc?

If the answers to all five are YES; there is no problem; but you have to consider 1 thing…

She is new revert to Islam and you are taking immense responsibility on your shoulders. She will undoubtedly ascribe YOUR actions to Islam (at least in the beginning) because to her YOU are Islam. Make sure that you are mature enough to realise your added responsibility and be mindful of it.

Living in Morocco or Germany or Timbuktu isn’t really an issue; husband and wife can sort out their issues through Shura (mutual consultation); life and situations change and your (you and her) circumstances are dynamic; follow the Sunnah and do the Shura (mutual consultation) and you can't go wrong.

jazak ellah brother.

yes i like her and she is a good person. am muslim and am pricticing elhamdolilah, and she is willing to do the same. and am doing that for sake of allah and not for visa or ....

i take all my responsabilities and that s why i was asking u here in TTI.to give an advice and helping me.

wassalam

 

[farhopes]

jazak ellah khayran..

u really remind of children issue.it s a big problem too, ur point is a good one, but it s not easy to move from one country to another, bcos this needs to manage alot of things.

about living in germany, that sister is not living in a big city where i could contact with many muslims.

wassalam

It seems that you are too much puzzled, brother. Worrying about what is going to happen is not rational, it is God's matter. You have a good intention, you wanna make a Muslim family, so be sure that Allah will help you.

Who knows, perhaps Allah uses you to guide many German people to Islam. Maybe those German people in such a small city need a Muslim family among them to show them the right path to Allah. They are people anyway and many of them could be eager to know the Truth.Why don't you make it your big aim of life.

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[abdellah007]

salam

It seems that you are too much puzzled, brother. Worrying about what is going to happen is not rational, it is God's matter. You have a good intention, you wanna make a Muslim family, so be sure that Allah will help you.

Who knows, perhaps Allah uses you to guide many German people to Islam. Maybe those German people in such a small city need a Muslim family among them to show them the right path to Allah. They are people anyway and many of them could be eager to know the Truth.Why don't you make it your big aim of life.

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jazak allah for the advice.

 

[Globalpeace]

Go for It!

Asslamo Allaikum,

If the answers to all of the questions is YES & you realise your "immense responsibility" then Go for it...

As farhopes is saying; don't worry about the future. Both of you can work it out with the help of Allah (SWT), Insha'Allah.

jazak ellah brother.

yes i like her and she is a good person. am muslim and am pricticing elhamdolilah, and she is willing to do the same. and am doing that for sake of allah and not for visa or ....

i take all my responsabilities and that s why i was asking u here in TTI.to give an advice and helping me.

wassalam

 

[SabirIslamdost]

Salam

Please be kindly advised that no matter where do you live, what is the most important thing is to live for Allah wherever you are. For the life you want to live, you can decide it by yourself. Remember, sometimes we have a little money but happy, and much money but unhappy! What I want to tell you is that to have as much money as you need, that is all. Regarding living in Germany, I do not decide to go or not to go. However, as I said before live a life which is for Allah. Be as strong as the drops of water: haven't you seen the drops of water in a mountain that falls down onto a big rock that eventually the drops of the water make a hole in the rock?!!!
I proudly say that I personally worked with US Christain people as a translator and I was very tight to my prayers and faith, even during the time of working. And if you think that if you live with people of other than Muslim and can have a positive influence upon them, it will be great do that!

Wishing you a real happy life!

 

[Saifu deen]

Assalam Alykom

I believe that, there is no fair for muslims in a non-muslim country as long they hold the islamic principles by following the Qur'an and Al-Sharia. It might be very difficult for single people, but I belive it is much easier for married people and thats because marriage in Islam is already half of our religion. So moving into non-muslim country can improve your job opportunity, you can improve your career by education, training, and experience.... Then I believe it is better to move into muslim country where your job is secured because you have the certification and experience that qualify you to be an excellent candidate in any country....

I guess our brothers and sisters given you an excellent suggestion ( Istekhara)

All the best inshallah, may Allah bring you happiness in your marriage, and increase your Imaan, and give you childern who follow the right path. Amiin Amiin Amiin...

Wassalam ALykom...

 

[abdellah007]

salam

I believe that, there is no fair for muslims in a non-muslim country as long they hold the islamic principles by following the Qur'an and Al-Sharia. It might be very difficult for single people, but I belive it is much easier for married people and thats because marriage in Islam is already half of our religion. So moving into non-muslim country can improve your job opportunity, you can improve your career by education, training, and experience.... Then I believe it is better to move into muslim country where your job is secured because you have the certification and experience that qualify you to be an excellent candidate in any country....

I guess our brothers and sisters given you an excellent suggestion ( Istekhara)

All the best inshallah, may Allah bring you happiness in your marriage, and increase your Imaan, and give you childern who follow the right path. Amiin Amiin Amiin...

Wassalam ALykom...

jazal ellah akhir and ameen

 

[junaid hasan]

brother as i am also living in germany the situation is better infront of my eyes.

Its a big niyamah that she is aggred to live with you in morocco.Her iman is now in primary class level (allah knows better about it)and after accepting islam there are a lot of pressure which people face after convert to islam.about social status its also not so good if people dont have good certificates.And without certificate you can work in shops or something like this but its really hard to managing the prayer time and also with jamaah.Try to explain her if she is also ready to share all the sorrows and problem with you which you have.THen try to live with her for a while in morocco like a trial and if she is happy and also able to manage the problem which she is gonna face in morocco then its will better for (as my opinion)you.dont forget to pray istikhara salat and make a lot of dua.Its will be carry some good decision for your and her life.

 

[abdellah007]

salam

brother as i am also living in germany the situation is better infront of my eyes.

Its a big niyamah that she is aggred to live with you in morocco.Her iman is now in primary class level (allah knows better about it)and after accepting islam there are a lot of pressure which people face after convert to islam.about social status its also not so good if people dont have good certificates.And without certificate you can work in shops or something like this but its really hard to managing the prayer time and also with jamaah.Try to explain her if she is also ready to share all the sorrows and problem with you which you have.THen try to live with her for a while in morocco like a trial and if she is happy and also able to manage the problem which she is gonna face in morocco then its will better for (as my opinion)you.dont forget to pray istikhara salat and make a lot of dua.Its will be carry some good decision for your and her life.

well jazak allah brother and thx for adive.

yeah there is such kind of pressure onconverts as she hide it in work. i know what s the situation there bcos my brother is living in germany. from what he says and what u saying it hard to pray in time also with jama3a.
about certificate i got my baccaluareat + diploma in computing.
am asking allah to give me more strencght to take a decision.and am sure allah wont let me down.

wassalam