I wonder if anyone can help me?
I'm an english revert (as those that have held me prattle on before will know) and I'm having problems with the concept of covering........
I've always lived where I do and was previously a christian. I've got a lovely family and I have always been bought up with good morals (by my standards). I don't dress in excessively short skirts, or walk round with low cut reveal tops (designed to expose your chest as much as possible.)
However I'm quite used to wandering around shorts and t-shirts and where I live legs and arms aren't considered awrah........... the number of 'looks' women get from men are extremely rare.
Now I know thats not the case in Islam......people have been very kind in gently trying to explain to me the whys and whats....... and have said that don't worry with time I'll feel more happy about it.
The problem is that the more I try to accept the less I like it. I feel that by covering I am making something not particularly interesting into something highly sexual. I have ams and legs in the same fashion as men so why are mine considered awrah (sexual organs, so I've been told) when the mans are not.
Various people have said that the abaya is a must and that I should consider wearing one, which I do when visiting family in egypt. But a lot of the time its just not practical.....like when you are trying to keep fit at the gym, or when youre cutting the grass etc etc.... Also the few times I have worn the hijab outside I just sit and burn up with annoyance and anger...because no matter how hard I try I just don't personally feel comfortable with wearing one and I don't feel I ever will.
I last time I aired my thougts to someone they just told me I was selfish and just didn't want to do what the koran instructed me to do.... please, no replies like that cos that doesn't help much!
Where I live there are virtually no muslims probably the only other muslim in my area is my husband!
I'm desperate to be a good muslim and any helpful comments/ suggestions would be really helpful!
I'm an english revert (as those that have held me prattle on before will know) and I'm having problems with the concept of covering........
I've always lived where I do and was previously a christian. I've got a lovely family and I have always been bought up with good morals (by my standards). I don't dress in excessively short skirts, or walk round with low cut reveal tops (designed to expose your chest as much as possible.)
However I'm quite used to wandering around shorts and t-shirts and where I live legs and arms aren't considered awrah........... the number of 'looks' women get from men are extremely rare.
Now I know thats not the case in Islam......people have been very kind in gently trying to explain to me the whys and whats....... and have said that don't worry with time I'll feel more happy about it.
The problem is that the more I try to accept the less I like it. I feel that by covering I am making something not particularly interesting into something highly sexual. I have ams and legs in the same fashion as men so why are mine considered awrah (sexual organs, so I've been told) when the mans are not.
Various people have said that the abaya is a must and that I should consider wearing one, which I do when visiting family in egypt. But a lot of the time its just not practical.....like when you are trying to keep fit at the gym, or when youre cutting the grass etc etc.... Also the few times I have worn the hijab outside I just sit and burn up with annoyance and anger...because no matter how hard I try I just don't personally feel comfortable with wearing one and I don't feel I ever will.
I last time I aired my thougts to someone they just told me I was selfish and just didn't want to do what the koran instructed me to do.... please, no replies like that cos that doesn't help much!
Where I live there are virtually no muslims probably the only other muslim in my area is my husband!
I'm desperate to be a good muslim and any helpful comments/ suggestions would be really helpful!