Wife going out unescorted...?

DanyalSAC

Junior Member
Asalaamu alaikum -

I've recently gotten into a heated discussion with a friend in Saudi Arabia, talking about the new thing there about allowing women to drive. He said women are not allowed to go outside unescorted. I told him I am unaware of any hadith saying this.

IS there a hadith saying my wife must be accompanied by me when she wants to go to the bank or do grocery shopping?

Edited to add: I am NOT trying to be incendiary or to start an argument - I just want to know if I have any leg to stand on...!
 

Almaas

Junior Member
:salam2:

They never stopped women from travelling and riding on camels..

Lol @ "A protest supporter, Benjamin Joffe-Walt, said some Saudi men claimed they drove around dressed in the traditional black coverings for women in an attempt to confuse security forces."

Hahahaha! So funny, lol.
 

alf2

Islam is a way of life
Look at the traffic in saudia.It looks horrible even on tv.

This is true. I've seen many videos posted by young saudi men who are driving like the Fast and the Furious! Not safe for families on the road. That bugs me.
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,

Brother,

I am sure we will find hadeedth to find the correct answer.

In the meantime...please understand the sisters, if I may speak for most of us.

As Muslim women when we are comfortable with our iman we became shy. Yeah, I said it. We become modest. There is a dua for us to enter the marketplace. Given that we became more modest.

Thus, we tend to not go outside so much. We prefer to go out collectively. It guards our worship.

It is a balance. When there is absolute need for me to go out alone. I do. Whenever I am able to have a member of my family accompany me that is the preference for us all.
 

masihuddin

Junior Member
Question arrises when Ummahat ul Momneen used to go out were they always escorted ?Ofcourse they had to follow the prescribed dress code and mannerism but the requirement to be escorted is not mentioned.Can someone explain this in the light of Ahadees
 

Asja

Pearl of Islaam
Asalamu allaicum wa raahmatullah wa baarakatuhu

I have find this answer on" Islamic question and answer" site and I hope Inshallah it will be useful for you dear brother.

As we know that Allah is advicing us Muslim woman to not go out without neccesety, because that will lead to less fitnah in our society but as well it will bring us more modesty Alhamdulillah. But ofcourse this does not mean that we can not go out, like to go in school, University,mosque, masjid or even going in shooping because that is aslo neccessery.

But Alhamdulillah as Muslim woman we should always look a way to go with our mahram man( Father, brother, or husband) or with our mother, sisters, or with some sisters in Islaam, because we will feel more safe than when going out alone, especialy this is case with Muslim woman who are living in Western countries.

And Allah knows the best.

May Allah guide us all to the right path. Ameen ya Rabby

:wasalam:


Praise be to Allaah.

Islam came to protect women and their honour, and prescribed rulings that take care of that. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And stay in your houses” [al-Ahzaab 33:33]

Based on this, the general principle is that women should stay at home and not go out except for essential reasons or cases of need. Islam states that a woman’s prayer at home is better for her than her prayer in the mosque – even al-Masjid al-Haraam.

This does not mean that women have to remain prisoners in the house. Islam permits them to go to the mosque, and has made Hajj and ‘Umrah, Eid prayers, etc. obligatory for them. Among the kinds of going out that are prescribed are her going to visit her family and mahrams, and going out to ask religious questions from people of knowledge. Women are also permitted to go out for their own needs, but all of this has to be within the limits and conditions set out in sharee’ah, such as being accompanied by a mahram when she travels, or being assured that her route is safe when she moves about in her own city or locality. She should also go out wearing complete hijaab, and she should not be wearing make-up, adornments or perfume.

A number of texts have been narrated concerning this, including the following:

Ibn ‘Umar reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If the wife of any one of you asks for permission to go to the mosque, do not stop her.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 827; Muslim, 442)

Zaynab, the wife of ‘Abd-Allaah, said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to us: “If any one of you (women) comes to the mosque, let her not wear perfume.” (Narrated by Muslim, 443)

Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: my maternal aunt got divorced and wanted to go and pick some fruit from her trees. A man told her off for going out, so she went to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and he said, “Never mind, go and pick the fruit from your trees. Maybe you will be able to give it in charity or do something good with it.” (Narrated by Muslim, 1483)

The entertainment referred to in the question may involve mixing or looking at strangers (non-mahram men), or travelling without a mahram, or many things that are of no benefit. So you have to be cautious and make sure that the entertainment really is permissible and halaal, and free of any haraam things that would earn the punishment of Allaah. If a woman goes out to a place where there is nothing haraam going on and she does not go out too frequently, there is nothing wrong with this. We ask Allaah to protect us, keep us chaste and make our commitment to religion good and strong. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad,


Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,

We have two trains of thought going on here.

First...yes we can go out and do what is needed. There are many of us who are alone. We have to out of necessity work and travel etc.

Second, and this is the personal one..it has been stated here. Muslim women are modest. We do not go out to just go out. It is a matter of common sense.
 

DanyalSAC

Junior Member
Look at the traffic in saudia.It looks horrible even on tv.

I've seen these videos, and I've seen how they drive in Kuwait as well. They seem to have little to no traffic rules and they are not upheld.



Assalaam walaikum,

Brother,

I am sure we will find hadeedth to find the correct answer.

In the meantime...please understand the sisters, if I may speak for most of us.

As Muslim women when we are comfortable with our iman we became shy. Yeah, I said it. We become modest. There is a dua for us to enter the marketplace. Given that we became more modest.

Thus, we tend to not go outside so much. We prefer to go out collectively. It guards our worship.

It is a balance. When there is absolute need for me to go out alone. I do. Whenever I am able to have a member of my family accompany me that is the preference for us all.

Wa alaikum salaam sister

I asked around at the masjid (as I've said before we're woefully low on shakyhs at my masjid). But what I've been able to gather is that a woman can go out, but she can't travel on her own. That's fine with me... my concern was if my wife (when I get married) could go to the grocery store or go pick up the kids without me being with her. If there were any proof to say she couldn't, then that would be one reason to not get married. Honestly that would put a large and unnecessary inconvenience on the husband.
 

islamdonlyway

Junior Member
walikumsalam,

hang on i dont really get this, soo what if a sister needs to go and shop whilst the husbands at work? what if she needs to take the kids to school? what if she needs to go university or school were there is free mixing (out of their control)? its very hard in western countries for a women to go out with a mehram.
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,

We can go out. In Western countries we have to go out. Now, we travel by bus, subway, train, car or walk. We conduct business.

For some us that are not married with children we do what we have to do. We avoid the unnecessary things.
 

Asja

Pearl of Islaam
I've seen these videos, and I've seen how they drive in Kuwait as well. They seem to have little to no traffic rules and they are not upheld.





Wa alaikum salaam sister

I asked around at the masjid (as I've said before we're woefully low on shakyhs at my masjid). But what I've been able to gather is that a woman can go out, but she can't travel on her own. That's fine with me... my concern was if my wife (when I get married) could go to the grocery store or go pick up the kids without me being with her. If there were any proof to say she couldn't, then that would be one reason to not get married. Honestly that would put a large and unnecessary inconvenience on the husband.

Assalamu allaicum wa raahmatullah wa baarakatuhu

Dear brother, please read the fatwa with explination from Quran and Sunnah where everything is clearly explained regarding Muslim woman going out alone.

May Allah bless you

:wasalam:
 
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