can a muslim lady please help me?

Idris16

Junior Member
‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab  reported that the Messenger of Allah(saw)  said,


“Surely actions are based on intentions and surely every person will get what he intends. So whoever has migrated to achieve a worldly goal, or in order to get married to a woman, then his migration will be for exactly what he intends.” (“Agreed Upon” i.e. by al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Commentary:
Intentions are the basis for all actions. People who have entered Islam for the love of a woman or a man should remember that their partner did not bring them to Islam. It is Allah (swt) himself, who guides people. We are only instruments in His will. Those who have migrated to the West in order to gain wealth or to further their education should be reminded that Allah (swt) is the Lord of the East and the West. We are accountable for our Islam in all countries. Death can overtake us at any moment and in any part of the planet.
 

a_brother

Make dua for us all
You should first Know about Allah, and start from the Basics of Islam, Like Tawheed. There are Many Usefull information available here on this site in the Islamic Information section where you can learn about the Creed(beleif) of Muslims. If you want to also read the quran

you can search for it in google and try to find "mohsin khan" english translation of the Qur'an

:salam2:

good point brother Salem... Tawheed is a good point to start from, this is a link for that...
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?s=&daysprune=-1&f=15

i would be careful of what google spits out as in searching about Islam since there are some people trying to speak false about islam... I would encourage you to use this customised google search ( http://www.ilmsieve.com/ ) and ask us if you need any help

take care brandi :)
 

Phoyage

Junior Member
:salam2:
From my limited knowledge, a Muslim men can marry people of the book(Judaism, Christianity) but it is not encouraged.

Dear sister,
Do not convert because of your boyfriend. Your boyfriend will be die, your infatuation to him will decrease. Learn about Islam, Christianity, Judaism before you decide. do not let anyone force you to believe what you do not want to believe. You already an adult, you can make your own decision.

:wasalam:

:salam2:
Brother I agree with that statement a bit but I also disagree with it too.
Agree:
She should make her own decisions not be forced by her boy-friend (but I don't know why he is your BF, in Islam it is haram to date)
Disagree:
This isn't as strong as agree but a little part of me wanted to say this.
Anyone feel free to disagree.
And tell why this is wrong but I had to say this.
I'll edit if I found the problem.

Back in time, at the start of Islam the prophet used to give people money to come into Islam.
At that time when they converted they were weak.
But once they started seeing the beauty of Islam what happened is that they really liked it Islam and became good Muslims.

Maybe this is the same case.
But I am not sure.
Please someone gimme your opinion on this statement.

P.S. I spell check quote
:)
 

brandi313

New Member
i have found out it is wrong to date in the islam religion but being in america things are different muslims are too americanized after time and i asked him why does he choose me among people of his own origin and religion and he doesnt have a good explanation he tells me because i love you and i know you will make the perfect wife and mom why would i choose an already muslim girl who may not finish school or not make me happy when i had the chance to know you and see what youre about and to know you are a good girl
im sorry if i hurt any of you by dating and if you think its wrong im sorry but whats done.. is done and obviously our love is strong enough to where he would choose me apposed to getting "engaged" to a woman he barely knows
 

cmelbouzaidi

Junior Member
I don't think anyone is offended :) May Allah guide both of you young people to the straight path. Our books are already written but we must all strive to be the best we can be as servants of the Almighty, that is what really counts.

I hope you will still seek this opportunity of learning about Islam which you may not have ordinarily come across.... Life is one big test, little sister. Forget about love, marriage, motherhood etc for a second and think about the message that is trying to penetrate your soul.
 

sandra canada

Laa ilaha illa Allah
ok im 17 years old im catholic and i am dating a muslim we have been together for 2 years and he recently told his mom about me. She wasn't all that mad like we thought she would be but she wants me to convert after i graduate, i talked to my mom and she said his culture is fine she has nothing against it but i shouldn't have to convert. Im really confused and have no clue what to do i just need advice and someone to talk to about stuff so if you could help me i would appriciate it VERY much



MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU AND GUIDE YOU TO THE RIGHT PATH

Brandi ITS GOD RELIGION NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND RELIGION ONLY


IF YOU WANNA CONVERT SO CONVERT FOR THE SAKE OF GOD ONLY CAUSE FAITH HERE MUST BE HONEST

MAY ALLAH , SHOW U THE RIGHT PATH

and i am like ur sister:shymuslima1:


Is what you want to do the right step? Are you ready to take this great step? From what you say, these are the two important questions to which you have been trying to find the answer. , and we believe that what you are going to do is the right step for sure, because this is the religion of Allaah, and He does not accept any other religion from His slaves, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers.”

[Aal ‘Imraan 3:85]

Maybe you have compared (religions, etc.) and read widely and have reached the conviction that this is the true religion which you must follow, but this is not enough and it will not save a person just to believe in the Oneness of Allaah and the Prophethood of Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and the resurrection after death.

He must also utter the Shahadataayn and practise Islam. It seems to me that your hesitation is not due to lack of conviction of the truth but because of certain fears that have to do with social factors such as friends, family,.



If you are sincere towards Allaah, He will help you to overcome your difficulties with your boyfriend and family. With regard to Friday Prayers, this is not obligatory for women because the Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “It is a duty for every Muslim to pray Jumu’ah in congregation apart from four: slaves, women, young boys and the sick.” (Reported by Abu Dawood, 901).
Women have to pray four rak’ahs of Zuhr prayer on Friday wherever they are. What you have heard about a person delegating someone else to pray on his behalf is not correct at all. Prayer is fard ‘ayn, i.e., an individual duty for each Muslim, and it is not acceptable for one person to appoint someone else as a proxy or for one person to pray on behalf of another. In any case, you have no need for this in the case of Jumu’ah prayers, as you now know.

Briefly, all you need in your case is to put your trust in Allaah and strive to please Him. Go ahead and embrace His religion even if it makes other people angry. So long as you accept Him as your Lord and God, and follow His religion, He will never let you down or forsake you. We believe that you are ready to take this great step, in sha Allaah, so remember our advice in brief is “Go for it” and put your trust in Allaah. We ask Allaah to give you strength.




it is actually an extremely simple process, without complication or prolongment. This is because it is something between a person and his/her Lord and there are no other parties involved. All that is required of a person in order to embrace Islam is that he or she pronounce the two testaments of belief in the Islamic creed, believing in their meaning, then to take a complete bath with the intention of (ritual) purification in order to start performing prayers (note to ensure complete cleanliness one should shave pubic and under-arm hair, and a man should be circumcized if he is not already--Islam places great emphasis on proper hygiene and personal cleanliness).

As for the two testimonies of creed, the first is "ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illa allah" (I testify that there is no deity other then Allah), which means that one believes and confirms that there is nothing to be worshipped other than Allah and that one is prepared to implement His divine rulings and [/SIZE][/COLOR][/COLOR]guidlines (shari'a) for all aspects of life. The second is "ash-hadu anna muhammad ar-rasool ullah" which means the belief that Muhammad (peace be upon him) is the seal of the prophets (i.e. the final one), whom Allah has sent with the Islamic religion to supercede all other previous religions and that it is obligatory to comply with what he has enjoined, and to abstain and renounce all that he has prohibited and restrained.

"ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illa allah ash-hadu anna muhammad ar-rasool ullah "
(I dare witness that there is no deity other then Allah and i dare witness that Muhammed is the prophet of Allah and i dare witness that jesus is the prophet and slave of Allah


:hearts:May Alllah light up your life with happines :hearts:




الذين امنوا وتطمئن قلوبهم بذكر الله الا بذكر الله تطمئن القلوب

Who have believed and whose hearts have rest in the remembrance of Allah. Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest!


قل يا عبادي الذين اسرفوا على انفسهم لا تقنطوا من رحمة الله ان الله يغفر الذنوب جميعا انه هو الغفور الرحيم

Say: O My slaves who have been prodigal to their own hurt! Despair not of the mercy of Allah, Who forgiveth all sins. Lo! He is the Forgiving, the Merciful.


وان يمسسك الله بضر فلا كاشف له الا هو وان يمسسك بخير فهو على كل شيء قدير

If Allah touch thee with affliction, there is none that can relieve therefrom save Him, and if He touch thee with good fortune (there is none that can impair it); for He is Able to do all things


وان يمسسك الله بضر فلا كاشف له الا هو وان يردك بخير فلا راد لفضله يصيب به من يشاء من عباده وهو الغفور الرحيم

If Allah afflicteth thee with some hurt, there is none who can remove it save Him; and if He desireth good for thee, there is none who can repel His bounty. He striketh with it whom He will of his bondmen. He is the Forgiving, the Merciful.

قُلِ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ وَسَلامٌ عَلَى عِبَادِهِ الَّذِينَ اصْطَفَى آللَّهُ خَيْرٌ أَمَّا يُشْرِكُونَ

أَمَّنْ خَلَقَ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضَ وَأَنزَلَ لَكُم مِّنَ السَّمَاء مَاء فَأَنبَتْنَا بِهِ حَدَائِقَ ذَاتَ بَهْجَةٍ مَّا كَانَ لَكُمْ أَن تُنبِتُوا شَجَرَهَا أَإِلَهٌ مَّعَ اللَّهِ بَلْ هُمْ قَوْمٌ يَعْدِلُونَ

أَمَّن جَعَلَ الأَرْضَ قَرَارًا وَجَعَلَ خِلالَهَا أَنْهَارًا وَجَعَلَ لَهَا رَوَاسِيَ وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَ الْبَحْرَيْنِ حَاجِزًا أَإِلَهٌ مَّعَ اللَّهِ بَلْ أَكْثَرُهُمْ لا يَعْلَمُونَ

أَمَّن يُجِيبُ الْمُضْطَرَّ إِذَا دَعَاهُ وَيَكْشِفُ السُّوءَ وَيَجْعَلُكُمْ خُلَفَاء الأَرْضِ أَإِلَهٌ مَّعَ اللَّهِ قَلِيلا مَّا تَذَكَّرُونَ

أَمَّن يَهْدِيكُمْ فِي ظُلُمَاتِ الْبَرِّ وَالْبَحْرِ وَمَن يُرْسِلُ الرِّيَاحَ بُشْرًا بَيْنَ يَدَيْ رَحْمَتِهِ أَإِلَهٌ مَّعَ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى اللَّهُ عَمَّا يُشْرِكُونَ
أَمَّن يَبْدَأُ الْخَلْقَ ثُمَّ يُعِيدُهُ وَمَن يَرْزُقُكُم مِّنَ السَّمَاء وَالأَرْضِ أَإِلَهٌ مَّعَ اللَّهِ قُلْ هَاتُوا بُرْهَانَكُمْ إِن كُنتُمْ صَادِقِين


[58) Say: Praise be to Allah, and Peace on His servants whom He has chosen (for his Message). (Who) is better?― Allah or the false gods they associate with Him? (59) Or who has created the heaven and the earth, and who sends you down rain from the sky? Yea, with it We cause to grow well-planted orchards full of beauty and delight: it is not in your power to cause the growth of the trees in them. (Can there be another) god besides Allah? Nay they are a people who swerve from justice. (60) Or, who has made the earth firm to live in; made rivers in its midst; set thereon mountains immovable; and made a separating bar between the two bodies of flowing water? (Can there be another) god besides Allah? Nay most of them know not. (61) Or, who listens to the (soul) distressed when it calls on Him, and who relieves its suffering, and makes you (mankind) inheritors of the earth? (Can there be another) god besides Allah? Little it is that ye heed! (62) Or, who guides you through the depths of darkness on land and sea, and who sends the winds as heralds of glad tidings, going before His mercy? (Can there be another) god besides Allah? High is Allah above what they associate with Him! (63) Or who originates Creation, then repeats it, and who gives you sustenance from heaven and earth? (Can there be another) god besides Allah? Say "Bring forth your argument, if ye are telling the truth



واذا سالك عبادي عني فاني قريب اجيب دعوة الداع اذا دعان فليستجيبوا لي وليؤمنوا بي لعلهم يرشدون
When My servants ask thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them); I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calleth on Me; let them also with a will listen to My call and believe in Me; that they may walk in the right way
 

sandra canada

Laa ilaha illa Allah
Regarding the issue of dating in Islam, one must first define what is meant by "dating." If it is understood to mean how a man and a woman get to know each other for the purpose of marriage, then there are certain guidelines and established procedures which can be discussed. However, if it is understood to refer to casual relationships between men and women who for the purpose of "fun" or "going out" and the such, then there is no provision for this in Islam. Such a situation is not considered respectful for neither the man nor the woman, nor is it constructive for the concept or the building of the family or society or social responsibility. Opening the door to relationships of love and infatuation and passion and pre-marital sex is categorically prohibited in Islam. It does not lead to the establishment of a family nor to proper and virtuous upbringing of children nor to stability and mutual care and tranquility and peace of mind between a man and woman. Rather, it leads to disorder, the disgracing of one's honor and dignity, and to a lifestyle similar to that of animals, and to that of illegitimate children who are subjected to life of vagrancy and loss.



As for the former case, regarding how a man and a woman come to know each other for the purpose of marriage, it varies from circumstance to circumstance. Normally if a man has the desire to marry and has the ability to accept the responsibility, and he does not have anyone in mind, he will ask his friends, family, and relatives if there is a lady that may be suitable for him and his expectations among their acquaintances and relatives. If someone is suggested, he normally asks about her extensively, about her religious observance, her personality, her knowledge, strengths, weaknesses, suitability as a wife willing to accept all the relevant responsibities, etc. If preliminary information seems appealing, then normally she is told that there is someone interested in meeting her and she is likewise given relevant information about him.

At this point, assuming the man and the woman as well as both families involved agree that there is potential, then the man usually visits the woman's family, often accompanied by members of his own. They are given the opportunity to see each other and sit and talk together, to converse modestly (but not in complete solitude) regarding whatever is relevant to making an informed judgment. The intention for this meeting should be for them to be able to make a decision whether or not they feel are mutually suitable. Afterwards, they each evaluate their own and their families' reactions, and pray to Allah that He guides them to what is in their best interest, and to make them accept the outcome. When both sides feel comfortable and feel they know everything they need to, based on all that has been mentioned such as asking about the other person, knowing their family, meeting in person, etc., they can make a final decision whether to carry on with marriage or not


:hearts: the procedure for embracing the religion of Islam, it is actually an extremely simple process, without complication or prolongment. This is because it is something between a person and his Lord and there are no other parties involved. All that is required of a person in order to embrace Islam is that he or she pronounce the two testaments of belief in the Islamic creed, believing in their meaning, then to take a complete bath with the intention of (ritual) purification in order to start performing prayers (note to ensure complete cleanliness one should shave pubic and under-arm hair, and a man should be circumcized if he is not already--Islam places great emphasis on proper hygiene and personal cleanliness).
 

najbc

Junior Member
ok im 17 years old im catholic and i am dating a muslim we have been together for 2 years and he recently told his mom about me. She wasn't all that mad like we thought she would be but she wants me to convert after i graduate, i talked to my mom and she said his culture is fine she has nothing against it but i shouldn't have to convert. Im really confused and have no clue what to do i just need advice and someone to talk to about stuff so if you could help me i would appriciate it VERY much

not convert for anyone but youreslf. if you truly care about this person than you should find more out about their bliefs and see where it takes you to.
 

islamservant

Egyptian sister
dear brandi

i fell u get sad and disturbed

no dear

no body of us is hurted:astag:

we r here to help everyone needs help

i will say nothing because what sister sandra masha allah is excellent

but dear

please do not go

keep on searching for islam

and remember it just for the sake of allah

no body else

and allah make ur boyfriend just a reason to know islam and want to understand it

please do not go :SMILY23:

we all here love u and want to help u:hearts:

may allah guide u to the straight path:tti_sister:

i am waiting for u dear
 

mohammed nasser

Junior Member
i have found out it is wrong to date in the islam religion but being in america things are different muslims are too americanized after time and i asked him why does he choose me among people of his own origin and religion and he doesnt have a good explanation he tells me because i love you and i know you will make the perfect wife and mom why would i choose an already muslim girl who may not finish school or not make me happy when i had the chance to know you and see what youre about and to know you are a good girl
im sorry if i hurt any of you by dating and if you think its wrong im sorry but whats done.. is done and obviously our love is strong enough to where he would choose me apposed to getting "engaged" to a woman he barely knows

dear , dating is not the problem or the case now.
do not mind about this nowadays
after learning Islam you will get more bovious access to understand case of dating in islam
hoping to hear from you
 

brandi313

New Member
EVERYONE

I appriciate everyones help,advice,information,and love. You all have helped me to realize whats right and you pushed me too keep searching and believing. I am setting up a date with my muslim friend sahari to go to the mosque with her to visit and see what its like and to learn more about allah and his amazement.
And again i thank you all!
:hijabi:
 

islamservant

Egyptian sister
Thanks God( alhadoliallah )

I am sooooooooo happy u did not go a way dear

And I wish u have a nice visit to the mosque
And please after u come tell us about ur visit
 

sandra canada

Laa ilaha illa Allah
I appriciate everyones help,advice,information,and love. You all have helped me to realize whats right and you pushed me too keep searching and believing. I am setting up a date with my muslim friend sahari to go to the mosque with her to visit and see what its like and to learn more about allah and his amazement.
And again i thank you all!
:hijabi:

Honestly i'll pray for you that May Allah light up your life with the truth and cheer up your life:hearts::::SMILY252::SMILY252::SMILY252::SMILY252::SMILY252::SMILY259:

الم يان للذين امنوا ان تخشع قلوبهم لذكر الله وما نزل من الحق ولا يكونوا كالذين اوتوا الكتاب من قبل فطال عليهم الامد فقست قلوبهم وكثير منهم فاسقون

Is not the time ripe for the hearts of those who believe to submit to Allah's reminder and to the truth which is revealed, that they become not as those who received the scripture of old but the term was prolonged for them and so their hearts were hardened, and many of them are evil-livers

ان المسلمين والمسلمات والمؤمنين والمؤمنات والقانتين والقانتات والصادقين والصادقات والصابرين والصابرات والخاشعين والخاشعات والمتصدقين والمتصدقات والصائمين والصائمات والحافظين فروجهم والحافظات والذاكرين الله كثيرا والذاكرات اعد الله لهم مغفرة واجرا عظيما

Lo! men who surrender unto Allah, and women who surrender, and men who believe and women who believe, and men who obey and women who obey, and men who speak the truth and women who speak the truth, and men who persevere (in righteousness) and women who persevere, and men who are humble and women who are humble, and men who give alms and women who give alms, and men who fast and women who fast, and men who guard their modesty and women who guard (their modesty), and men who remember Allah much and women who remember - Allah hath prepared for them forgiveness and a vast reward
 

Almeftah

Junior Member
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Islam isnt just a religion, Its a way of life.
 

brandi313

New Member
i want you all to know

So i have something very exciting for everyone..


I MEMORIZED THE PRAYER THE WORDS AND GESTURES FOR IT!! I AM SO PROUD OF MYSELF AND I HOPE YOU ARE PROUD ALSO

ALLAH HAS GUIDED ME TO HIS HEART
 
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