dawahforever
Junior Member
I knew a couple exactly like you before in my hometown. They met in a bar and they got along great and got married. Then they had a daughter and he completely changed and decided to become religious..having kids does it to most muslims everytime. She didn't like it either and they kept separating and getting back together. I'm not sure of what became of them though since I moved away. A lot of muslims think that practicing Islam is something for when you get old so when they are young they like to live a little. Of course this is wrong and the fallout for their non-muslim gf and wives and the kids that come along is unbelievable. Your husband is right in wanting to turn himself around but wrong in his approach. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was never rough with people but always kind, soft, gentle ,merciful and if he hadn't been that way no one would have listened to his message. Your husband needs to take the same approach. I think he is angry because he is mad at himself and is taking it out on you. Maybe sit down and talk to him when he is calm and say I would love to learn more about your religion but only if you are willing to talk to me in a nice way. If that doesn't work then maybe contact his family and talk to them about it. YOu should also read or watch about Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)for example the movie The Message and see how his approach was. When you see what a beautiful example he was a human being, as a muslim , as a leader, as a preacher etc you will have a different feeling than the one your husband is giving you. In fact I suggest you watch it together. I pray that Allah will soften your husband's heart and approach.