Marriages are always rocking, either ways
Though its cross cultural , your beliefs [religion], and compatibility should work right. There should be some common denominator that acts the hook or bridge in the marriage. Trust, talk, time,touch... are the words that comes to my mind when it comes to marriage. Firstly, this marriage should be within the bounds of religious tenets, Halaal and not Haraam..
From folks i have seen... Dont judge , but understand. Don't overlook whats important to the culture of spouse you are marrying to, Give each other time to adjust. Don't do/overdo something from your spouse culture, when you are not yet comfortable with it. Communicate , that strengthens bond and avoids confront. When relatives are involved, be tolerant in doubtful scenarios. Respect each others space. You will have to win the trust , confidence or approval of some friends / key relatives of your spouse, because they could come to your spouse counsel or yours, when matters become difficult in the marriage. Make friends or meet elders who approve of your marriage in first place. We humans are social
There have been other threads here, that have partly thrown light on cross-cultural marriage stories. I will give link if I get them
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My husband and I came from very different socio-economic backgrounds and that has led to some issues between us. I grew up in a single parent home with my mom working 2 jobs to support us and I was left home alone often. My husband grew up in a 2 parent affluent home. After he lost his job he had and still has issues with money and not understanding that no he can't go buy the newest video game. That can cause issues between people too. I just now handle the money in the house with his blessing and it has stopped most of the those issues.
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My husband and I came from very different socio-economic backgrounds and that has led to some issues between us. I grew up in a single parent home with my mom working 2 jobs to support us and I was left home alone often. My husband grew up in a 2 parent affluent home. After he lost his job he had and still has issues with money and not understanding that no he can't go buy the newest video game. That can cause issues between people too. I just now handle the money in the house with his blessing and it has stopped most of the those issues.
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We are both only children actually which is where I can understand his wanting things which does help. He does go shopping with me often as does our son as well. I will say he is getting better and we have a rough budget which he does hold to but it's still a fight now and again. He does understand that he does need to make sacrifices so our son has what he needs which is far better then it was. One thing that is nice is my husband is a great cook so the food bill is well in hand when he cooks, he needs to be a chef.
would be interested to hear about peoples experiences in cross cultural marriages,,,especially european-arab ,if anyone cares to give their story..
would be interested to hear about peoples experiences in cross cultural marriages,,,especially european-arab ,if anyone cares to give their story..