There is something that is really bothering me. My older brother married his girlfriend, after they lived together for a few years. Right before the nikkah she agreed to convert to Islam. They have 2 kids now, and they are raising them muslim although not strictly. They are teenagers. My bro and his wife have a good marriage, have been married for 20 years now, but they are not super-duper practicing. They observe Ramadan, don't eat pork, sometimes go to jummah, make zakaat, are otherwise "good" people. Etc. They don't read salaat. Yesterday my 18 year old niece says to me "dad was 25 and mom was 19 when they started dating, hahaha." They got married 10 years laters. So here's whats bothering me. My brother dated this nonmuslim girl, lived together, and then had a nikkah with my parents' blessings and the approval of the local imam at the time (who was really close to my family). He now has 2 healthy daughters, and a nice home because both he and his wife work, etc. Meanwhile, I am all alone and struggling financially, and no one ever really talked about me getting married. My father and 2 brothers never really helped and the message delivered to me always was - be a good muslim, work hard, and then take care of your parents. It seems to me that my brother got the blessings of Allah through sin. He ended up with a nice family and financial security and my parents' blessings, by doing what we as muslims are instructed NOT to do. He followed the wrong path, and just by the girlfriend converting to Islam, he now has a companion, nice children, security, protection, etc. The daughters are nice and intelligent and good to their grandparents, and they do have a strong muslim identity. This is really bothering me. My brother has not had to spend his life alone and childless because he did everything wrong. I did not date or challenge my parents in any way (he was the "black sheep" in the family), and still no one in my ffamily lifted a finger to help me. And whereas my parents do not say a thing about my struggles and instead my father takes every opportunity to make me feel guilty if I don't do enough for them, they bask in my brothers happiness and do everything they can to make his life easy and content (for example, they were renovating their kitchen so my dad gave him money; my dad helped pay for my niece's school trip even though when I was that age I would NEVER have been allowed to go on such a trip; my sister in law does not call or visit my mother when she is sick but when my sister in law is sick my parents rush to her side). Is there somethign wrong with this picture????? And why is it eating me up inside????