failed to say salaam :(

[nyerekareem]

:salam2:

there is this muslim woman that works at my job, and all of the men are terribly attracted to her. most of them aren't even muslim. she is very shy and modest. but she is aware of all the attention that she gets. i do admit that she is beautiful, however i never told her that i was a muslim. i believe that she may have an idea that i am, but she hasn't asked. therefore i have never said salaam to her. i always say good morning or how are you? but never said salaam to her. i feel terrible about it. the reason why i haven't given her a salaam is because i know that there are so many guys that like her, i don't want her to think that i'm just trying to impress her, trying to get on her good side. i have no interest in her further than a co-worker. i just feel that i'm being fake if i say it to her now. i should've said it in the beginning. what should i do?

 

[justoneofmillion]

assalamu aleikum.what tells you that she is muslim brother if i may ask does she wear the hijab or so?and i think you should say salam if she is a sister

 

[Steve940]

Asalamu alaikum,

Don't be worried, say the salam and Insha'Allah soon like about a week or two when you say salam, it will feel natural.

 

[TheHumbleWun]

You should say salaamalikum out of respect and be professional about it, not because of what the other guys are saying or whatever. It's a Muslim etiquette.

walaakum salaam

 

[amyaishazouaoui]

:salam2:

say salams and get the reward inshallah.

 

[Muhammad_A]

As salaamu alaykum

That's what I was told too (i.e. if you say: "As salaamu alaykum" to someone and they don't give you a: "Wa alaykum as salaam" back the angels say it instead).

Wa salaam

PS. I'm saying "no". Why am I saying "no"?

 

[nyerekareem]

she is definetly a muslim. wears hijab, prays etc. i also know that her family is muslim too.

 

[amyaishazouaoui]

As salaamu alaykum

That's what I was told too (i.e. if you say: "As salaamu alaykum" to someone and they don't give you a: "Wa alaykum as salaam" back the angels say it instead).

Wa salaam

PS. I'm saying "no". Why am I saying "no"?

coz its a girl and boys aren't meant to talk to girls.

 

[nyerekareem]

there is one brother that i know, that never gives me a wa laykum salaam. i know he is a muslim. but when another muslim comes around, he gives him the salaams.

 

[Muhammad_A]

coz its a girl and boys aren't meant to talk to girls.

Okay. This is me not talking to you then

No skin off my nose, the only thing I require from a woman is COMPLETE OBEDIENCE. MWUHAHAHAHA. Conversation is superfluous.

 

[samiha]

:salam2:

If saying salaam to her may provoke attraction or fitnah of any type you should not do it. A woman's voice is also her awrah, in case anyone forgot.

 

[nyerekareem]

:salam2:

If saying salaam to her may provoke attraction or fitnah of any type you should not do it. A woman's voice is also her awrah, in case anyone forgot.

she is attractive, but i'm not interested in her in that way. i just think that it's wrong for me to say salaam to every other muslim that i meet and not saying it to her.

 

[Umm Aysha]

Asalaamu Alaykum

For giving salutations of peace, there is no objection to greeting her with the lawful Islamic salutation of peace which does not lead to the causes of temptation. Likewise, there is no sin in her giving salutations to him, without shaking hands, because shaking hands with an unrelated woman is not permissible. Rather, the salutation should be offered from a distance, wearing Hijab and abstaining from the causes of temptation (Fitnah) and without them being alone together. So there is no objection to the lawful Islamic greeting in which there is no temptation (Fitnah). However, if his giving salutations to her or her giving salutations to him is likely to lead to temptation, that is, his being aroused and feeling desire, which Allaah has forbidden, then that is forbidden by the Islamic Law. And Allaah is the Granter of success.

However, in all these cases, Islamic rules in this regard, including the lowering of the gaze, are to be observed.

Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez Bin Baz

wsalaam

 

[zOaib]

Assalam wa Alikum , i dotn post much as you can see but i do read a lot and have been for a while , and today i decided to reply to your post brother because i kinda felt compelled to do so as Islam and being a muslim i feel very proud and honored when i hear someone saying salaam wa alikum to me and me saying salaam to a fellow muslim whether be a guy or a girl ........ you have to remember Allah SWT is present in every moment and every breath you take , nothing goes past Him Inshallah ........... whenever i see a woman wearing the Hijab anywhere , campus , mall , amusment park , coffee shop , i say Salaam wa alikum to her , because that is the Duty of a muslim ......... and our recognition .........

i admire how regular american people greet each other with a smile and say good mornign , how are u , please have a ncie day etc etc , without even knowing the person , isnt that what we as muslims are supposed to do basically even a smile is a sadaqah inshallah

i understand that the sister maybe attractive because Allah SWT blessed her with beauty , instead of shying away you should greet her with Salaam for the cause of Allah and his pleasure alone , without caring what she thinks or the people aorund u think , cause those uncertainities are the devils play and which will make your shyness more obvious ........... if you sincerely Say salaam wa alikum to her with the love of Allah and her being a fellow muslim your attitude will not go to waste Inshallah , and Allah SWT will put the right feeling in her heart about your sincerety because Allah SWT does not wrongs the ones who do things with the right intention.

inshallah please do not delay and say the Salaam to her as soon as you can.

 

[nyerekareem]

:salam2:

i never thought that i would get as many responses when i started this thread. it seems like the majority rules, so inshallah when i see her i will say salaam to her.

jazakallah khair for all of the advice.