ShahnazZ
Striving2BeAStranger
Hope everyone's in the best state of health and iman. I've been kind of MIA from the forum for awhile because I've been in grad school but that's where my current dilemma springs from.
*DISCLAIMER: For those that feel compelled to give me some "tough love", I'm really not in the best place to absorb that right now and will most likely bite your head off. Therefore, please exercise compassion when writing your responses.*
So I'm currently in grad school and so far it's been pretty challenging but I was motivated to overcome all the obstacles in my path so I could graduate on time. While taking one of the most challenging exams ever, I prayed to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to grant me success as this exam would determine whether I passed or failed this particular course. I studied for months and prepared myself thoroughly. On the day of the exam, I got the exam timings confused and thought I had an hour longer than I really did. No warning was given until 4 minutes before the time the exam had to be handed in and by then I had only answered half the questions. My exam was literally snatched away frome me despite half the questions still remaining blank.
My professor ended up failing me, from not only the exam but from the course as well. I spoke to my professor and my program advisor about this incident. Both believed that there was nothing that could be done as giving me any kind of special treatment would be unfair to the other students, despite the fact that I was the only one who had failed the entire course. As a result, department policy states that I cannot continue my Master's Program until I retake the course I failed...which is only offered once a year. That means, I have to wait until next year to retake the course and resume my program. By then, my fellow students will have graduated and I'll still be stuck here.
What I'm having trouble with is the fact that I not only made excessive dua to pass all my classes as well as this exam, but that I prayed istikhara before entering into this program. This program was not originally at the top of my list but over time I grew into it. Now that I'm settled, this catastrophe happens to me and I'm basically being kicked out for the remaining 8 months of the year.
I can't help but feel betrayed. What I asked Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for literally ended up the OPPOSITE of what I wanted. I asked to pass the exam with flying colors and instead, the paper was literally SNATCHED out of my hand where I failed by default. I asked to be able to pass the course and instead I'm being asked to step out of the program. I've asked Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for guidance every step of the way and I felt I was following His Guidance. Suddenly now I feel like I don't know anything anymore.
How could this injustice happen to me? Every moment is torture. I had the next three years of my life practically planned out and now everything's a mess. My goal of getting my Masters is now more difficult than ever.
As a Believer, I put all my trust and my faith in Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and the knowledge that He would help me. Instead, how could the exact OPPOSITE happen to me?
I have no idea how I'm going to get over this or move on for the remaining year. I keep praying for strength and although my pain seems to be dwindling at times, it begins all over again when I wake up the next morning. The summer portion of the course starts in a few days and I won't be able to attend. None of the other students know and those that I've connected with and become attached to are oblivious and will be absolutely shocked when they find out I won't be in the program any longer. Additionally, it's not easy for me to connect with people as much and I'm going to have to go through the same thing all over again next year when I'm placed with the next incoming class.
How can I make sense of what's going on and keep my Iman high at the same time? I know most of the comments will most likely be similar to those made by my mother. Her philosophy is to maintain sabr and believe that there is goodness in this and that we can't possibly understand Allah's Hikmah. Although I usually go by the same motto most of the time, I'm having trouble grasping just how that would apply right now. How is my life being turned upside down good for me? It's been a week since this happened and I understand that right now is when it's going to hurt the most but I really have no idea what I'm going to do.
JazakAllah khair for listening.
*DISCLAIMER: For those that feel compelled to give me some "tough love", I'm really not in the best place to absorb that right now and will most likely bite your head off. Therefore, please exercise compassion when writing your responses.*
So I'm currently in grad school and so far it's been pretty challenging but I was motivated to overcome all the obstacles in my path so I could graduate on time. While taking one of the most challenging exams ever, I prayed to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to grant me success as this exam would determine whether I passed or failed this particular course. I studied for months and prepared myself thoroughly. On the day of the exam, I got the exam timings confused and thought I had an hour longer than I really did. No warning was given until 4 minutes before the time the exam had to be handed in and by then I had only answered half the questions. My exam was literally snatched away frome me despite half the questions still remaining blank.
My professor ended up failing me, from not only the exam but from the course as well. I spoke to my professor and my program advisor about this incident. Both believed that there was nothing that could be done as giving me any kind of special treatment would be unfair to the other students, despite the fact that I was the only one who had failed the entire course. As a result, department policy states that I cannot continue my Master's Program until I retake the course I failed...which is only offered once a year. That means, I have to wait until next year to retake the course and resume my program. By then, my fellow students will have graduated and I'll still be stuck here.
What I'm having trouble with is the fact that I not only made excessive dua to pass all my classes as well as this exam, but that I prayed istikhara before entering into this program. This program was not originally at the top of my list but over time I grew into it. Now that I'm settled, this catastrophe happens to me and I'm basically being kicked out for the remaining 8 months of the year.
I can't help but feel betrayed. What I asked Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for literally ended up the OPPOSITE of what I wanted. I asked to pass the exam with flying colors and instead, the paper was literally SNATCHED out of my hand where I failed by default. I asked to be able to pass the course and instead I'm being asked to step out of the program. I've asked Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for guidance every step of the way and I felt I was following His Guidance. Suddenly now I feel like I don't know anything anymore.
How could this injustice happen to me? Every moment is torture. I had the next three years of my life practically planned out and now everything's a mess. My goal of getting my Masters is now more difficult than ever.
As a Believer, I put all my trust and my faith in Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and the knowledge that He would help me. Instead, how could the exact OPPOSITE happen to me?
I have no idea how I'm going to get over this or move on for the remaining year. I keep praying for strength and although my pain seems to be dwindling at times, it begins all over again when I wake up the next morning. The summer portion of the course starts in a few days and I won't be able to attend. None of the other students know and those that I've connected with and become attached to are oblivious and will be absolutely shocked when they find out I won't be in the program any longer. Additionally, it's not easy for me to connect with people as much and I'm going to have to go through the same thing all over again next year when I'm placed with the next incoming class.
How can I make sense of what's going on and keep my Iman high at the same time? I know most of the comments will most likely be similar to those made by my mother. Her philosophy is to maintain sabr and believe that there is goodness in this and that we can't possibly understand Allah's Hikmah. Although I usually go by the same motto most of the time, I'm having trouble grasping just how that would apply right now. How is my life being turned upside down good for me? It's been a week since this happened and I understand that right now is when it's going to hurt the most but I really have no idea what I'm going to do.
JazakAllah khair for listening.