help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! me out :)

allah is with me

allah is with me

Rabana Wa laqal Hamd
:salam2: brothers and sisters ..
well, i have many foolish doubts ..... and after entering this forum , slowly, slowly all my doubts are getting vanished ...just few doubts left ...
well let mt ask my first doubt...
can we meet and spend a lot of time with our fiance ..is it permitted in islam , because many of my relatives say that we cannot meet our fiances till the marriage ..is it true??????????
 
fada_all

fada_all

Junior Member
i think so sister because who konws the end of this ,wether he will be your husband or not??
 
ShyHijabi

ShyHijabi

Junior Member
Salaam,

That is a rather inprecise answer...just "No you can't" and not quite right. You cannot be ALONE with a nonmahrem male but you can speak to the brother with your family in the room. How else can you assure that you will be compatable? Everything from how the finances will be managed, to raising the children, to the expectations from your mate need to be gone over.

Blind matches are actually forbidden in Islam as hadiths explain. (Rasool told someone to meet the person and look at them at least) If someone tells you something is haram then you ask for daleel, otherwise it's just heresay.

Wasalaam
 
S

stiks

Amatur-Rahman
Asalaamualaykum sister,

I think it depends on your concept of a fiancee, if you've already done the nikah then you don't need a mahram i don't think, but if you haven't done it then a mahram will have to be present. Allahu a'lam.
 
a_muslimah86

a_muslimah86

Hubbi Li Rabbi
Staff member
stiks said:
Asalaamualaykum sister,

I think it depends on your concept of a fiancee, if you've already done the nikah then you don't need a mahram i don't think, but if you haven't done it then a mahram will have to be present. Allahu a'lam.
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This correct...Nikah makes the brother who proposes to you..your husband..and you will still wait for the final condition of marriage which is Ish'haar (i.e. making a wedding..walima..formal announcement..etc.)...so you can hang out with him..talk with him and the like..BUT..it's best that no physical relations take place until Ish'haar is done :)

The word *fiance* I think puts a Muslim *in a bit of a pickle*..as we do not have "engagements"..we have a proposal..then a period of negotiation..istikhara..etc. and then acceptance or refusal...any period of "getting to know each other"..either happens with the presence of a mahram BEFORE nikah..or without the presence of a mahram AFTER nikah

:wasalam:
 
FreedomFighter

FreedomFighter

Junior Member
:salam2:

yes u can meet him and talk to him. but u cant touch. and there is usually the presence of a mahram also.

dont males and females see each other everyday? dont they talk sometimes when its necessary? then how come u cant see the person u r going to marry? u cant see him, u cant talk to him. its not that u cant talk to him at all, definitely u can.
 
IslamIsTheFuture

IslamIsTheFuture

알라후 아크바르-Allah Akbar
FreedomFighter said:
:salam2:

yes u can meet him and talk to him. but u cant touch. and there is usually the presence of a mahram also.

dont males and females see each other everyday? dont they talk sometimes when its necessary? then how come u cant see the person u r going to marry? u cant see him, u cant talk to him. its not that u cant talk to him at all, definitely u can.
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I agree 2 that
 
BinteShafi

BinteShafi

Left long ago
:salam2:

Praise be to Allaah.
With regard to your question, it is not permissible at all for you to be alone with this man, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“No man and woman are alone together, but the Shaytaan is the third one present.”

There is nothing wrong with talking to him from behind a screen, such as on the telephone, so long as this is done in a proper manner, with no suspicious talk and no fitnah (temptation), and as long as you do not overdo it (or talk too much). You should only talk as much as is necessary.


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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid


Praise be to Allaah.

It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman who is not his mahram, because that affords temptation to do immoral and evil actions. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a (non-mahram) woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present.” It is permitted to look at her when one has the intention of marriage, without being alone with her and in the presence of her father, brother, mother, etc., and looking at that which ordinarily appears of her, such as her face, hair, hands and feet. This is what is indicated by the Sunnah, so long as one is also free from the risk of fitnah (temptation).



Shaykh Waleed al-Firyaan

:wasalam:
 
allah is with me

allah is with me

Rabana Wa laqal Hamd
FreedomFighter said:
:salam2:

yes u can meet him and talk to him. but u cant touch. and there is usually the presence of a mahram also.

dont males and females see each other everyday? dont they talk sometimes when its necessary? then how come u cant see the person u r going to marry? u cant see him, u cant talk to him. its not that u cant talk to him at all, definitely u can.
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ya! i feel that your right ...........
 
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