I am still scratching my head

[Aapa]

Salaam,

My dear brothers and sisters...today after Sunday school our most respected sister came to me and told me that a pious brother had telephoned her and complained about me. I must add he is married. All our brothers except for the Saudi students are married.
His complaint was my wearing my Palestinian scarfs. He felt that I am bringing politics into the masjid and making it unsafe.
My thoughts are why is he looking at me. Why did he not have his wife come to me? And who is he to dictate to me what I wear. I am divorced. I am an adult and I thanks to Allah subhana talla provide for myself. He has no claim on me.
I would like your views so I can think this through. I do not wish to dig a hole in my head by scratching. I believe that one can not separate Islam into compartments.

 

[ShyHijabi]

Salaam sister,

I would...politely respond that he can cure his problem (and offense) by simply by lowering his gaze. He has no rights over you and frankly, should be ashamed that he even noticed your scarf. If he kept his eyes on the ground or on other nonharam areas he wouldn't even be aware of your clothing.

You are not making the masjid unsafe by wearing a scarf, how could that be? He needs to mind his own business and stick to praying his prayers in the mosque and not critiqueing nonmahrem's clothing choice.

Wasalaam

 

[Aapa]

Salaam,

I do not know his identity. It was conveyed to me that my love for Palestine should be kept at home. That is my real issue. I thought the masjid was a place for us to be able to love our brothers and sisters all over the world. And I do not limit my love as we are all creation of Allah subhana talla we must ensure all humans are not oppressed.

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:
I think this kind of thinking is one cause of our failer as muslems , Islam should unite all muslems , My advice is that try to be calm , May Allah reward you for your care about other muslems.

 

[palestine]

Salaam,

I do not know his identity. It was conveyed to me that my love for Palestine should be kept at home. That is my real issue. I thought the masjid was a place for us to be able to love our brothers and sisters all over the world. And I do not limit my love as we are all creation of Allah subhana talla we must ensure all humans are not oppressed.

Lol!!! this is stupid! our love for palestine should be kept in our homes, in our masjids and everywhere we go!!! how the heck could someone say that?!! ugh. fools. sister....wear whatever you want! palestine or iraq...doesn't matter...they are our brothers and sisters and people SHOULD NOT BE ASHAMED TO SHOW THEIR LOVE FOR THEM AS A SUPPORT. I JUST HAPPEN TO NOT HAVE ANYTHING THAT IS PALESTINIAN BUT IF I DID...I SURE WOULD TAKE IT EVERYWHERE WITH ME AS A REMINDER TO PEOPLE AND MYSELF.
so don't listen to this dude who complained....that's he's problem and his own stupidity.:salam2:

 

[aroojimran]

Salaam,

My dear brothers and sisters...today after Sunday school our most respected sister came to me and told me that a pious brother had telephoned her and complained about me. I must add he is married. All our brothers except for the Saudi students are married.
His complaint was my wearing my Palestinian scarfs. He felt that I am bringing politics into the masjid and making it unsafe.
My thoughts are why is he looking at me. Why did he not have his wife come to me? And who is he to dictate to me what I wear. I am divorced. I am an adult and I thanks to Allah subhana talla provide for myself. He has no claim on me.
I would like your views so I can think this through. I do not wish to dig a hole in my head by scratching. I believe that one can not separate Islam into compartments.

Dear Sister

Salamalykum

Its really sad that the person has troubled u so much emotionaly..But,take it easy,dear..That person has absolutely no right over you..He isnt yor muharram that he wil dictate terms to u!Infact wt u r doing,has a noble cause.It reflects your love for humanity,For the ppl of PALESTINE...

Dont worry,keep your cool,sister..
May Allah reward you!

 

[wannabe_muttaqi]

ASAK

ASAK,
All i would say is, IGNORE his words and move on.
May Peace be with you always. Ameen.

JAK

 

[islamisthesolution]

:salam2:

never mind sister as long as you wear the islamic clothing dont care about him and dont think about it .

:salam2:

 

[al-fajr]

Salaam,

My dear brothers and sisters...today after Sunday school our most respected sister came to me and told me that a pious brother had telephoned her and complained about me. I must add he is married. All our brothers except for the Saudi students are married.
His complaint was my wearing my Palestinian scarfs. He felt that I am bringing politics into the masjid and making it unsafe.
My thoughts are why is he looking at me. Why did he not have his wife come to me? And who is he to dictate to me what I wear. I am divorced. I am an adult and I thanks to Allah subhana talla provide for myself. He has no claim on me.
I would like your views so I can think this through. I do not wish to dig a hole in my head by scratching. I believe that one can not separate Islam into compartments.

May Allaah guide this man.

If there was anywhere where it was contraversial to discuss politics it would be in a University, and one of my friends often wears one of those scarves , its even got 'Al-Quds' on it somewhere so cannot be mistaken for a mere fasion statement.

Also, it doesnt matter about the 'hes not your mahram' point, even if a mahram told me not to wear it in this context I still would ..I dont think any person should come in the way of expressing your support for Palestinians. As long as its not against hijaab or something Allaah commanded, they shouldnt stop you unless they can bring some evidence.

Ignore him. In your case I would be very tempted to tell him exactly what I think of what he said, but a better approach would be to excercise patience and ignore him and continue wearing it.

:salam2:

PS

And I do not limit my love as we are all creation of Allah subhana talla we must ensure all humans are not oppressed.

I think this man himself is oppressed - by his own lack of intellect.

 

[mezeren]

Salaam,

My dear brothers and sisters...today after Sunday school our most respected sister came to me and told me that a pious brother had telephoned her and complained about me. I must add he is married. All our brothers except for the Saudi students are married.
His complaint was my wearing my Palestinian scarfs. He felt that I am bringing politics into the masjid and making it unsafe.
My thoughts are why is he looking at me. Why did he not have his wife come to me? And who is he to dictate to me what I wear. I am divorced. I am an adult and I thanks to Allah subhana talla provide for myself. He has no claim on me.
I would like your views so I can think this through. I do not wish to dig a hole in my head by scratching. I believe that one can not separate Islam into compartments.

:salam2:

i don't know the situation but he might have noticed your scarf without intentionally looking at you.But i can not understand why he would think your scarf is a political issue.if you carry something which says hamas or el-fetih on it that would be political.We just care about innocent people anywhere around the world and there is nothing wrong when you show your support for them.Besides,i do not think that he is in a position to tell you how to dress or behave.if he is the imam of the masjid then he could warn anyone when he/she gets into politics in the masjid which is not the case for you as far i can see.

 

[a_muslimah86]

:salam2:

If he feels unsafe because of a scarf..then he can go find himself another masjid!

Sobhanallah!

He's sticking his nose in your business like no other..and he needs to be put back in place...

I wouldn't say anything back to him..and if I can locate a bigger scarf..I will find one and wear it and walk around the masjid PROUDLY..and we'll see what he'll do

What a man this one is!

I wish I was in your masjid sister...I would have started wearing one..and convinced other sisters to do it..just to send him a silent but very direct *KEEP THE GOB SHUT AND MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS* ..and since it seems that some men have forgotten about it!!!..I would press the Imam to make a khutba about the *VIRTUES OF LOWERING THE GAZE!*..ASAP!

(I am seriously aggravated by this guy!!!..ugh!!!)

 

[Asja]

Salaam,

My dear brothers and sisters...today after Sunday school our most respected sister came to me and told me that a pious brother had telephoned her and complained about me. I must add he is married. All our brothers except for the Saudi students are married.

Allaicumu Salam dear sister Mirjamon

I apologise dear sister but in this situation for what is relevan information that our brother in Islam is married???

His complaint was my wearing my Palestinian scarfs. He felt that I am bringing politics into the masjid and making it unsafe.

Allhamdullilah that you have right to wear any scaarf that you want and wallahi you should not pay a loot of atention on some opinions becouse they will always be different. What is imortante is that Allah be pleased with us.

My thoughts are why is he looking at me. Why did he not have his wife come to me? And who is he to dictate to me what I wear.

Dear sister you said that our brother in Islam has comment your scarf, so by that he was not looking at you but in your scarf. And it can also be that he saw your scarf accidently without intention to watch and Allah knows the best.

May Allah guide us all and protect us Inshallah.:tti_sister:

 

[halah]

:salam2:

As long as what you wear don't contradict with the islmic hijab then don't busy your mind.

 

[TheHumbleWun]

Salaam,

It would be real interesting to have a discussion with the brother who said you shouldn't wear the Palestinian scarf. We need further investigation. Perhaps some incident happened where someone got hurt in the masjid or some hate crimes happened around the masjid for whatever reason that led him to make those comments.

It's true we Muslims are not suppose to be nationalistic nor should our country be symbol of pride, but when a group of people are suffering we have to distinguish them for understanding purposes. As a result, we should not have fear of anyone no matter what 'Islamic' garments we are wearing. We should only fear Allah swt.

Also, it makes sense to take sides with the Muslims who are being oppressed & killed under the hands of Zionists & Evangelical Christians. In fact, the Palestinian side is not even shown on U.S. media. The only favor the views of the Zionists. The Prophet (peace be upon him) even said that when one Muslim dies it should affect the Muslim ummah as a whole.

Islam teaches us to have courage and fear none but Him above.

 

[nizar83]

aselemu aleikum sister

as a muslim brother, i cant even comprehend his comment...mashallah
its exactly this kind of behaviour the kuffar want us to conduct..forgetting about palestine and or every other muslim place in the world being oppressed..frankly i find that BS..wear muslim clothing sister, and ALLAH ta3ala will see your effort.

 

[Aapa]

Salaam,

It is relevant that he is married as he should have had his wife speak to me.
Everyone knows I am a little eccentric. It comes with being Miraj's mother. I have worn the scarfs for a long time. ( Besides my students love them).

My major concern is the lack of concern for the well being of others. The brother is scared. He does not wish for his business to suffer. He had a non-Muslim friend visit the masjid on the very day that I wore my homemade rhinestone jihad headband.

I do admit I bring politics into the masjid. I would be a liar if I told you I do not. I am the one with the posters, I am the one who organized the protest, and I am the one with the postcards for Dr. Affia Siddiqui that the Sunday school children filled out. I provide the links for Islamic websites etc.

However, I will ignore him. I will not stop being my activist self. I do not interfere with the masjid. I am a simple woman who tapes and tacks what is going on in the world. And everyone knows that I love my brothers and sisters in Palestine; they humble me. They keep the faith and make mine stronger.

I thank my brothers and sisters on TTI for listening to me. And we all know I will wear two scarfs next week.