I want to convert, but have no moral support.

Shasmeen

Junior Member
Salaam

I'm in need of some advice please. I'm Christian, only cos i was born into a Christian family. I do not practive it at all. I havent in years as there are a few things i do not agree with. In the last few months i have had a lot of exposure to Islam. This sparked a revolution. My thirst for knowledge hasn't stopped. I'm already off haraam foods and stuff like that. My whole personality has changed for the better, cause I wanna be the person God intended me to be.

I know I will revert to Islam, but I'm afraid to just yet. I am a young divorcee with two small kids. I don't know where or how to start with them. I live in a non-Muslim community and i have no support. I have to rely on internet and tv.

My fear is that if I take my shahada now, I might be doing something wrong. I feel so lost. I also want to know if I want to convert my kids, do I need their father's permission?

I have downloaded a few books and a English vesion of the Quran. I have dreamt twice of saying my shahada and the dream left me feeling so good. I felt so much peace.
Please help me take the next step.

Jazakallah khair
 

Seeking Allah's Mercy

Qul HuwaAllahu Ahud!

Wa `Alaykum,

Welcome to TTI sister. Pleased to have you with us.

Ukht, my advice to you is, say the Shahadah as soon as possible. You've found the truth and you know your way ahead. The fears inside your head are no more than satanic whispers. The Qur`an calls these whispers Wiswas, or waswasa as comes in Suran Naas of the Holy Qur`an.

Don't be scared, if you find Islam to be the right option, go ahead and take shahadah without furthur delay. You never know which second is your last.

As for your kids. They are upon the fitrah (nature), they believe in One true God already. All you got to do is teach them how to worship Allaah.

My prayers are with you sister. May Allaah aid you.

P.S. There must be a mosque or something, try and get in touch with the local Muslim community.
 

a_stranger

Junior Member
Peace for you dear sister:

I am very happy that you found the truth , just like what our sister seeking Allah 's mercy said go on say the shahada , then start learning how to pray and pray ....teach your kids Islam it is their natural essance. Try to find muslems around you who can support you but be careful whom to choose. may Allah subhanahu wa taaala lighten your heart with his love. :salah:
 

Shasmeen

Junior Member
Thank you sisters.

Not to use as an excuse, but my kids (6 yr old twins ) already pray and believe in Jesus (pbuh) as the son of god. When they visit their father he takes them to church. Changing their perception is my challange. Any good bedtime storybook ideas about the life of the prophet (pbuh)?

I will start reading Suran Naas, as I didnt know which book to begin with.
 

kalamazoo

'Millat "IBRAHIM" {AleyhiSalaam}
Salaam

I'm in need of some advice please. I'm Christian, only cos i was born into a Christian family. I do not practive it at all. I havent in years as there are a few things i do not agree with. In the last few months i have had a lot of exposure to Islam. This sparked a revolution. My thirst for knowledge hasn't stopped. I'm already off haraam foods and stuff like that. My whole personality has changed for the better, cause I wanna be the person God intended me to be.

I know I will revert to Islam, but I'm afraid to just yet. I am a young divorcee with two small kids. I don't know where or how to start with them. I live in a non-Muslim community and i have no support. I have to rely on internet and tv.

My fear is that if I take my shahada now, I might be doing something wrong. I feel so lost. I also want to know if I want to convert my kids, do I need their father's permission?

I have downloaded a few books and a English vesion of the Quran. I have dreamt twice of saying my shahada and the dream left me feeling so good. I felt so much peace.
Please help me take the next step.

Jazakallah khair

asalaam aleykum.

.. I live in a non-Muslim community and i have no support. I have to rely on internet and tv. ...

to my advice...do not expose yourself just hide and act to the teachings of Kuran,(and outwardly as before but care of the teachings you must do) they are not far different to bible if you will check .

just as a matter of encouraging...that...Rome was not built in a day.

The wife of Pharaoh-was a Muslim(imagine how she hid as is mentioned in Kuran) so take great care(till Allah opens some ways(Wa Huwa Yaalam)

About Kuran in English try this one below

http://www.tafheem.net/tafheem.html

and there are some other books I recommend for you to read and act slow and steady wins the race (INshaa Allah)

the books and that translation - written by Abdul Aal'a maududi

Fundamentals of Islam


Four Kuranic basic terms...and many more.
you may check with wiki etc.
any assistance am at your service( With Allah's help)

sister in in Islam ....Know Islam before knowing Muslims.

Please help me take the next step...PLEASE HELP US how we can help you..
thank you.
 

bmw540i

Junior Member
Peace be unto you.

My sister if you look at the response on this website you will notice a whole new family ready to embrace you,so do not be afraid take the plunge and you will never look back.Remember you are not alone we are here for you.The main part of your fear was your family give them time to digest and and inshullah they will come to except you.Go girl you can do it :tti_sister:

Make dua and ask Allah to give you the courage and show you the straight path.

If we can be of any assistance do not hesitate to ask.

Slaams.
 

Shasmeen

Junior Member
Thank you, Your responces have made me cry. I really need a family like you.

Thank you for the link brother, I like this version as it is easy to read and understandable. I will get me the book tomorrow, inshallah.


Is there any spesific order to read the Holy Quran? Or shall I go on as God guide me?
 

esperanza

revert of many years
Thank you, Your responces have made me cry. I really need a family like you.

Thank you for the link brother, I like this version as it is easy to read and understandable. I will get me the book tomorrow, inshallah.


Is there any spesific order to read the Holy Quran? Or shall I go on as God guide me?

dear ister..we are all here for you to support to advice or just when you need to talk,..may Allah guide you

and dont worry about your children ..once you take shahada inshallah you can slowly leet them learn about islam just as you do and by example..and they will understand as they grow older

do not hesitate to aks anything,,,and feel free to PM if you like
 

Shasmeen

Junior Member
Thank you sister Esperaza.

I feel so excited... My heart is overflowing right now.

Please make dua for me to find a place to take my shahada. :tti_sister:

As brother 2ngamaa said do it silenty...this is what i'll have to do. I need to invest in Islamic clothing. And by Allah's grace, He will make it possible for me to wear hijab, inshalah.

One of my favourite hadith is "Non of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself."

May Allah find mercy with me and my family.
 

TheAuthenticBase

Assalaamu 'alaykum!
Assalaamu 'alaykum,

just read ur posts so i dunno if what im saying has already ben said to u.. but either way, my 2 cents:

1) taking ur shahaadah and committing sins on th side is better than not taking ur shahaadah (and committing sins on te side). Don't let satan whisper excuses into ur ear... He's gonna say ''logical'' things like dont do it yet bcz ur still doing such and such sins." but the reality is, a sin should not prevent u from doing a good deed. bcz mind u, it is the good deeds which we need on our balance of scales (on the day of judgement) to outweigh our bad deeds...

Furthermore, as the Prophet (saw) said, ''save urselves from the fire of hell, even if it is with half a date given in charity." (thus encouraging even the smallest of good deeds... and the shahaadah is a huge deed!

2) u dont need ur kids father's permission for nothing related to the shahaadah...

3) dunno if this link may help:

http://islamandchristianity.wordpress.com/
 

MuslimShadow

Junior Member
Assalamu alaikum. sister.

Welcome to TTI family.:shake:nice to have you here.

Whenever you feel ready for shahadah say it as soon as possible.We are here to support you.:):).

ALLAH knows everything and He will open ways for you if you remain optimistic.

take care.
 

Shasmeen

Junior Member
I'm from South Africa, mashallah. The authenticbase that is food for thought. I didn't even think of it like that.
 

Shasmeen

Junior Member
Salaam again, I have another question to ask: I have a piece of gold in my mouth (for beauty), would I be correct in saying it's best to have this removed?
 

Mabsoot

Amir
Staff member
wa alaykum salam,

Welcome to the site Shasmeen,

I am not sure what the gold in your mouth is, so I can not say whether it is allowed or not. However, even if it is forbidden, in Islam, those wrong actions from the "Jahiliyyah" -Pre-Islamic ignorance, do not necessarily need to be changed after you are a Muslim. - For example, those who have had tattoos etc -

Praise be to Allaah.
The Muslim must realize that Islam erases any sins that came before it, and indeed Allaah changes them into good deeds, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Furqaan 25:70]

It was narrated that ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas said: When Allaah put Islam in my heart, I went to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “Give me your right hand so that I may give you my oath of allegiance.” So he held out his hand, but I held my hand back. He said, “What is the matter, O ‘Amr?” I said, “I want to make a condition.” He said, “What is your condition?” I said, “That I be forgiven.” He said, “Do you not know that Islam wipes out whatever came before it, and that hijrah (migration for the sake of Allaah) wipes out whatever came before it, and that Hajj wipes out whatever came before it?”
(Narrated by Muslim, 121).

This hadeeth indicates that whoever becomes Muslim is forgiven for all the bad deeds that he may have done before he became a Muslim.

.....

“… and [Allaah] has not laid upon you in religion any hardship…” [al-Hajj 22:78]. Your regret and dislike of that, and your determination never to do it again is sufficient. Also, Islam wipes out what came before, so in this case leaving it as it is should not cause you any harm, in sha Allaah. May Allaah help you to do that which He loves and which pleases Him.

IslamQA

InshaAllah this is helpful to you.

Wasalam
 

strive-may-i

Junior Member
Welcome

Welcome Sister,
Greetings!

So you have read about Islam, spent time, read and known what It means to be a Muslim, You now understand what it takes, and you are happy about the discovery. Kudos, to you!

'Submitting to Will of God' is a personal experience. You see truth, and you want to accept it, Saying Shahada is the next step... Its an internal matter, you too will find solace and peace. We, just like you, are here Seeking Almighty Allah's Mercy.

South Africa has 2% Muslim population (varies from province to province). Thanks to your post I learnt something today about South Africa :). Take some time out and see if there is an Islamic centre or mosque.

We are here, to answer any questions you have, Feel Free to ask, there is no compulsion. May Almighty turn us helpful, humble ... Ameen!
 

Shasmeen

Junior Member
Thank you brothers Mabsoot and Strive-may-i

Allah is truly merciful, today I have seen what is the true Muslim family is like. You do not know me, yet you embraced me.

I'd like to share something with regards to my name. Shasmeen will be my new name. My birth name means beloved. I know that if your name does not worship a deity or any form submission other than Allah, I have no obligation to change it. I want to change it to Shasmeen as it will be part of my new life.

In my original post one concern was my young kids, but I have just received a gift for them. It is learning material for them, Mashallah.

Allah is already answering my duas. Alhamdulillah
 

kalamazoo

'Millat "IBRAHIM" {AleyhiSalaam}
Thank you, Your responces have made me cry. I really need a family like you.

Thank you for the link brother, I like this version as it is easy to read and understandable. I will get me the book tomorrow, inshallah.


Is there any spesific order to read the Holy Quran? Or shall I go on as God guide me?



wa aleykum salaam wa rahmatuhu.


Yes there is specific order if u wont mind to spend reading the below as just few line; and in details It is There you have to go deedply and figure out thoroughly; (no matter how long in details but my sincere advice Do read it Please)


An Introduction to the understanding of the Qur'an
Syed Abul A'ala Maududi
Translated by Dr. Zafar Ishaq Ansari

Go to Section : I II III IV V VI VII VIII IX X XI

This is the book which contains no doubt, [it is ] guidance for the heedful who beleive in the Unseen, keep up prayer, and spend from what We have provided them with; Who beleive in what has been sent down to you as well as what was sent down before you; while they are certain about the Hereafter, such people hold guidance from their Lord, such will be successful. ( The Qur'an 2:2-5 )

In the name of Allah, The most Beneficent, Most Merciful

This introduction has been written with two objectives:

First to acquaint the reader with certain matters which he should grasp at the very outset so as to acheive a more than superficial understanding of the Holy Book.

Second, to clarify those disturbing questions that commonly arise in the mind of the reader during the study of the Qura'n.

The Author

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We are accustomed to reading books that present information, ideas and arguments systematically and coherently. So when we embark on the study of the Qur'an, we expect that this book too will revolve around a definite subject, that the subject matter of the book too will be clearly defined at the beginning and will then be neatly divided into sections and chapters, after which discussion will proceed in a logical sequence. We likewise expect a separate and systematic arrangement of instruction and guidance for each of the various aspects of human life.

However, as soon as we open the Qur'an, we encounter a hitherto completely unfamiliar genre of literature. We notice that it embodies precepts of belief and conduct, moral directives, legal prescriptions, exhortations and admonition, censure and condemnation of evildoers, warning to the deniers of the Truth, good tidings and words of consolation and good cheer to those who have suffered for the sake of Allah, arguments and corroborative evidence in support of its basic message, allusions to anecdotes from the past and the signs of Allah visible in the universe. Moreover, these myraids subjects alternate without any apparent system; quite unlike the books to which we are accustomed, the Qur'an deals with the same subject over and over again, each time couched in a different phraseology.

The reader also encounters abrupt transitions between one subject matter and another. Audience and speaker constantly change as the message is directed now to one and now to another group of people. There is no trace of the familiar divisions into chapters and sections. Likewise, the treatment of of different subjects is unique. If an historical subject is raised, the narrative does not follow the pattern familiar in historical accounts. In the discussion of philosophical or metaphysical questions, we miss the familiar expressions and terminology of formal logic and philosophy. Cultural and political matters, or questions pertaining to man's social and economic life, are discussed in a way very different from that usual in work of social sciences. Juristic principles and legal injunctions are elucidated, but quite differently from the manner of conventional works. When we come across an ethical instruction, we find its form entirely differs from anything to be found elsewhere in the literature of ethics. The reader may find all this so foreign to his notion of what a book should be that he may become so confused as to feel that the Qur'an is a piece of disorganised, incoherent and unsystematic writing, comprising nothing but a disjointed conglomeration of comments of varying lengths put together arbitrarily. Hostile critics use this as a basis for their criticism, while those more favourably inclined resort to far-fetched explanations, or else conclude that the Qur'an consists of unrelated pieces, thus making it amenable to all kinds of interpretations, even interpretations quite opposed to the intent of Allah Who revealed the Book.

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What kind of book, is the Qur'an? In what manner was it revealed? what underlies its arrangement? What is its subject? What is its true purpose? What is the central theme to which its multifarious topics are intrinsically related? What kind of reasoning and style does it adopt in elucidating its central theme? If we could obtain clear, lucid answers to these and other related questions, we might avoid some dangerous pitfalls, thus making it easier to reflect upon and to grasp the meaning and purpose of the Qur'anic verses. If we begin studding the Qur'an in the expectation of reading a book on religion, we shall find it hard, since our notions of religion and of a book are naturally circumscribed by our range of experience. We need, therefore, to be told in advance that this Book is unique in the manner of its composition, in its theme and its contents and arrangement. We should be forewarned that the concept of a book that we have formed from our previous readings is likely to be a hinderence, rather than a help, towards a deep understanding of the Qur'an. We should realise that as a first step towards understanding it we must disabuse our minds of all preconceived notions.

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The student of the Qur'an should grasp, from the outset, the fundamental claims that the Qur'an makes for itself. Whether one ultimately decides to believe in the Qur'an or not, one must recognise the fundamental statements made by the Qur'an and by the man to whom it was revealed, the Prophet Muhammad ( peace be upon him) to be the starting point of one's study. These claims are:



Moreover, if one wishes to spread any intellectual, moral and cultural moveent on an international scale, it is by no means essential,
Where to find this.

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on there

http://www.tafheem.net/tafheem.html

just on the left hand side below todays date there is a colum as

Introduction

There you will find.

Allah Maak
 

Shasmeen

Junior Member
Wlsm brother, this is great reading material. It reminds me of the stories on Islam channel. Very interesting.
 
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