Salam Allehkum Rahmatallah
Inshallah you can give me some advice on what should I do because I am torn. Well I got married about 1 year and 10 months now. Mashallah my husband is a very committed muslim (prays, gives zakat, fears Allah, etc.) We have no serious problems between each other rather than its him and my family( father and mother especially ). My husband feels my father always lies to him and doesn't want the best for him. I asked him in many various occasions why he felt that way and he has. He gave me proof in which my dad has lied in various situations and I didn't say anything. I know my dad has lied as well because I proved it to myself as well. The problem is my dad won't admit it when he is wrong. He just swears to Allah it's not true. He swears on his five children and Allah even when there is evidence that he indeed did lie. I feel bad for this because my dad doesn't pray, go to mosque, or nothing so how can he swear to Allah(my dad is Muslim and my mom is Spanish). The other problem is my mom she agrees with him as well even when she knows he is wrong. My husband has had enough and he told me that he can't deal with him anymore. He says I have been patient and patient but enough is enough. He says Allah didn't say I have to put up with someone that lies to him all the time. I'm at the point to getting divorced and I don't know what to do. I know my husband is right. I have talked to my mom and dad on how he feels and nothing. They say he just wants problems as always which is not true. Since the beginning of our engagement 4 years ago they had issues and now it has hit a breaking point. I love my family and my husband and I don't want to leave neither of them. Ever since I have been with my husband I have changed alot. He taught me to pray, told me how important hijab was (now I wear it alhamdillah), and taught me some basics of Islam). Those things I never got from my family. He opened up my eyes on how Islam and religion is in this life. Alhamdillah I changed alot and now I can teach my brothers and sisters. Sorry for this long thing but I am concerned and I want to the the right thing in what our religion says. I don't want to divorce my husband because I know he is a good Muslim. Please give me some advice. Allah Knows Best."
Inshallah you can give me some advice on what should I do because I am torn. Well I got married about 1 year and 10 months now. Mashallah my husband is a very committed muslim (prays, gives zakat, fears Allah, etc.) We have no serious problems between each other rather than its him and my family( father and mother especially ). My husband feels my father always lies to him and doesn't want the best for him. I asked him in many various occasions why he felt that way and he has. He gave me proof in which my dad has lied in various situations and I didn't say anything. I know my dad has lied as well because I proved it to myself as well. The problem is my dad won't admit it when he is wrong. He just swears to Allah it's not true. He swears on his five children and Allah even when there is evidence that he indeed did lie. I feel bad for this because my dad doesn't pray, go to mosque, or nothing so how can he swear to Allah(my dad is Muslim and my mom is Spanish). The other problem is my mom she agrees with him as well even when she knows he is wrong. My husband has had enough and he told me that he can't deal with him anymore. He says I have been patient and patient but enough is enough. He says Allah didn't say I have to put up with someone that lies to him all the time. I'm at the point to getting divorced and I don't know what to do. I know my husband is right. I have talked to my mom and dad on how he feels and nothing. They say he just wants problems as always which is not true. Since the beginning of our engagement 4 years ago they had issues and now it has hit a breaking point. I love my family and my husband and I don't want to leave neither of them. Ever since I have been with my husband I have changed alot. He taught me to pray, told me how important hijab was (now I wear it alhamdillah), and taught me some basics of Islam). Those things I never got from my family. He opened up my eyes on how Islam and religion is in this life. Alhamdillah I changed alot and now I can teach my brothers and sisters. Sorry for this long thing but I am concerned and I want to the the right thing in what our religion says. I don't want to divorce my husband because I know he is a good Muslim. Please give me some advice. Allah Knows Best."