hussain.mahammed
a lonely traveller
As salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wabrakatuhu
The problem with some of the people are that they are only after passports because they think about materialistic desires and lust for this dunya. They think that getting a british or american passport will give a higher status in their societies. They think people will respect them more. I know a lot of such cases. I agree with brother Al-kathiri, education holds the key. If a Muslim knows Islam in the correct way, knows how to choose a spouse and for what reasons, makes Istikhara and relies everything on Allah, Insha Allah the resulting marriage would be successful.
Now we have to ask ourselves, are we following the Quran and Sunnah in the proper way? I am not questioning anybody's Eeman or Faith but rather looking at the problem in the way pleasing to Allah Subhanahu wa Taala.
Brush up your Quran and Sunnah and once you have done your homework rely everything on Allah Subhanahu wa Taala, your life will bear sweet fruits Insha Allah.
We cannot generalise the problems being faced by the Muslim brothers and sisters. We have to look at our problems individually, we have to seek help from our brothers and sisters, we have to consult, seek advice, analyse matters, not just jump into a conclusion or decision without thinking.
We should remember that Wisdom and Knowledge comes from Allah Subhanahu Wa Taala, and if we seek Allah's help in whatever problem we face Insha Allah we will achieve the solution to it.
Ya Allah help us to be better Muslims so that we can do something for YOUR sake, and for the sake of Muslim brothers and sisters.
Regarding reverts I feel any nearby Mosque Authority and Muslim brothers and sisters should help them, in whatever help they require. Not just marriage but increasing their knowledge of the Deen as well. Understanding Islam and growing with it, will make them more wise.
But we should also remember that we cannot read a person's mind nor should we make imaginary judgements about him (or her) just because he (or she) is from Asian or African or Non-western background. So we should try to get more information about the required partner and about his (or her) character as a Muslim.
One more thing which we should realise that we may plan something but Allah is the best of Planners. If something has happened which we feel is wrong, its due to our ignorance and negligence. We should be blamed for not taking the matter seriously.
Few months I read in one of the threads here, how a sister helped her husband in getting western citizenship because he did not give importance in getting a passport but she was overwhelmed by his piousness. If she could help him in some way, why not in a way which will in turn yield good results. So that he can have a job, work, earn and maintain his family. And both are living happily, Alhamdulillah.
So its not that all the time, immigrants marry due to materialistic desires. There are some pious ones too, who when gets married think about his (or her) spouse and the future lying ahead.
wa/salam
The problem with some of the people are that they are only after passports because they think about materialistic desires and lust for this dunya. They think that getting a british or american passport will give a higher status in their societies. They think people will respect them more. I know a lot of such cases. I agree with brother Al-kathiri, education holds the key. If a Muslim knows Islam in the correct way, knows how to choose a spouse and for what reasons, makes Istikhara and relies everything on Allah, Insha Allah the resulting marriage would be successful.
Now we have to ask ourselves, are we following the Quran and Sunnah in the proper way? I am not questioning anybody's Eeman or Faith but rather looking at the problem in the way pleasing to Allah Subhanahu wa Taala.
Brush up your Quran and Sunnah and once you have done your homework rely everything on Allah Subhanahu wa Taala, your life will bear sweet fruits Insha Allah.
We cannot generalise the problems being faced by the Muslim brothers and sisters. We have to look at our problems individually, we have to seek help from our brothers and sisters, we have to consult, seek advice, analyse matters, not just jump into a conclusion or decision without thinking.
We should remember that Wisdom and Knowledge comes from Allah Subhanahu Wa Taala, and if we seek Allah's help in whatever problem we face Insha Allah we will achieve the solution to it.
Ya Allah help us to be better Muslims so that we can do something for YOUR sake, and for the sake of Muslim brothers and sisters.
Regarding reverts I feel any nearby Mosque Authority and Muslim brothers and sisters should help them, in whatever help they require. Not just marriage but increasing their knowledge of the Deen as well. Understanding Islam and growing with it, will make them more wise.
But we should also remember that we cannot read a person's mind nor should we make imaginary judgements about him (or her) just because he (or she) is from Asian or African or Non-western background. So we should try to get more information about the required partner and about his (or her) character as a Muslim.
One more thing which we should realise that we may plan something but Allah is the best of Planners. If something has happened which we feel is wrong, its due to our ignorance and negligence. We should be blamed for not taking the matter seriously.
Few months I read in one of the threads here, how a sister helped her husband in getting western citizenship because he did not give importance in getting a passport but she was overwhelmed by his piousness. If she could help him in some way, why not in a way which will in turn yield good results. So that he can have a job, work, earn and maintain his family. And both are living happily, Alhamdulillah.
So its not that all the time, immigrants marry due to materialistic desires. There are some pious ones too, who when gets married think about his (or her) spouse and the future lying ahead.
wa/salam
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