Amirah20
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Sister.. Sometimes both couples are forced to agree upon this issue. There are various fundemental factors that determine whether it is necessary for a wife to find emplyment., and believe me sister that doesnt mean that men in this ummah aren't true men. For instance, the factors that play a major role on the whole of this issue is, 1) the husband educational background, 2) economic problems in the country will lead to inflation 'unemployment', 3) May be his chosen field is not desired in this country, 4) may be being a muslim made it even more difficult to find a job with his degree, 5) certain wives wont accept to live with the husband's basic salary, 6) certain families believe that morgage is a must' in order to reach a specific class within ones community, 7) life is too expensive, ect......
excuses after excuses brother...
The Prophet (pbuh) lived a VERY simple life style are we better than him? Look at Asiah (r.a) she traded the luxuries of this life the for the next life. We should be happy with the necessities and nothing more.
Today very few Muslim men follow the life style our Prophet (pbuh) lead, but alhamdullilah there are few men out there who follow the examples of our Prophet (pbuh) such as this man:
"He lives in his house the life of the poor. I used to visit him at his house in Jeddah whenever I used to go for Hajj or Umrah and I never found a single table or chair in his house: all of his houses. He was married to four wives and in all four of his houses, 1 never did see a single table or chair. Any Jordanian or Egyptian labourer's house was better than the house of ******. At the same time, if you asked him for a million riyal for the Mujahideen, he would write you out a cheque for a million riyals on the spot."
The Man on the description is a very wealthy man who chose to spend his wealth by building masjids, feeding the hungry, and funding the Mujahideens. Yet he lives the life style of a Bedouin, no furniture, no car, he feeds his family just enough amounts to fill their stomach.
Brothers don’t marry a woman who asks for too many things, drop her like a bad habit and look for a righteous woman who is welling to sacrifice the luxuries of the dunia for the next. And if you don’t think you can make enough at the place you live then make hijrah…don’t make your women work. Allah (swt) gave us intellect, lets put it into use and stop those excuses.
P.S marry a woman who will accept her role.
******= I took the name out