And Alhadmulillah brother that you can marry more than one wife,and that Inshallah Allah be pleased with you,but you also must know that it will always be those who Allah loves more,and who are more pious,modest and more shame of others,and who will be closer to Allah in hereafter.
Asalaam'alikum sister Asja,
I get the sense from the writing above that you are against the marriage of four wives? Correct?
You stated in your post #39 that "Allah loves someone more" if he marries one wife rather than four. Could you provide me your daleel (evidence/proof)?
The Quran states: "Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one." (4:3)
You can see that Allah swt does give the Muslims this permission. However, under certain terms & conditions a man can marry more than one wife.
Islam came to serve and increase people’s best interests, and to reduce harmful things and render them ineffective. There is no doubt that polygamy, when practised properly in accordance with Islam, achieves many things that are in people’s best interests (such as maintaining the chastity of the man who is not satisfied with one wife, taking care of and maintaining the chastity of the woman who has no husband, increasing the offspring of the Muslims, solving the problem of widows and spinsters, and of the reduced numbers of men after times of war, and so on).
As regards the bad things that happen in cases of polygamy, either they are very small when compared to its benefits, or they stem from bad application of this practice. One of the rights which Islam gives to women is that a wife should have her own house, so the two wives do not have to live together under one roof.
The Quran is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase 'marry only one'. There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures, one can marry as many as one wish! It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.
For the record, the majority of Muslim men have only one wife. It would make a better arguement if you complained about Westerners having 4, 6, 10 boyfriends/girlfriends.