Istekhara always necessary before marrige
Assalamu Alaikum. Thanks sister Amira to raise the matter. I appreciate u want to stop but I just need to add some thing so that all of us get benifit out of this.
I'll request al the brothers and sister not comment untill I finish whole thing.
First of all, I m from a different background but now living in Australia. In sydney, I supposed to marry a OZ revert sister. But Allah likes her so much that he takes her away from me near him. However, she had friends who married Arab brothers and had the same problem as u described for u r sister and brother in law. Some how it's worse as he was hiting the sister now and then. I m telling about the close freind of my fiance. Just pick 1 story. She was the close freind of her and revert offcourse. They have 1 son and now another daughter.
Instead of telling u other stories just look what happen here. He was hitting sister and it's really made us angry. Specially her freind. But that sister never told it to anyone except my fiance, who was her best freind and then she was asking me she wanted to devorce him. As they were both typical OZ girl very hard headed too. lol but with v good heart. However, I suggested not to devorce and keep patience and make dua for him. Their problem was going on and on and worse. But I always telling that sister not to make mistake as Allah will fix the problem inshallah coz of her caring nature and sincerety. At the last stage they were abot to end up but a suddent incident turn the whole thing diff way.
He was not ligally living in Australia. So imigration told him to leave and he had to leve. He was a very handsome man. Anyway, there was no guarantee that he can come back to Australia again but he has to leave. So he left. Now the sister in danger. The social security money she was getting, it's not enough for her and as she left her family, almost no help from that side. Some times her dad or mum helped but not enough to fullfill the needs of her and her son. When my fiance wa alive she was trying to help her as much as she could. When she was in the hospital in New York she was sending me sms to help her as they were runing out food even. Sister was not worried about her but for her amazing cute son (May Allah make him big waliallah). However, Allah helped her and her son through some one but offcourse thats Allah subhanahu tayala, who helped when there is no help.
Sister was passing her time in great hardship but Allah apponted someone for the help of their family. Now she realize. On the other hand the brother also realizing when they r separated for a while. But then it's seems too long for both of them but sister save herself from many temptation as many guy was proposing her. She was confused to as there is v less possibility for him now to come back. But they both feel them by their hear instead of apperance they start thinking and feeling each other by their heart.
After a longggggg time and long struggle sister manage the immigration to permit him to come back with conditions. However, now when he came back he came back as a new man. he realized how much she suffered for him and what he is giving this revert sister. Now they have a v happy family and instead if devorce they have another child "Noor".
Every time I saw them the smile on their faces give me real plesure and make dua O Allah! give tawfiq to all to keep patience....
