Islam??? or not?

[slaveofAllah88]

:salam2: brother and sisters,
sorry to bug u guyz again i have a question.

A really good luking girl asked me out in university and i told her no sorry iim a muslim i dont date but she insisted to be friends and i apologized and left.

Now when i was with a friend i was telling him about it and he told me that i dont have to worry about it I can do Mutta with her ....

Ok i looked it up online it doesn't seem true to me at all LIke its not part of Islam right??

My friend who is shia, said oh its part of islam but the sunni sect doesn't believe in it hmm im not so sure i dont want to be part of any sect just want to follow islam.

So could someone shed any light on it, like it doesn't seem like something like that would be part of Islam but i still want to know like is it true that its part of islam? like how could it be ? if so WHY???? thats like totally weird

thx
sorry if the question is stupid

 

[allah is with me]

brother i say no, because if you have a date, then some where , you will get the feeling , and so on.. how ever you your self said that she is a good looking girl, and i think that..., a proper muslimah , never asks a guy to date with her.. wow ! i mean (stupid) ah! insane, allah has said ' dont do such things which allah hates' so, i guess allah hates this.. you know what?... this is not stupiid thread, but ofcource this was a thread in which we all will get chance to gain reward.. thanks

 

[slaveofAllah88]

brother i say no, because if you have a date, then some where , you will get the feeling , and so on.. how ever you your self said that she is a good looking girl, and i think that..., a proper muslimah , never asks a guy to date with her.. wow ! i mean (stupid) ah! insane, allah has said ' dont do such things which allah hates' so, i guess allah hates this.. you know what?... this is not stupiid thread, but ofcource this was a thread in which we all will get chance to gain reward.. thanks

:salam2:
sorry sister, i live in a place where there isn't many muslimah, the once here date too but it wasn't a muslimah that asked me, my question was mostly concernning mutta cuz im not sure wat it is and is it even part of islam or people are making it part of islam.

and dont worry i said no to her i told her sorry im a muslim dont date i even have a small beard now *hint* *hint*, but i cant blame her too much cuz there are alot of muslims in my univ that date.

thx for ur reply sister
jazakAllah khair

 

[allah is with me]

oh i see. whats the prob.. well, bro i never of mutta? whats that?

 

[Kakorot]

your question is not stupid. plz plz plz brother don't go out with that girl. In Islam men and women who are not related are not even allowed to be present alone. This is a fitnah for you.

The Prophet salAllaahu'alayhi wasalaam said that never a man and woman is alone except shaytaan is the third.

Also we are supposed to lower our gazes.

This girl that came up to you and asked you does not fear Allaah, she's not thinking about akheerah. maybe for her it's all about this duniya. She doesn't seem to care about you or your akheerh either if she is even Muslim. But your a practicing Muslim who practices Islam and hopes for Allaah's reward and pleasure in this world and the akheerah.

I go college here in UK, and I too have to go through fitnah, but you know what, I just stay away from bad company. It's best to stay on your own than with bad company.

You mentioned that your friend is shi'a...well I think you should study what they believe brother, you will come to know that they have deviated from the true teachings of Islam and their teachings go against Tawheed. Tell your friend to bring proof from the Qur'aan and Sunnah for what he claims.

Again, brother don't do anything which you will regret. And I remind myself before anyone else, that our death date has been written already, we can die anytime

Also, would you like your sister or brother (if u have any sorry) to have girlfriend/boyfriend. Would you like it if you have children and they have haram relationship behind your back? Of course not. So plz plz plz stay away from this girl who seems to be disrespectful. She could of asked any man she saw and she chose you.

Seek refuge in Allaah from shaytaan.

Sorry my advise is bad but I saw this and I see it too much these days. Muslims having BF or GF and it hurts so bad. Even my own friends have fallen into this, that is why I just stay away. And never take this matter lightly or fall into this sin because one sins leads to another.

Also, Allaah promises for those in jannah(the men of course) hoor al 'aiyn, who are made out of saffron, so imagine how beautiful they are.

Anyway, I hope that helped. Just plz don't fall into this major sin.

 

[slaveofAllah88]

your question is not stupid. plz plz plz brother don't go out with that girl. In Islam men and women who are not related are not even allowed to be present alone. This is a fitnah for you.

The Prophet salAllaahu'alayhi wasalaam said that never a man and woman is alone except shaytaan is the third.

Also we are supposed to lower our gazes.

This girl that came up to you and asked you does not fear Allaah, she's not thinking about akheerah. maybe for her it's all about this duniya. She doesn't seem to care about you or your akheerh either if she is even Muslim. But your a practicing Muslim who practices Islam and hopes for Allaah's reward and pleasure in this world and the akheerah.

I go college here in UK, and I too have to go through fitnah, but you know what, I just stay away from bad company. It's best to stay on your own than with bad company.

You mentioned that your friend is shi'a...well I think you should study what they believe brother, you will come to know that they have deviated from the true teachings of Islam and their teachings go against Tawheed. Tell your friend to bring proof from the Qur'aan and Sunnah for what he claims.

Again, brother don't do anything which you will regret. And I remind myself before anyone else, that our death date has been written already, we can die anytime

Also, would you like your sister or brother (if u have any sorry) to have girlfriend/boyfriend. Would you like it if you have children and they have haram relationship behind your back? Of course not. So plz plz plz stay away from this girl who seems to be disrespectful. She could of asked any man she saw and she chose you.

Seek refuge in Allaah from shaytaan.

Sorry my advise is bad but I saw this and I see it too much these days. Muslims having BF or GF and it hurts so bad. Even my own friends have fallen into this, that is why I just stay away. And never take this matter lightly or fall into this sin because one sins leads to another.

Also, Allaah promises for those in jannah hoor al 'aiyn, who are made out of saffron, so imagine how beautiful they are.

Anyway, I hope that helped. Just plz don't fall into this major sin.

:salam2:
sister channa you are so awesom thank you for caring so dearly about ur brother , but sister dont worry remember i mentioned i said NO to her lol no worries ok ...

ABout her asking everyone, umm i actually use to know her i just stopped hanging out with her now that im more religious so i guess thats why she asked me out, but no worries i didn't agree to her.

Thank you again Mashallah for ur beautiful response, I dont really want to study about shiasm cuz i rather study about true islam right now i just wanted to know cuz i haven't really heard of Mutta before and i was like WHAT there is something like that in islam ....

and just to re-assure u I AM NOT GOING OUT WITH HER lol ok sister
JazakAllah for ur reply

 

[Asja]

Assalamu Allaicomu dear brother

:astag::astag::astag: Mutta is strictly forbiden in islam,and I think every Muslim,the folower of Allahs religion knows that Alhadmulillah.

But more from that every Muslim knows that dating in Islaam is stricly forbidden,it is haram and sin.:astag::astag: May Allah protect us all from this and His Punishment.Ameen.:tti_sister:

And do not worry dear brother,your question is not stupid Masahllah,but I am onyl thinking that SubahnAllah every Muslim should know taht dating,mutta etc is strictly and clearly forbidden in Islam-

May Allah bless you dear brother and guide us all to the right path.

 

[slaveofAllah88]

Assalamu Allaicomu dear brother

:astag::astag::astag: Mutta is strictly forbiden in islam,and I think every Muslim,the folower of Allahs religion knows that Alhadmulillah.

But more from that every Muslim knows that dating in Islaam is stricly forbidden,it is haram and sin.:astag::astag: May Allah protect us all from this and His Punishment.Ameen.:tti_sister:

And do not worry dear brother,your question is not stupid Masahllah,but I am onyl thinking that SubahnAllah every Muslim should know taht dating,mutta etc is strictly and clearly forbidden in Islam-

May Allah bless you dear brother and guide us all to the right path.

:salam2:

sister i know its not allowed, but i wanted to make sure
thank you for ur answer Jazakallah Khair

 

[slaveofAllah88]

:salam2:
brother you did the right thing to refused to go out with her.


i found fatwaa on temporary marriage just for your knowledge.


Ruling on Mut’ah (temporary) marriage
What is the ruling on mut’ah marriage?


Praise be to Allaah.

Mut’ah marriage means that a man marries a woman – either Muslim or from the people of the Book – and specifies how long the marriage will last, for example five days, or two months, or half a year, or many years. The beginning and end of the marriage are specified, and he pays her a small mahr (dowry), and after the specified time is over, the woman exits the marriage. This kind of marriage was permitted during the year of the Conquest of Makkah for three days, then it was disallowed and prohibited until the Day of Resurrection. This was reported by Muslim (1406).

The wife is the one with whom one stays on a long-term basis, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“… and live with them honourably …” [al-Nisaa’ 4:19], but in the case of mut’ah a man does not live with the woman for long.

The wife is the one who is called a wife in sharee’ah, with whom the relationship is long-lasting. She is mentioned in the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):

“Except from their wives or (the slaves) that their right hands possess, ¾ for then, they are free from blame” [al-Mu’minoon 23:6] – the latter (a slave whom one’s right hand possesses) is not a wife according to sharee’ah, because her stay is limited to a short time.

The wife is the one who inherits from the husband, or from whom the husband inherits, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“In that which your wives leave, your share is a half if they have no child…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:12]. But the woman in a mut’ah marriage does not inherit, because she is not a wife, since she spends such a short time with the man.

On these grounds, Mut’ah marriage is considered to be zinaa (adultery or fornication), even if both parties consent to it, and even if it lasts for a long time, and even if the man pays the woman a mahr. There is nothing that has been reported in sharee’ah that shows that it may be permitted, apart from the brief period when it was allowed during the year of the conquest of Makkah. That was because at that time there were so many people who has newly embraced Islam and there was the fear that they might become apostates, because they had been used to committing zinaa during the Jaahiliyyah. So this kind of marriage was permitted for them for three days, then it was made haraam until the Day of Resurrection, as was narrated by Muslim, 1406.



From al-Lu’lu’ al-Makeen min Fataawa Fadeelat al-Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn Jibreen, p. 41

:salam2:
JazakAllah khair sister
Awesom reply i got a fatwa with quranic references sweet!! chance for dawaa
thank you sister very much
take care

 

[a_stranger]

You were great brother , You reminded me of a hadith:

There are seven whom Allaah will shade in His Shade on the Day when there is no shade except His Shade: a just ruler; a youth who grew up in the worship of Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic; a man whose heart is attached to the mosques; two men who love each other for Allaah's sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but be says: 'I fear Allaah', a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and a man who remembered Allaah in private and so his eyes shed tears.' Narrated by Abu Hurairah & collected in Saheeh al-Bukhari (english trans.) vol.1, p.356, no.629

 

[a_muslimah86]

Narrated 'Ali bin Abi Talib: On the day of Khaibar, Allah's Apostle forbade the Mut'a (i.e. temporary marriage) and the eating of donkey-meat. [Bukhari]

'Ali (Allah be pleased with him) heard that Ibn Abbas (Allah be pleased with them) gave some relaxation in connection with the contracting of temporary marriage, whereupon he said: Don't be hasty (in your religious verdict), Ibn 'Abbas, for Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) on the Day of Khaibar prohibited for ever the doing of it-And eating of the flesh of donkeys. [Muslim]

Narrated Saburah ibn Ma'bad al-Juhani: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) prohibited temporary marriage with women. [Abu Dawood]

 

[Yusuf1990]

Wa'alaykum as-salaam warahmatullaah,

Akhee, obviously you know by now that mutta' is forbidden in Islaam and I have been told that the Shee'ah can actually use this mutta' for the period of like a few hours or whatever they feel like, just so they can fulfill what they want and have no regrets about it... And Allaah's Refuge is sought!

The fatwa above issused by Shaykh ibn Jibreen is good alhamdulillaah and explains what the mutta' is exactly and why it it was made forbidden.

May Allaah guide us all, ameen.

 

[IbnAhmad]

salaam

check this thread.. Shia Evil:Temporary Marriage> A Plea from A Muslim Sister

wassalam

 

[Hard Rock Moslem]

I learnt from my sheikh that when we are discussing about an issue and wanted to find the daleel (Qur'an or Hadith), he advised to list out all Quranic verses and Hadith pertaining to the issue so to have clearer picture which daleel is applicable for present situation. I managed to list some Hadith from Sahih Bukhari pertaining to "Nikah Mut'a" (temporary marriage) issue:

Narrated by: Abdullah:

We used to participate in the holy battles led by Allah's Apostle and we had nothing (no wives) with us. So we said, "Shall we get ourselves castrated?" He forbade us that and then allowed us to marry women with a temporary contract (2) and recited to us: -- 'O you who believe ! Make not unlawful the good things which Allah has made lawful for you, but commit no transgression.' (5.87)

Narrated by: Abu Jamra:

I heard Ibn Abbas (giving a verdict) when he was asked about the mut'a with the women, and he permitted it (Nikah-al-mut'a). On that a freed slave of his said to him, "That is only when it is very badly needed and women are scarce." On that, Ibn 'Abbas said, "Yes."

Narrated by: Ali bin Abi Thalib r.a.

On the day of Khaibar, Allah's Apostle forbade the mut'a (i.e. temporary marriage) and the eating of donkey-meat.


Narrated by: Jabir bin Abdullah and Salama bin Al-Akhwa r.a.h:

While we were in an army, Allah's Apostle came to us and said, "You have been allowed to do the mut'a (marriage), so do it." Salama bin Al-Akwa' said: Allah's Apostle's said, "If a man and a woman agree (to marry temporarily), their marriage should last for three nights, and if they like to continue, they can do so; and if they want to separate, they can do so." I do not know whether that was only for us or for all the people in general. Abu Abdullah (Al-Bukhari) said: 'Ali made it clear that the Prophet said, "The mut'a marriage has been cancelled (made unlawful)."


Narrated by Muhammad Bin Ali:

'Ali was told that Ibn 'Abbas did not see any harm in the mut'a marriage. 'Ali said, "Allah's Apostle forbade the mut'a marriage on the Day of the battle of Khaibar and he forbade the eating of donkey's meat." Some people said, "If one, by a tricky way, marries temporarily, his marriage is illegal." Others said, "The marriage is valid but its condition is illegal."


Sahih Bukhari

I've did not managed to get hadith from other sahih, but from the above sahih it is apparent that nikah mut'a was allowed initially as the situation warrant for such marriage but was disallowed later. I leave to you guys to make the conclusion but we know the sunnah scholars says it is haraam.

 

[muthmainnah]

What is the ruling on mut’ah marriage?


Praise be to Allaah.

Mut’ah marriage means that a man marries a woman – either Muslim or from the people of the Book – and specifies how long the marriage will last, for example five days, or two months, or half a year, or many years. The beginning and end of the marriage are specified, and he pays her a small mahr (dowry), and after the specified time is over, the woman exits the marriage. This kind of marriage was permitted during the year of the Conquest of Makkah for three days, then it was disallowed and prohibited until the Day of Resurrection. This was reported by Muslim (1406).

The wife is the one with whom one stays on a long-term basis, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“… and live with them honourably …” [al-Nisaa’ 4:19], but in the case of mut’ah a man does not live with the woman for long.

The wife is the one who is called a wife in sharee’ah, with whom the relationship is long-lasting. She is mentioned in the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):

“Except from their wives or (the slaves) that their right hands possess, ¾ for then, they are free from blame” [al-Mu’minoon 23:6] – the latter (a slave whom one’s right hand possesses) is not a wife according to sharee’ah, because her stay is limited to a short time.

The wife is the one who inherits from the husband, or from whom the husband inherits, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“In that which your wives leave, your share is a half if they have no child…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:12]. But the woman in a mut’ah marriage does not inherit, because she is not a wife, since she spends such a short time with the man.

On these grounds, Mut’ah marriage is considered to be zinaa (adultery or fornication), even if both parties consent to it, and even if it lasts for a long time, and even if the man pays the woman a mahr. There is nothing that has been reported in sharee’ah that shows that it may be permitted, apart from the brief period when it was allowed during the year of the conquest of Makkah. That was because at that time there were so many people who has newly embraced Islam and there was the fear that they might become apostates, because they had been used to committing zinaa during the Jaahiliyyah. So this kind of marriage was permitted for them for three days, then it was made haraam until the Day of Resurrection, as was narrated by Muslim, 1406.

From al-Lu’lu’ al-Makeen min Fataawa Fadeelat al-Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn Jibreen, p. 41.