IT hard to find a muslim bro n sis

[happy 2 b muslim]

ok i was thinking back back in the day am talking in the past that it was soooooooo much easy to get married and they lasted longer.How well as i was thinking back then everyone knew what type of personthey were. So they wouldnt marry their family off to them also the enviroment plays a BIG PART. The societyS OF THE PERSON changes due to socialisation of the time AS THIS IS THeiR ENVIROMENT. So now a days we see drinking and being boyfriend and girlfriend as not a Big deal as they did in the past as they seen it as MAD!! to everyone, HOWEVER as time changes people do so now as a muslim girl want to get married to someone it held back most time e.g sis, cousins lol no really i see it alot now a days it like get that money and your set. I was speaking to my cousin and she was like would you like to get married i said in a few years inshallah (am 17) she was like why go out have fun dont let a men tie you down me and my sister was like well i see it differently marry as a beautiful thing. Then i thought to my self its how someone thinks towards it to have a view.Then i was speaking to my other cousin she was like am 20 wallahi i should get married she is such a good sister i said go ahead and she was like How you cant go knocking on doors so i was like it should be easyer. so yeah i writing what i think please if am wrong forgive me am still developing my brian


assalam alaykum :tti_sister:

 

[Southrn_Muslimah]

:salam2:

Even though my parents are not Muslim nor is my brother. They told me when I was sent to college that I should be free and have fun. They purposely sent me far from them so I could go through a self-discovery phase. Who knew I would become Muslim in college lol. Now they are like putting the leash around my neck and my mom always says things like "I will never have grandchildren will I?" She is starting to guilt trip me now lol.

My parents got married young but they do not advise people nowadays because of the changes in the dating arena. The institution of marriage in their eyes is a joke now.They practiced courtship but nowadays you do not see that unless it is within the realm of the Muslim community.

Personally I think a person knows when they want to get married. You kinda get that feeling in your gut/heart that you are prepared for that next phase in life. Also though there are those days where you are like nevermind dont wanna get married lol.

 

[happy 2 b muslim]

i totally argee with you sister it inshallah may allah give us iman and forgive us and give us a man or women that are mummims and lead us to jannah and not hell fire inshallah thats all i pray for inshallah

 

[harun]

ok i was thinking back back in the day am talking in the past that it was soooooooo much easy to get married and they lasted longer.How well as i was thinking back then everyone knew what type of personthey were. So they wouldnt marry their family off to them also the enviroment plays a BIG PART. The societyS OF THE PERSON changes due to socialisation of the time AS THIS IS THeiR ENVIROMENT. So now a days we see drinking and being boyfriend and girlfriend as not a Big deal as they did in the past as they seen it as MAD!! to everyone, HOWEVER as time changes people do so now as a muslim girl want to get married to someone it held back most time e.g sis, cousins lol no really i see it alot now a days it like get that money and your set. I was speaking to my cousin and she was like would you like to get married i said in a few years inshallah (am 17) she was like why go out have fun dont let a men tie you down me and my sister was like well i see it differently marry as a beautiful thing. Then i thought to my self its how someone thinks towards it to have a view.Then i was speaking to my other cousin she was like am 20 wallahi i should get married she is such a good sister i said go ahead and she was like How you cant go knocking on doors so i was like it should be easyer. so yeah i writing what i think please if am wrong forgive me am still developing


assalam alaykum :tti_sister:

Bismillah

Well, well!

what girls nowadays are thinking

 

[happy 2 b muslim]

lol, well they do say girlz think ahead

 

[harun]

may Allah swt make it easy for you!

 

[happy 2 b muslim]

ameen to that for everyone i have a few years didnt you read you there lol

 

[harun]

well, i am no british so it was a little bit to complicated for me and also about 01:00 am I was to tired, but it is fine to hear you are survived alhamdulillah!

 

[Shahzad]

yeah sister. trend has changed a lot these days. marriage has been considered as a mugs game now a days.

But reality is that marriage keeps the society pure. As both man and woman will be loyal to each other, no fornication or other bad things will happen.

This will help us leading to jannah as well.

This boy/girl friend culture is just a BS. Both want to run away after spending some time together. In the end, they live in old houses

 

[Muslim18]

Its soooo true its hard to find someone to marry that can think similar to u and to find someone that practices properly it is hard nowadays i agree 100% iam 18 and thinking inshallah when i am 21 to get married dont wanna leave it too late lool
inshallah may allah give us the patience and iman ameen
:tti_sister:

 

[newusman]

Its soooo true its hard to find someone to marry that can think similar to u and to find someone that practices properly it is hard nowadays i agree 100% iam 18 and thinking inshallah when i am 21 to get married dont wanna leave it too late lool
inshallah may allah give us the patience and iman ameen
:tti_sister:

Assalam Alaikum,
Interesting post & replies, I do have a question though???
I have noticed that people are putting in their age when they think that they will be ready to get married. Are they saying this just because they think that by then they will develop their emaan by learning more about the deen or be financially stable??? If there is no goal to be achieved between now & then, why wait???
Sister said that she is 18 & she will get married when she will be 21, any particular reason, I'm just curious???

As a muslim who was born in a muslim family and have lived in different muslim countries and seen how the trend towards marriage has been changing, one of the worst things I have noticed is that we are not educating our selves for marriage.
Alot of brothers and sisters are told( by their parents) that they can only get married after graduation. Honestly I don't get it, why wait till graduation, it is as if the piece of paper you will get when you graduate will make u eligible for marriage. Parents are willing to invest in their child's education but are not willing to invest in their chastity.
Well all of the above represents me and probably I am wrong about what I said...........

 

[buraq]

Assalam Alaikum,
Interesting post & replies, I do have a question though???
I have noticed that people are putting in their age when they think that they will be ready to get married. Are they saying this just because they think that by then they will develop their emaan by learning more about the deen or be financially stable??? If there is no goal to be achieved between now & then, why wait???
Sister said that she is 18 & she will get married when she will be 21, any particular reason, I'm just curious???

As a muslim who was born in a muslim family and have lived in different muslim countries and seen how the trend towards marriage has been changing, one of the worst things I have noticed is that we are not educating our selves for marriage.
Alot of brothers and sisters are told( by their parents) that they can only get married after graduation. Honestly I don't get it, why wait till graduation, it is as if the piece of paper you will get when you graduate will make u eligible for marriage. Parents are willing to invest in their child's education but are not willing to invest in their chastity.
Well all of the above represents me and probably I am wrong about what I said...........

asalam'

i think your right why wait, 18 is a good age, 23 and up will make it harder, as people grow older they become more independant, if you marry young, then you will grow together , you will adapted each others personality,

 

[Libinette]

Adopt each other's personalities?! I DON'T WANT ANYONE TO adopt my personality, and anyway they can't