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Salaams,
I am a revert that is beginning to really feel the change Islam has made to my life, good and bad.
Where i work i have a group of friends i am growing distant from. All they talk about is drinking and Christmas. I wonder if they do it deliberately? I feel so excluded from conversation. At the same time i know i will never change my decision to revert or weaken my faith because i feel lonely.
I miss feeling like part of a group and interacting with people. I really wish i could find some muslims to hang out with
Im not a revert. But I think I can empathise here, with this situation, they silently 'pity' you
*Sana* said:
I am not a revert but I totally feel what you are going through. Living in Australia, the Uni I attend is obviously not Muslim or Islamic based. So I do not have many friends, or any at all rather. I am such a loner as well! As soon as I get involved in a conversation, they start talking about drinking, partying, clubbing etc, I immediately feel dislocated.
At university i dont really talk to non-muslims unnecessarily, only when theres absolutely no other way - I dont allow myself to hear/listen to their conversations so the effect is minimal. Also, I dont trust myself not to pass sarcastic comments about their drinking habits if i DO get involved in a coversation, so i dont.
University is better than...my last place - but thats another story all together
I'll add one more thing though, sadly, I have little in common with even some Muslim girls in the university, they may wear a headcovering - fine but the fact remains they sit in mix environments, socialising no problem! It really hit me today actually, when I had to ring the sister i was supposed to meet from outside the restaurant where she was sitting - just to let her know i was finished, as opposed to going right in there and getting her myself
. I cant help but think, every time i see them, if youre going to bother identifying yourself with Islaam, then respect yourself and your religion by behaving in a manner befitting a proper muslim, i.e. dont sit a metre away from alcohol. Im not saying im better than them they dont drink etc but i just think every Muslim is carrying the wieght of Islaam on his/her shoulders - appreciate the burden and dont behave in a way that reflects badly on Islaam.
I dunno sisters, but, i always used to take strength from the fact that I couldnt interact with non-muslims very well - I saw it as a good thing, I always made sure there was a distinct difference in my behaviour and theres.
About the lonliness - I stuck it through, either makes you or breaks you. No company is better than bad company. You sisters can always talk to me if you want
May Allah give you sabr.