Marriage Issue - New Muslim

[omar2008]

As'salam Wa'alaikum Brother/Sister,

Greetings! Mash'Allah, you people are doing absolutely a fabulous job,
helping new muslims dwell soundly in Islam! I pray to Allah the almighty
that may he reward all you good people, and equally the ummah including me.


I am a new muslim and alhamdullilah I embraced Islam last year! I found
email is the best way to get an answer to this piece of story of mine!

My journey started this way, the time when I was young and free from social
burdens and love, I saw a newspaper advertisement where I found a nice
arabic script 'la ilaha il'Allah, Muhamaduur Rasool Ullah' and I mugged it
so hard that I started telling all my friends that hey, see I learnt
Arabic, and they took it cool! They use to ask me repeat and use to tell me
recite the same again and again to them I proudly I use to, indeed they
liked it too I guess!

Anyways, one day I met a female friend through online chat, though never
knew that, this sweet girl will change my whole life forever! Often young,
people commit mistakes; though this one, I wont recall as a mistake because
I knew something god has planned for me, to let it roll into me ! I fall in
love within a month of conversation (Online) with this girl and vice versa!
We shared our numbers and started talking through phone and days kept on
passing us by, like a sweet lullaby and 3 year's passed! THough by this
time I decided to embrace Islam to ease the trouble path to face the future
proudly and Alhamdullilah the very next day I embraced in front of 2 muslim
being reciting the holy shahada as loud as I can! I didnt told her the
same, thought that one day I am going to give her this surprise! But alas,
never knew my luck and dreams will get shattered!

She called me and told me that, she decided to move out from this
relationship because her parents will never going to accept a kufur and
apart from that she dont have the courage at all to fight! I accepted, that
she took a good decision by not falling further more for a kufur rather
decided to devote more into what Allah had nourished for her! She stopped
calling me! From last year itself and Allah Witnessed, what I encountered
was really something I wasnt prepared! I learnt Salaat and become more
devoted to Allah, keeping 15 days fast out of 30 in the month of Ramazan,
in presence of my parents without letting them know, praying daily and
celebrated Eid, alone offcourse without any sheer and kheer ! I was
practically feeling as if to complete the whole of Quran which I did,
completing alhamdullilah almost half of Quran (In English)! I was really
crying that what would be the possible way I can win her back? I called her
dad and told everything about our relationship but I was bit crazy I guess,
I told about my reversion into muslim from Hindu, and honestly he took it
cool but wasnt ready to say anything through phone I beleive; rather end up
telling me that, marriage is a huge decision which requires proper
permission from relatives and asked me what you do? what was your previous
name and told me to meet him in his town but at this young age, alone, 150
KM away from the city, how come I am going to meet him? That will be next
to impossible! And finally decided to let him know that I cant come, but
alas, he switched off forever the number he use to carry!

I circumcized without letting my parents about the same; even they dont
know yet that I am a muslim now! But anyways, time passed and I have done
Istikhaara through Tasbeeh to see what the results come for this
relationship and Alahmdullilah it came perfect followed by a dream from
Omnipotent (Allah witnessed) May he curse me, if I am saying wrong, the
dream was so beautiful that even a word cannot describe the same, I only
heard his voice in hindi where he said that 'Chahe Koi bhi tufaan kyu naa
aajaye, woh tumhari hi rehgi' (No matter what natural catstrophe sorround
you and abide you, she'll be your's by every means) and the very next day I
was so happy, Alhamdullilah, I was really so happy that even now also I am
crying! The shaitaan cant mask and act like god even in my dreams at all
and I know it was a positive dream! You may say I am a dreamer, but I am
not the only one, and indeed Allah witneesed, I swear by him, it was a true
and positive dream (I pray may it last forever) Amen!

Anyways, right after 7 days of this dream, she called me after 3 months and
we started communicating as a friend and I took the same as a good omen!
Though she was abiding her feelings as she thought maybe that, again
falling in love; with him can land her in trouble! But once again, she
left, 10 days got passed by now, I havent received any of her call though I
am prepared for pain! I am 19 and she is too and I beleive by 23-25, she'll
get marry to someone good! I have everything to give her, Alhamdullilah by
now I started earning what no one can earn at this age, Halaal! Though
money is not everything I know, I have so much of love stored for her, only
Allah knows best! In short, have so much of love stored right in my
broken heart that I can feed 20 Million who are desperate need for love' My
life, my louv is this girl! I want her back, I cant see that she's going to
be with some other man later in life, I sacrificed so much of my life,
leaving everybody just to roll Islamically! I dont want to leave Islam at
all, I also want to celebrate Eid-Ul-Fitr, I also want to go to Hajj and
every other beautiful sacred places like you. like other born muslim! I
want a muslim family ... I want her back!

How will I confess my love to this world, to the people of this world, to
her dad, her parents, her vast family, I am so alone! My parents will never
gonna support me and I am dead sure, rather they will curse me! I want to
meet her dad personally to express my feelings for this girl? How I am
going to make him understand and embolden that I am a muslim now and I love
your daughter! I am also like him! I am also having a true heart like him
for her, for every people, I have no idea what will happen by the time when
everything will finish! Insh'Allah I am sure if she get a chance to marry
me, she will, my heart says, she just abide her feelings just because of
parental pressure! Is my only fault that I born as a kufur?

Oh my blessed and pious brother, Am I eligible to marry her ? I will be
glad if you advice me how to fight for my love, for this girl, for my iman!
Will they consider me for her? What question her dad can ask me? So many
questions, but I know you people are having less time and busy schedule but
I will wait for your answer patiently! As your answer will be enough for me
to win her back! They are 7 and I am only 1 individual to represnt myself
that also alone! Will I able to celebrate Eid?

Kindly help me ...

Loving Salaam
Omar

 

[weareloved]

You're never alone. Allah is always with you. So when you feel as if you have no one to talk to, no one to help you, just remember that Allah is always there. He's always ready to listen and always ready to help. He never turns his back on us, we in fact turn ours on him. So never feel as if you are alone, when you have the most powerful on your side.

As for the girl, you say that now you have a job and such, so I think that you should visit her parents and try to arrange things the proper Islamic way. By having conversations with her outside of marriage or engagement, you're not being true to the religion. Whereas, if you ask her father and talk to him, face to face, then you will recieve all of the answers that you need. But remember, that no matter what happens, Allah has a greater plan for every single one of us. So you should go and speak to her father, tell him that you have reverted and purely reverted because you love the faith, not because of a female.

Goodluck.

 

[nblueblaze]

As'salam Wa'alaikum Brother/Sister,

Greetings! Mash'Allah, you people are doing absolutely a fabulous job,
helping new muslims dwell soundly in Islam! I pray to Allah the almighty
that may he reward all you good people, and equally the ummah including me.


I am a new muslim and alhamdullilah I embraced Islam last year! I found
email is the best way to get an answer to this piece of story of mine!

My journey started this way, the time when I was young and free from social
burdens and love, I saw a newspaper advertisement where I found a nice
arabic script 'la ilaha il'Allah, Muhamaduur Rasool Ullah' and I mugged it
so hard that I started telling all my friends that hey, see I learnt
Arabic, and they took it cool! They use to ask me repeat and use to tell me
recite the same again and again to them I proudly I use to, indeed they
liked it too I guess!

Anyways, one day I met a female friend through online chat, though never
knew that, this sweet girl will change my whole life forever! Often young,
people commit mistakes; though this one, I wont recall as a mistake because
I knew something god has planned for me, to let it roll into me ! I fall in
love within a month of conversation (Online) with this girl and vice versa!
We shared our numbers and started talking through phone and days kept on
passing us by, like a sweet lullaby and 3 year's passed! THough by this
time I decided to embrace Islam to ease the trouble path to face the future
proudly and Alhamdullilah the very next day I embraced in front of 2 muslim
being reciting the holy shahada as loud as I can! I didnt told her the
same, thought that one day I am going to give her this surprise! But alas,
never knew my luck and dreams will get shattered!

She called me and told me that, she decided to move out from this
relationship because her parents will never going to accept a kufur and
apart from that she dont have the courage at all to fight! I accepted, that
she took a good decision by not falling further more for a kufur rather
decided to devote more into what Allah had nourished for her! She stopped
calling me! From last year itself and Allah Witnessed, what I encountered
was really something I wasnt prepared! I learnt Salaat and become more
devoted to Allah, keeping 15 days fast out of 30 in the month of Ramazan,
in presence of my parents without letting them know, praying daily and
celebrated Eid, alone offcourse without any sheer and kheer ! I was
practically feeling as if to complete the whole of Quran which I did,
completing alhamdullilah almost half of Quran (In English)! I was really
crying that what would be the possible way I can win her back? I called her
dad and told everything about our relationship but I was bit crazy I guess,
I told about my reversion into muslim from Hindu, and honestly he took it
cool but wasnt ready to say anything through phone I beleive; rather end up
telling me that, marriage is a huge decision which requires proper
permission from relatives and asked me what you do? what was your previous
name and told me to meet him in his town but at this young age, alone, 150
KM away from the city, how come I am going to meet him? That will be next
to impossible! And finally decided to let him know that I cant come, but
alas, he switched off forever the number he use to carry!

I circumcized without letting my parents about the same; even they dont
know yet that I am a muslim now! But anyways, time passed and I have done
Istikhaara through Tasbeeh to see what the results come for this
relationship and Alahmdullilah it came perfect followed by a dream from
Omnipotent (Allah witnessed) May he curse me, if I am saying wrong, the
dream was so beautiful that even a word cannot describe the same, I only
heard his voice in hindi where he said that 'Chahe Koi bhi tufaan kyu naa
aajaye, woh tumhari hi rehgi' (No matter what natural catstrophe sorround
you and abide you, she'll be your's by every means) and the very next day I
was so happy, Alhamdullilah, I was really so happy that even now also I am
crying! The shaitaan cant mask and act like god even in my dreams at all
and I know it was a positive dream! You may say I am a dreamer, but I am
not the only one, and indeed Allah witneesed, I swear by him, it was a true
and positive dream (I pray may it last forever) Amen!

Anyways, right after 7 days of this dream, she called me after 3 months and
we started communicating as a friend and I took the same as a good omen!
Though she was abiding her feelings as she thought maybe that, again
falling in love; with him can land her in trouble! But once again, she
left, 10 days got passed by now, I havent received any of her call though I
am prepared for pain! I am 19 and she is too and I beleive by 23-25, she'll
get marry to someone good! I have everything to give her, Alhamdullilah by
now I started earning what no one can earn at this age, Halaal! Though
money is not everything I know, I have so much of love stored for her, only
Allah knows best! In short, have so much of love stored right in my
broken heart that I can feed 20 Million who are desperate need for love' My
life, my louv is this girl! I want her back, I cant see that she's going to
be with some other man later in life, I sacrificed so much of my life,
leaving everybody just to roll Islamically! I dont want to leave Islam at
all, I also want to celebrate Eid-Ul-Fitr, I also want to go to Hajj and
every other beautiful sacred places like you. like other born muslim! I
want a muslim family ... I want her back!

How will I confess my love to this world, to the people of this world, to
her dad, her parents, her vast family, I am so alone! My parents will never
gonna support me and I am dead sure, rather they will curse me! I want to
meet her dad personally to express my feelings for this girl? How I am
going to make him understand and embolden that I am a muslim now and I love
your daughter! I am also like him! I am also having a true heart like him
for her, for every people, I have no idea what will happen by the time when
everything will finish! Insh'Allah I am sure if she get a chance to marry
me, she will, my heart says, she just abide her feelings just because of
parental pressure! Is my only fault that I born as a kufur?

Oh my blessed and pious brother, Am I eligible to marry her ? I will be
glad if you advice me how to fight for my love, for this girl, for my iman!
Will they consider me for her? What question her dad can ask me? So many
questions, but I know you people are having less time and busy schedule but
I will wait for your answer patiently! As your answer will be enough for me
to win her back! They are 7 and I am only 1 individual to represnt myself
that also alone! Will I able to celebrate Eid?

Kindly help me ...

Loving Salaam
Omar

Salaam Omar Bhai!

Subhan-Allah!

I have religiously read your post and come to a conclusion about you:
Allah by his mercy has gifted you immense Iman (will-power), compassion and definitely a golden heart. None are 'your' qualities rather gifts you have received from Allah.

Now Regarding your case:

First point: No matter what others tell you its of course not your fault that you were born as a non believer. its was a sheer will of Allah that you will born to Hindu parents. But just for one moment stop to think how lucky you truly are! you wont die as a non-believer! On the Judgment day you will have a chance to stand before Allah and say to Him and he is your only Lord!

Masha-Allah brother! You are indeed very blessed!

Question: why are they denying you?
Answer: Vanity, brother vanity! Alas in this dirty world some muslims are obsessed with the pride of being 'nobel muslims' who look down upon converted muslims! but tell me Omar, are they really nobel? do they have special place to offer Namaz in the mosque or are they having special edition of Quran? No brother, Every one is equal in the eyes of Allah.


Action Points:

1. You wrote you have started earning. Absolutely Great! May Allah increase your earning by multiple times. But are you financially strong enough to bear the expenses of your muslim family without help from your non-muslim parents (i.e. establish a separate home)? If not, try to achieve it first. Just imagine from the girl's parents' point of view. they might be fearing how your parents will treat a muslim girl as your wife, your parents might accuse your wife of misleading you and forcibly becoming a muslim. See the complication?!! if you understand me, do the needful brother.

2. you have took huge amount of emotional pain to become a muslim. Bhai, be proud of that! have a meeting not a chat with your would-be-father/brother-in-law. explain in crisp why you consider yourself a pure muslim. If he differs ask him 'why'. Engage in a debate (tofaan) not any type of violence.

3. Meet the girl. Ask her if knew that her parents wont accept then why she showed interest in you in first place? Remind her that flirting is strictly forbidden in Islam.


Brother I understand your Love is pure. Be patient. Sometimes Allah tests His servants. You are under his test. No matter what happens do NOT loose your Iman. Whatever happen will happen for good even if it doesnt appear to be.

Tell me Omar Bhai how can Allah turn aside a true believer's prayers.

Have faith. I will definitely make dua for you.

Jazak-Allahu Khairun.

 

[ruki4eva]

:salam2: brother
ur post was so beautiful :ma:
Alhamdulillah may Allah swt grant u the highest
status of imaan.. n jannatul ferdous
u are never ever alone alwayz remember
no matta wat the situation
Allah swt neva eva leaves u
Allah watches u all the time
and wen tingz becum hard ur gna have 2
go thru it all coz itz from
Allah this life is 1 big test... so don't make
urself weak.
May Allah swt make it easy for u brother
inshallah u will be wid da gal u want
if itz written 4 u nly Allah noz and his the
only 1 that could help jus make so much dua 2
Allah
n i will also make dua inshallah
i experienced sum part of it 2 lol
hope tingz work out for u inshallah.
stay strong inshallah n hav patience...
subhanallah the status of patience is so high
itz unbelievable once u hav patience u can't be gifted with
netin greater than this...
put ur trust in Allah swt
wat eva is meant 2 happen will happen.
if thingz don't happen the way u want it 2 even then u shud be happy
because itz all happenin the way Allah wantz it 2 happen..
everytin happenz wid his will
n inshallah take care of urself

 

[Tru3m0sl3m]

:salam2:
BROTHER OMAR! Subhanallah! You are on this website too? What a surprise! How's Aaliya? Did you talk to her Dad? Or are you still "in the process" of talkin..

 

[Tru3m0sl3m]

:salam2:
TTI
This brother omar is a fake, he claims to be a hindu from North India who converted to Islam after meeting a muslim girl and is totally in love with her and the story above.. When you find interest in him and wants to help him for The SAKE OF ALLAH(swt). Thats it he caught another fish and then he'll give you his phone number and ask you to help him.. In the end he'll explain his financial status and then he empties your pocket. When you get to know about the reality he deletes the account(leaving no proofs) and his HUNT FOR MUSLIMS GOES ON
This happened when i was on orkut. Dear brothers and sisters i was like totally thrashed. I was in the state of jahiliyah and when i made a decision to turn to Allah. He was the first obstacle. I felt like going back to the same state. Alhamdulillah i just took this as a test and forgot everything. Now when i read 1/3rd of his post my blood was boiling. And btw its not one guy, there's whole group out there who do the same. SAME STORY and different people. You can visit ISLAM community in ORKUT and search about love and marriage and you'll get the same story thats the only proof i've.

warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

 

[Almeftah]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I'm sure you heard this before but its true, love alone is not enough. You need to be able to provide for her in order to marry her.. in the mean while, focuse on your other goals for your future and the future of the muslim family you want to make.

Its also important not to let this kind of love control you, A muslim lives to warship Allah not his feelings and desires.

 

[tarannumsamir]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I'm sure you heard this before but its true, love alone is not enough. You need to be able to provide for her in order to marry her.. in the mean while, focuse on your other goals for your future and the future of the muslim family you want to make.

Its also important not to let this kind of love control you, A muslim lives to warship Allah not his feelings and desires.

EXACTLY. u said it.

 

[ruki4eva]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I'm sure you heard this before but its true, love alone is not enough. You need to be able to provide for her in order to marry her.. in the mean while, focuse on your other goals for your future and the future of the muslim family you want to make.

Its also important not to let this kind of love control you, A muslim lives to warship Allah not his feelings and desires.

:salam2:
:ma: jazakallah for that
itz so 2ru

 

[bouhcine]

Assalamo alaykom Warahmato Allah,
Your Brother from Dubai -Moroccan- is Congratulating you on the occasion of your coversion to you new Religion[ISLAM].
Thank you Sir for your comment concerning Islam.I would like to participate and advise you about what your have mentioned above.
Actually,i have read your story about both you relationship with the girl and you relationship with new Religion.As i have read a about Islam and as i am and my family are Muslims,Islam gives us lots of RULES to follow to become real and practical Muslims.Now as you face two big challenges,i mean adaptation with your non-muslim family and the way to win the girl for marriage,i would like to advise you that the best way to gain your family is not by forcing them to accept your new religion,but try to convince them by the very confortable ways,according to your traditions and customs or according to one of your relatives or also according to your previous religion,i think that your Ex-religion also advises people to be tolerant and free to decide...etc.As for your dreaming future wife,I suppose that the best way is the way of ALLAH.I mean to say,according to your religion,it is better to call their family especially father that is the leader of the family and try to have an appointment with him or with the whole family,no matter where they are,wether they are far from you or not.If she is a good Muslima Good will help you ease all the difficulties Incha Allah.But also try to be a good Muslim and a good man.you should have your house,your permenant and legal job,i mean Money should be received from Halal not from the products that are forbidden by Allah like Wine,Liquires,Beer,and Drugs and Pork...etc.
This is just an Advise from your Muslim Brother * Lahcen*,and i do not want to forget one point that is very important to add i that try to be ok with your parents and family and relatives as a whole before your marriage,that will be perfect.
In case you have any other question ,here is my E-mail address
[email protected]
Congratulations again for being a New Muslim and our New Brother.
Wassalamo Alaykom Warahmato Allahi Wabaraka toh

 

[queeny]

nice story

salam alikom

all i can teel u that u should pray to God to help u on the right way and one more thing

if u want something very hard let it them go ,they come back to u then it is for u and if they didnt ,they never had

 

[a_brother]

:salam2:
TTI
This brother omar is a fake, he claims to be a hindu from North India who converted to Islam after meeting a muslim girl and is totally in love with her and the story above.. When you find interest in him and wants to help him for The SAKE OF ALLAH(swt). Thats it he caught another fish and then he'll give you his phone number and ask you to help him.. In the end he'll explain his financial status and then he empties your pocket. When you get to know about the reality he deletes the account(leaving no proofs) and his HUNT FOR MUSLIMS GOES ON
This happened when i was on orkut. Dear brothers and sisters i was like totally thrashed. I was in the state of jahiliyah and when i made a decision to turn to Allah. He was the first obstacle. I felt like going back to the same state. Alhamdulillah i just took this as a test and forgot everything. Now when i read 1/3rd of his post my blood was boiling. And btw its not one guy, there's whole group out there who do the same. SAME STORY and different people. You can visit ISLAM community in ORKUT and search about love and marriage and you'll get the same story thats the only proof i've.

warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

Asalamo Alaikom brother Tru3m0sl3m

VERY INTERSTING!!!!!

omar2008 was last logged in yesterday (9-4-08) with no reply to your post!!!

omar2008 stated that he's a muslim in post above, BUT HIS PROFILE SAYS Hinduism ????????????????

"I circumcized without letting my parents about the same; even they dont
know yet that I am a muslim now! But anyways, time passed and I have done
Istikhaara through Tasbeeh to see what the results come for this"​

Allah Knows best

Wasalamo Alaikom

 

[Almeftah]

Istikhaara through Tasbeeh

there's no such thing!! this is Bidaa

 

[Amir_of_spain]

lol broMeshary they should recruit you into the saudi religious police, you would be good at spotting bidaa!

 

[ahmedhelmi]

al salam alaikom

masha a allah i will help u anytime u ever want it


can i ask you something ?


how is your feeling befor islam and after ?

 

[MOSABJA]

:salam2:
TTI
This brother omar is a fake, he claims to be a hindu from North India who converted to Islam after meeting a muslim girl and is totally in love with her and the story above.. When you find interest in him and wants to help him for The SAKE OF ALLAH(swt). Thats it he caught another fish and then he'll give you his phone number and ask you to help him.. In the end he'll explain his financial status and then he empties your pocket. When you get to know about the reality he deletes the account(leaving no proofs) and his HUNT FOR MUSLIMS GOES ON
This happened when i was on orkut. Dear brothers and sisters i was like totally thrashed. I was in the state of jahiliyah and when i made a decision to turn to Allah. He was the first obstacle. I felt like going back to the same state. Alhamdulillah i just took this as a test and forgot everything. Now when i read 1/3rd of his post my blood was boiling. And btw its not one guy, there's whole group out there who do the same. SAME STORY and different people. You can visit ISLAM community in ORKUT and search about love and marriage and you'll get the same story thats the only proof i've.

warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

Wov if thats true(Astaghfirullah in advance if thats wrong) then this guy must be an intelligent one.What a good way to rob Muslims.