Mis-Using MSN???

[IbnAhmad]

:salam2:

I found this article on the following site....i want to know what u think bro's and sisters..... is it a little 'extreme', 'completely true', or 'false' ??

http://ummati.blogspot.com/2004/11/mis-using-msn.html

Mis-using MSN
I begin in the name of Allah Most Gracious Most Merciful,

This post is specifically directed at MSN users. To be more precise I am referring to the chatting between non-mehram men and women that takes place on MSN. Or to be more exact, the chatting between men and women (who can marry) that takes place out of mere pleasure and which is not necessary.

It is a plain fact and you all must be aware of it. To speak to a non-mehram man or woman, in particular on MSN (without a necessity) is islamically not right. The reason why I have targetted the usage of MSN is because this has become the most common and easiest form of prohibited communication bewteen men and women that is taking place.

Having a conversation on MSN between a non-mehram man or woman (without a necessity) is zina. Yes this is such a strong word and you may object at such a word being used. But readers, this is no extreme way of putting it, it is a fact whether we approve of it or not. Chatting on MSN to a non-mehram for ones own pleasure is commiting zina of the hands, eyes as well as the mind. How? You may ask. Zina of the hands is commited when one types in a message to send to the person they are chatting to. Zina of the eyes is reading any message from the person and lastly zina of the mind is thinking about the person.

Readers, read carefully about how seriously zina affects ones imaan. It is said that whilst one is commiting zina, Imaan- the most precious thing a muslim can possess- is taken away from the person. God forbid, if one was to die in the state of commiting zina, what do you think would be the status of their imaan?

However let me stress, I do not wish to dishearten any of you. If you have used MSN or are using it for the purpose of chatting to guys/girls whom you are not suppose to, then this is your chance to repent and seek forgiveness. Allah (swt) is the most merciful and truly you shall be forgiven if your repentance is sincere. However, also remember that you must make the intention of not continuing with this sinful act in future.

To put it simply, this MSN chatting with non-mehram guys/girls (that takes place without a necessity) is not going to benefit us at all. Not in this world or the hereafter, but instead this sin is going to create the displeasure of Allah (swt) which will destroy any form of joy and satisfaction in this world and in the hereafter. Are we willing to sacrifice our personal, false pleasure for the pleasure of our Lord? Are we willing to sacrifice our temporary pleasure for eternal bliss in Paradise?

I shall end by saying that the next time you are confronted by a non-mehram man/woman on MSN whom you must not be chatting to then control your inner, worldly desires by not responding and instantly deleeting such a person from your list. Yes, it is hard and surely you will have to struggle for it but keep in mind that this sacrifice is solely for your own benefit.

Jazakallah for taking you time out to read, it now lies upon yourselves whether you choose to practice upon what has been said.

 

[Muslim18]

:salam2:

'Completely true' i think because there are many incidences where these guys and girls fall in love over the chat subhanallah its a big fitnah for the youth to control may Allah guide us and forgive us ameen

 

[IbnAhmad]

:salam2:

well bro's and sis, wot do u think??

 

[slave_of_Allah]

well said! There are many important points made here, and i believe that there needs to be a lesson taken from these words. It's so sad to see the youth of today, indulged in harmful things, which sting at the soul.

I pray Allah gudies the lost, protects them from the evil within this world and helps them to become closer to islam, more than anything in this world. Aameen.

 

[Yousef83]

when i indicated this some days ago,someone called me im giving my own fatwah
i again say,you can cheat urself but never can cheat Allah (c.c),if you let your Muslim sister,wife etc chat on msn with other men reason they are Muslim men and nice people and other reason they dont see each other thats your own idea,logic and rules say different.We are just human and nothing,we can never know what is a person's minds inside or whats his/her aim.We are human and we always able to do mistakes.Only a word can change everything suddenly.
Ok then i ask who live in Sherria law country,build a place,its like cafe,males and females has different places to sit but only a wall divide them to see each other,but this wall allow them to speak each other,that can speak everything,i dont mean they speak illegal things,very friendly,sharing Duas,Islamic topics etc.
would u give permission your sister or wife go to such place and speak with that man?they dont see each other ok.
Tell me why our dear Prophet(s.a.v) didnt let such things and didnt reported males and females can speak in hidden places if they dont see each other.
trust me my dear brothers inet gives many chances who can done these things in their countries or around their society for real

 

[Muslimboy2222]

:salam2:

'Completely true' i think because there are many incidences where these guys and girls fall in love over the chat subhanallah its a big fitnah for the youth to control may Allah guide us and forgive us ameen

:salam2:

I couldn't agree more & as muslims it's better for us to stay away from such evil things & that's why in islam we must deal not only with problem but also the source.

 

[sazk]

aoa, personally i think people who fall in love over the net are wierd. how can you fall in love without meeting somebody in person??? textual conversation is soul-less

 

[IHearIslam]

salaam

aoa, personally i think people who fall in love over the net are wierd. how can you fall in love without meeting somebody in person??? textual conversation is soul-less

lol! I think so too,
anyway, I think this post is to the point & it's true even though I didn't know a lot about the FITNA on the net or what it can cause because I simply don't believe that people can fall in love over the net but I know SATAN is always around looking for new ways to CAPTURE his prediters (true servents of Allah) wana uzubiAllah.
May Allah make us good servents & may He protect us from the EVILtricks of SATAN the accursed. Ameen

*JazakaAllah Khairan for sharing it's really a GREAT reminder.*

 

[islamisthesolution]

when i indicated this some days ago,someone called me im giving my own fatwah
i again say,you can cheat urself but never can cheat Allah (c.c),if you let your Muslim sister,wife etc chat on msn with other men reason they are Muslim men and nice people and other reason they dont see each other thats your own idea,logic and rules say different.We are just human and nothing,we can never know what is a person's minds inside or whats his/her aim.We are human and we always able to do mistakes.Only a word can change everything suddenly.
Ok then i ask who live in Sherria law country,build a place,its like cafe,males and females has different places to sit but only a wall divide them to see each other,but this wall allow them to speak each other,that can speak everything,i dont mean they speak illegal things,very friendly,sharing Duas,Islamic topics etc.
would u give permission your sister or wife go to such place and speak with that man?they dont see each other ok.
Tell me why our dear Prophet(s.a.v) didnt let such things and didnt reported males and females can speak in hidden places if they dont see each other.
trust me my dear brothers inet gives many chances who can done these things in their countries or around their society for real

this last sentence doesnt make sense to me if someone has a real principle and not cheating Allah the almighty and doing everytning for His sake so i dont think no one ever has the right to accuse of doing something else or doing it for mean purposes . and believe me brother when a girl or boys raised well they never cheat upon their athics you know why ? because they dont want cheat Allah and their families who trust them and this of course thats only when they are talking on public . i wanted to tell you this Quranic verse back then . please read and think

Allah the Almighty says "[4] And those who accuse chaste women, and produce not four witnesses, flog them with eighty stripes, and reject their testimony forever. They indeed are the Fâsiqûn (liars, rebellious, disobedient to Allâh)."

plus i saw :ma: how you answr your sisters questions n here see you help sisters too but why to attract thier attention or to help them know the right from the wrong ?

thank you so much for your earlier posts it helped me a lot

brother Abu Hurairah totally agree with you especially when women talk to men on private it will make huge mistakes and make them committ zina as you said but of course this when thy have private chatting

a forum like this is a good place for everyone to ask and of course to find those who can help

may Allah forgive us all

jazaka Allahu khyran kathiran
:salam2:

 

[ummu thany]

Assalamu Alaikkum

Effects of women taking part in chat rooms

Praise be to Allaah, I am a religiously-committed young woman and I go on the Internet a great deal to post lessons and discussions. Recently I became a moderator in a chat room for Islamic teachings. Frankly I am very impressed by the character of the webmaster of this site, because he is religiously committed and educated, and he honours his parents. Is it permissible for me to give charity on his behalf and pray for him even though I know very little about him?
Another question is: It is permissible for a young woman to love a person because he is Muslim, religiously committed and educated? Is this regarded as love for the sake of Allaah?
Is it permissible for me to take his number and call him to ask after his family and him, or to talk to him about some issues having to do with the site?.

Praise be to Allaah.
Among the ill effects of women taking part in chat rooms is that they may be tempted by some men, and form a romantic attachment to them, and vice versa, especially since women are weak and easily affected by words such as “you did well” and “may Allaah reward you”. If the praise is repeated, it leads to attachment.
Hence we should be strict about this issue and say that women should not take part in chat rooms with men, if they feel any such thing.
It seems from your question that some of this attachment has happened to you. Hence we advise you to keep away from this chat room and cut off all ties with the webmaster via the internet or otherwise, and limit yourself to chat rooms that are for women only, as there are many of them, if you insist on taking part in such activities. Our advice to you, based on what you have told us, is that you should protect yourself against the temptations with which the internet and chat rooms are filled, and close the door to this temptation which is opening slowly through these chat rooms.
The shaytaan deceives people and opens the way that leads them to sin. He mixes things that are acceptable with things that are not acceptable, and mixes truth with falsehood. He comes to each person through something that is suited to him. So a woman who likes music will be attracted to singers; as for the woman who loves Islam and is religiously committed, there are men who love that too. There is a trick for everything.
Beware of any contact with this young man to whom your heart has started to feel an attachment. Do not ask for his number or try to get in touch with him for in a case such as this, that is the door to temptation. We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
As for praying for him, there is no harm in that. But as for giving charity, do that on your own behalf, because you are more entitled to all hasanahs and your record is more in need of them:
“That Day shall a man flee from his brother,
35. And from his mother and his father,
36. And from his wife and his children.
37. Every man that Day will have enough to make him careless of others”
[‘Abasa 80:34-37]
Beware of feeling safe from the tricks of the accursed one, or of trusting your own strength to rid yourself of something to which you have opened the door deliberately. How many have there been before you who thought it was just a game, but it soon ended. It is no more than steps that lead to a path from which it is impossible to turn back. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan). And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan), then, verily, he commands Al Fahsha’ [i.e. to commit indecency (illegal sexual intercourse)], and Al Munkar [disbelief and polytheism (i.e. to do evil and wicked deeds; and to speak or to do what is forbidden in Islam)]. And had it not been for the Grace of Allaah and His Mercy on you, not one of you would ever have been pure from sins. But Allaah purifies (guides to Islam) whom He wills, and Allaah is All Hearer, All Knower”
[al-Noor 24:21]
Learn from those who came before you, and may Allaah protect us and you from becoming a lesson for others.
A wise man said: I do not know of any truth that resembles falsehood or any falsehood that resembles truth more than love. Jokes concerning it are serious, serious talk concerning it is a joke. It starts as a game and ends in ruin.
We ask Allaah to protect you and take care of you, and to help us and you avoid temptation, both obvious and hidden.
And Allaah knows best.

Islam Q&A

 

[islamisthesolution]

aoa, personally i think people who fall in love over the net are wierd. how can you fall in love without meeting somebody in person??? textual conversation is soul-less

jazaka Allahu khyar
i am totally with you plus how can i be sure that he is not one those who say sometnig and do other things

Allah says

[142] Verily, the hypocrites seek to deceive Allâh, but it is He Who deceives them. And when they stand up for As-Salât (the prayer), they stand with laziness and to be seen of men, and they do not remember Allâh but little

and

[67] The hypocrites, men and women, are from one another; they enjoin (on the people) Al-Munkar (i.e. disbelief and polytheism of all kinds and all that Islâm has forbidden), and forbid (people) from Al-Ma'rûf (i.e. Islâmic Monotheism and all that Islâm orders one to do), and they close their hands (from giving (spending in Allâh's Cause) alms.). They have forgotten Allâh, so He has forgotten them. Verily, the hypocrites are the Fâsiqûn (rebellious, disobedient to Allâh).

and

[73] O Prophet (Muhammad (peace be upon him))! Strive hard against the disbelievers and the hypocrites, and be harsh against them, their abode is Hell, - and worst indeed is that destination.

and those of course i ask them to fear Allah
Allah says
"[68] Allâh has promised the hypocrites; men and women, and the disbelievers, the Fire of Hell, therein shall they abide. It will suffice them. Allâh has cursed them and for them is the lasting torment."


and i say to you sisters be ware of those hypocrites those who say things and do ooposite

may Allah protect us from fitnah

i really want to thank you so much brother for posting this thread
:salam2:

 

[Muslim18]

:salam2:

subhanallah i hope Allah forgives us all if we have done it i find it helpful to check my lil bros and cousins msn list if i see one girl i say delete because i dont even want an opportunity of chatting with her to come in i suggest those who have younger siblings and children to check regularly lol they seem to pop up every couple of weeks May Allah guide us all and keep us from this fitnah ameen