muslim husband and crestin woman/aloud?

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    Hello
    My name is Ana Maria and am crestin from Romania, my boyfrend he is a muslim and he is from India. We are toghater for more then tree years and we are saying all the time that we will get married, but every time problems come, from me, from him, from his family. I want to get married with him but to keep my religion, not to change it, at least not at the begining, after i will belive in islam i will not have any problem to chang my religion, but for the moment i dont belive, i still belive in my religion, crestin religion.
    But for him, he want to get married with me just after i will change my religion, he knows that in islam is not aloud a muslim-crestin marrige, he never read Quran so far but he knows all the ruls and everything, he is a verry good muslim guy. I was reading about muslim religion and i find out that this marrige is aloud but to respect some of the islamic rules.
    I am also agree to married him now, but i can not belive in this religion yet, and he is not agree with that. he is saying that a person need to change his religion if is belive, not if you need to, for some reasons. I know tahat i will belive in future, but i dont know how to make hime understand that he is aloud to have this marrige, muslim-crestin marrige, at least for the start of our life toghater.
    Thank you
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    hello sister.how are you.hope you are doing fine.first of all any marriage with non-muslim is not allowed according to Allah's rule.but certain country like India do allow this kind of marriage and it is legal.but again,all of us going to surrender to Allah.He is the only one to judge us later on.we live this life according to Allah's rule ..not according to the man's rule because Allah is the one who created us,the universe as well as Jesus.i hope i have answered your question regarding the marriage.
    secondly,i do respect that you are faithful to your religion.but it is too bad that you are doing the right thing at the wrong place.i advice you to read on the quran translation in English.you may take your time in believing islam but you have to know one thing,time doesn't wait us and anything might happen to us anytime.perhaps it id Allah's will that you are here at TTI.alhamdulilah.
    i myself is a revert and i just can't explain in words the wonderful life i am having after converting to islam.now i am happily married to an egyptian and have a beautiful son.this is all because of Allah.
    Allah is very fair.He gives everything to non-muslim in dunia(in this world) but they won't get anything in Hereafter.many muslims might suffer in this world right now for example muslims in palestin.but Allah has promised Jannah(heaven) to those obeys Him.Hereafter is the eternal happiness that all of us are searching for but with different method.please believe me that you are just a few step away towards islam.Allah is always there for you no matter what.He is the one who always forgives us .only the chosen one will be able to convert and i hope that you are one of them.sister,if u love your Jesus,than convert to islam because Jesus himself obeys Allah.plz consider being a muslim before it is too late.there is nothing to lose but more to gain.i wish you all the best.all of us will pray for you.take care.bye for now.
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    Men can marry the ahlu Al-kitaab(christians&jews) but the women can not marry non-muslims.
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    yes you are right but only if the prson believe that Jesus is a prophet and Allah is the God.and of course this rule applied long time a go when things were the same.but these days the christinity concept is totaly different from islam.and they believe that Jesus is the God.perhaps Jews can be accepted because they believe in Allah but they can't accept that Muhammad pbuh has been chosen as the last messenger.anyway,better play safe not to take the risk of marrying someoen who doesn't know islam because we want someone who can guide us on the right path.
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    Assalam alaykoum my sister Ana Maria,

    I feel sorry for you being trapped in such a relationship. When you say that your boyfriend and yourself have been together for 3 years, i can tell you forsure that it is forbidden for him (as a Mulsim) to be having you as a girlfriend.
    You both may get to know each other, but not stay as a couple and he should decide to get married with you. He is allowed to marry as you said you are a Christian.
    But i am afraid that he might not know enough about ISLAM and therefore you might be misleaded, as you say he never reads the Qur'an and the fact that he has been with you shows that he isn't afraid of Allah. You might love him and no one can change that but do think about your life, how can you accept someone who has been an hypocrite for the past 3 years, i hope he will change insha'Allah, but for the time being i hope that you will find guidance and may Allah help you to understand Islam, as i doubt you'll learn anything from your boyfriend. I hope i did not offend you. Good Luck Sister!
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    Hello
    I 'm sorry If I may hurt you with my words ,but your boy firend is NOT a good Muslim ,as You saying he is ..
    It is completely forbidden to have relationship out of marriage .

    #2 He is either ignorant or he is lieing to you ..It is allowed for a muslim man to marry a Christian woman .He has to marry you regardles of that and not to mess up your life like this...

    I'm sorry its just making me angry when I hear Muslim men behave in such bad way with non-muslim women ...

    I'm not sure if you noticed,we have Romanian section on this site ,you can find more information there .
    http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=146

    Please forgive me if I offended you in anyway ,I just can't see injustice like this ...This man has to marry you or leave you ,or he will continue promising you and you will only loose your time with such a person ...
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    Some scholars say that this is only allowed when you are in an islamic state as there are more chances of the kids being raised as Christians. Same thing about eating the meat slaughtered by Jews/ Christians

    Allah knows best
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    Agreed 100% with sister AishaAnastasia.

    He can surely marry you. Marriage between a Muslim man and a Christian women is allowed in Islam. What is not allowed is fornication and sex without wedlock. He needs to fear Allah and repent ASAP.
    :wasalam:
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