In your posts it seems like your wife's weight is a problem for you, although you may not imply this directly to your wife, maybe your wife sees this in your manner towards her. This could make her feel bad about herself .. Believing she cannot live up to your ideals as a wife and if that is so then how can you love her the same. I really think you need to ask yourself how much you love your wife as the person she is.. Inside.. Not her appearance... Make up, new clothes and hair cuts are not the answer if a person feels low self esteem in their heart. Any fix of that nature can only be temporary. Your wife needs to understand where her true beauty is... You can help her find that. Instead of talking to people on a forum talk to your wife.. Explain how you feel, ask her how she feels and listen to her answers. All marriages are hard work at times and it takes effort from both parties to make it a success. If the love is there no problem is insurmountable. Blessings.