salam aleikum wa rahmatulahy wa barakatuh
I wonder if anyone alse feels like this: i tryed to keep one friend from since i was not muslim, just one, but even with her i dont feel so comfortable anymore, not to mention others that i never spoked with them,
This because i have prayer times that may be when we meet, she does not, so we have different scheduals...she may say something about music, i dont listen music, she brought me cakes and this was nice, but i dont know what exactly she puts in them, sends me happy birthday but i dont celebrate it....and so on...i hope that inchallah i dont do anything wrong, but i feel in my heart that it just can be a good friendship when we are so different...instead i have a revert friend and i feel is a blessing when we get some time togheter, alhamdullilah...
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As salam 'alaykum
I know sister, today's social system is not designed for us, Muslims. specially in non muslim countries, i can easily understand how hard it could be for our brothers and sisters.
I can jump at my muslim brothers' place, to a musallah (mosque, merely just praying room, because the big mosque is closed, only widely open in friday) to pass time. so I can understand, how hard it could be for a muslim sister, to get involved in Islamic environment and discussion, practices. subhan Allah. Isbir ya ukht, just have patience. Indeed Allah will not burden His slaves with what he/she can't bear.
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to All:
I don't know about other societies or culture, but where i live, it is quite impossible to have a friend here, now it comes actually what is friend means then!
if it is just class mate, hi hello friends, sharing study materials and exchanging emails, then i have. at best may be having a cup of tea or coffee at best with same gender.
but for other things, hamdu li Allah i don't have any. and i don't want even.
because here i've got class mates from every country of Europe and for them friendship is partying, clubbing, pubbing and drinking even it is a normal meeting. and discussion, audhubillah, the main topic of boys discussion is either girls or who had whom last week or night, and whose next and alcohol and bashing other cultures. [this doesn't mean that i had conversation like this, but i can hear those when i'm sitting]
and i don't want to disclose other things, because not only they are sick to tell, but also to imagine even. and seriously they know no bounds.
whenever, i think about them (kuffar in general) i don;t know whether i should feel pity for them or should get angry because of the violation of God's law. but very frequently I thank Allah that He has blessed me with Islam, alhamdu li Allah. Alhamdu li Allah, alf marrah.
that's why i neither go with them, not in anytime [truly speaking, i don't go to lectures even, only for exams and others needs, mandatory things], friendship is far. nor i bash them as long as they are not at me to bash me or my deen.
wa-llahu a'lam
these days, even hard to maintain muslim friends, and we are discussing about non-muslim friends, subhan Allah
no offence to anyone, just i was explaining my side, because, very few people are here with whom i can share and continue my discussion beyond greetings, it is about level of thinking and manner.
may Allah help us to understand His religion for the betterment of ours, in the dunya and the akhirah
wassamanun 'alayka
said: “Do not be friends with anyone but the believer and do not let anyone eat your food but one who is pious.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2395); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. 
