ShahnazZ
Striving2BeAStranger
:salam2: I hope you're all doing well,
I'm so broken up right now I have no idea how I'm going to write about this but I guess coming out with it right away is the only way. Barely 3 hours ago, my father issued 3 talaqs to my mother and told her to leave the house. I hated seeing my mother so broken up as no one likes to see their mother crying over the end of a 23-year marriage. She really is the most religious woman I know and she knew that she could no longer stay a minute longer in this house because she was now technically no longer his wife. So while my brother, sister, and I clung together, we watched her brother come to pick her up (he had no idea what was going on). I originally wanted to go with her but my sister wanted to see if we could try to reason with our father.
I truly believe the damage has been done. 3 talaqs are what it takes and he repeated them one after the other. Yes, he was angry but he was in his right mind and I'm guessing this is definitely equalling a divorce. Although I have a million complaints against him my main question now is: What do we do now? I mean I'm 21 so it's not like I can't handle my parents splitting up but where does my mother go? My father refuses to leave the house and he made it clear he doesn't want her to come back. Even if he regrets saying that in the morning (which he might), the fact that he issued 3 talaqs is now fixed and he can't take it back. And no she's not going to marry someone else just so that she can marry him again. So what do we do? Who do me and my siblings stay with? Where does my mother go? The only relief I get out of this is the fact that this is happening to me now and not when I was a child because then I would have been inconsolable. As an adult, a small part of me is broken but a larger part of me understands that it was inevitable.
In the end it's just Allah for us and I pray he takes care of both of them. :tti_sister:
I'm so broken up right now I have no idea how I'm going to write about this but I guess coming out with it right away is the only way. Barely 3 hours ago, my father issued 3 talaqs to my mother and told her to leave the house. I hated seeing my mother so broken up as no one likes to see their mother crying over the end of a 23-year marriage. She really is the most religious woman I know and she knew that she could no longer stay a minute longer in this house because she was now technically no longer his wife. So while my brother, sister, and I clung together, we watched her brother come to pick her up (he had no idea what was going on). I originally wanted to go with her but my sister wanted to see if we could try to reason with our father.
I truly believe the damage has been done. 3 talaqs are what it takes and he repeated them one after the other. Yes, he was angry but he was in his right mind and I'm guessing this is definitely equalling a divorce. Although I have a million complaints against him my main question now is: What do we do now? I mean I'm 21 so it's not like I can't handle my parents splitting up but where does my mother go? My father refuses to leave the house and he made it clear he doesn't want her to come back. Even if he regrets saying that in the morning (which he might), the fact that he issued 3 talaqs is now fixed and he can't take it back. And no she's not going to marry someone else just so that she can marry him again. So what do we do? Who do me and my siblings stay with? Where does my mother go? The only relief I get out of this is the fact that this is happening to me now and not when I was a child because then I would have been inconsolable. As an adult, a small part of me is broken but a larger part of me understands that it was inevitable.
In the end it's just Allah for us and I pray he takes care of both of them. :tti_sister: